I’m so glad I’ve got daughters instead of a son

[FfsBrian]

Because fuck me Mils get a hard time on here.

I wouldn’t be able to see any born grandchild with in the first few weeks - never mind hold them.

I wouldn’t be able to buy my son anything nice

Son wouldn’t be able to see me on mothers day

And god forbid I’d want to see my son on Christmas Day!

My son wouldn’t be able to talk to me if he was upset/stressed with his partner

I’d be scared to death of upsetting Dil incase I never seen my son or grandkids again.

However when any grandkids reached toddler stage and mum wanted a break I’d be expected to look after a child at the drop of a hat I’d not been allowed to try and forge a bond with.

😬😬😬

You need to read the threads about all the toxic mother & daughter relationships…

I have one deceased MIL and one living ex MIL. They were both lovely and I miss them both.

I have a son so hopefully I can shape up when the time comes.

I love my MIL. I have a distant and polite relationship with my mother.

HTH

I’m glad I’ve got both - that way, I’ve learned not to buy into stereotypes.

I have a lovely ex mil too! She was more upset than me when her son and I separated 😄

Works both ways.

dh’s family wrecked their relationship with him when they opted to maintain their relationship with his ex after she cheated on him.

they didn’t want to risk her stopping them seeing their grandchildren.

instead they lost their son, and helped her alienate the kids.

I know more daughters who are NC with their mothers as adults than I do sons.
So don’t be too smug!

I love my MIL. She was the first person to meet my first baby. I make sure my children have a deep relationship with her and my FIL and maintained that even when I wasn’t together with their son. I’m cooking Christmas dinner for her and FIL (and ten others) and they will sleep in my bed whilst we get the pull out sofa. We see her every Mother’s Day. I buy her a happy Mother’s Day to grandma card from the kids, which is hard for me to buy because my own mother is dead.

Smug about what?

I have a DS. I don't give a flying fig about anything you mentioned. I refuse to tread on eggshells around anyone.

My mother had a daughter. She never met my children. No way.
My late MIL was a great part of our life. I loved her input to our family.

@FfsBrian I see what you mean. Reading some of the threads on here can make you think this way 😢 I have a good relationship with my MIL and never limit her contact with my children. But as a mum of boys I do worry sometimes what it will be like when they have their own little families...

Women who have a great relationship with their MIL rarely post on the internet looking for support about it, so you won't get a representative view on here.

To be fair about 4 of those threads were started by the same batshit DIL.

I hope that’s the case. I’ve been on here 11 years and tbh I think it’s gotten worse.

I do feel sorry for Mils sometimes as a lot of the posts are basically just a power struggle

😁

Get on fine with my MIL. Met my 2nd DD the day after she was born (1st was a lockdown baby). She's come and helped me with the children when my husband has been away. We invite her on days out, include her in the children's milestones. You are right though, there are some bat shit MIL threads on here x

What a load of fucking nonsense.

I am a MiL and can assure you that this all bollocks.
HTH

This.

My Dd MIL is lovely and we were both at he hospital when our gorgeous grandson was born. We both see our grandson regularly and my DD loves her.

I think you only read about the bad relationships on here not the good ones.

SirChenjins · Today 23:04
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I’m glad I’ve got both - that way, I’ve learned not to buy into stereotypes

Hear, hear. What a goady thread.

Do mothers of girls not become MILs then?

Your title

I’m so glad I’ve got daughters instead of a son

Then Implying if you had a son you might lose them to a DIL, but with daughters you are safely going to remain in their life.

It's just MN. Same people who sob about dogs, Halloween, Bonfire Night, Christmas, and seasons turning.

I love my MiL. She's in Norway and she's bloody brilliant. Speaks to the kids most days (sorted out by DH, I might add), and I've got her into Call the midwife. She's obsessed with Dr Turner, I love her. 😂