Husband isn't happy I have booked a weekend in Blackpool...

[ringsingling]

Next weekend he said he fancied going away in the UK for two nights.
I asked him where he fancied and he's words were "I don't care ,just a nice break with you "
We haven't been away since July when we went to Cyprus so thought a little trip was a nice idea.
I looked at Edinburgh and hotels were so overpriced
Found a b&b in Blackpool for £130 for two nights with breakfast.
Reviews said it was nice.
Obviously it's a no frills b&b but I don't care.

I used to go to Blackpool every year with my mum and she passed away when I was 13 (now I'm 30) and honestly it was the place with all my happy memories.
I know the back is run down now but I thought it would be nice.
I found a couple of nice bars -bloom bar and beach club or beach bar.

Anyway told husband and he isn't happy
He said he didn't mind ...then I book and he's miserable

Is it that bad now ?
I just thought a couple of cheesy days
Maybe do madam tuzaards,the tower etc
I just want to go to remember my mum too,walk past the hotel we used to stay at.
It's still open

If he couldn't be arsed to book it himself and wasn't keen on what you came up with, then its your call.

But like@VenusClapTrap said, Blackpool though..... 😬

Blackpool is fine as a break with the kids but it's hardly a romantic couply night away. Especially with the mum stuff thrown in

If it's not too late to change, could you book St. Anne's or Lytham (which are far nicer to walk around) and just bus up to Blackpool for a couple of hours?

It seems you booked the trip because it was a cheaper option (there’s definitely a reason why that is!) and then are trying to sway the trip by the wonderful memories you made with your mum there. I honestly wouldn’t be feeling great about a trip to Blackpool but he was asked and said he didn’t care so that’s on him. If it’s left to one person you run the risk of someone not being happy with the place. However I do think you should have mentioned the place before booking.

“I know the back is run down now but I thought it would be nice.”

So your aware it’s run down, surely you can understand why he’s not happy

To be honest I'm with him, when I say I don't care, I mean somewhere decent but don't mind where, Blackpool i wouldn't visit if you paid me, it's ghastly, a "no frills" b&b's is dire in personal experience, not been back.

That said op, quite interested to be proved wrong, please report back

We live near enough it'd be a day trip ... apart from the zoo when dd was young, we only go to Blackpool for hospital visits. But on a nice weekend I'm sure you can have fun there if you take the right attitude with you, and can always go to St Anne's or Lytham.

Not sure why people are recommending the OP visits Southport ... it's a good hour from Blackpool and although it's quite nice not really much to do there.

Lytham St Annes is worth a trip on the bus. We do visit the Blackpool area for family every few years and St Annes or Lytham is much nicer.

Not sure why people are recommending the OP visits Southport ... it's a good hour from Blackpool and although it's quite nice not really much to do there.

i must admit I go for the bookshop.

If someone booked me Blackpool I wouldn’t go either regardless of whether I had expressed a preference for somewhere or not. There’s a definte middle ground between expensive hotels in Edinburgh and a no frills B&b in Blackpool. If sounds hideous

I think it's a bit odd before booking you didn't just say would Blackpool be okay with you? Or something like that, I mean it is pretty run down and not somewhere a lot of people would go, and I'm really not snobby at all when it comes to holidays but I don't think I'd choose to go there.

So he decreed that he fancied a weekend away but didn't want the hassle of organising so messaged you, his devoted secretary wife, saying "Please deal". And you've dealt but he's unhappy with the result.

Maybe tell him to raise it in your performance review at the end of the year?

He should have been more involved if he wanted a say over the location.

That said, I wouldn't want to go to Blackpool either.

Bloody hell, I have fond memories of going to Skeggie as a kid but I wouldn’t inflict a weekend there on my husband 😂. I mean, if he said ‘I don’t mind where we go’ I’d still consider potential locations within the parameters of things I knew he actually enjoyed, not throw in an absolute wild card.
Having said that, he should have been more helpful in deciding where to go.
Can you cancel?

As cruel and unusual punishments go, you've played a blinder here, OP. Never again will he be so passive in planning. Good work!

@ringsingling I think Blackpool is just so run down and has a really bad reputation, I wouldn't like to stay there for 2 nights

Maybe have a look at Keswick, it's so beautiful and there's plenty to do

York is also fantastic for a short break, we recently stayed at B&B York for our anniversary, we did a river cruise and the dungeons, it was fab!

You were never going to get him excited about the weekend away by booking a B&B in Blackpool.

Do you think you'd enjoy going on your own if you can't cancel? He's not going to be good company.

The Christmas lights should be on though, which might make it nice. Depending on how you feel about Christmas of course!

I have tried to recreate a holiday I liked as a child with my teenage daughter. Well, things had certainly changed in the 30 years since. She hated it and couldn't wait to get home.

Sometimes memories are best left where they are.

There are loads of nice places to see over the weekend. I assume you live in the north? Why not Northumbria, or York/Harrogate? Whitby?

Sometimes men are non-committal but that's ok, you find a nice place and tell him he's going. It's worked for my parents for 50 years😂

You are going to be shocked at just how much of a dump it is. A friend went recently and said it was like something out of a zombie film.....

You are never, ever going to get MN to be positive about Blackpool!

Yes it's run down but if you visited as a child it can be better nostalgic. There's still fun to be had if you embrace it for what it is 🤷🏼‍♀️

Your DH was being difficult, indecisive and no help whatsoever so it serves him right really. However, as he was looking for a romantic weekend away with you, I probably would not have chosen somewhere loaded with personal (rather than shared) emotions and memories. As for Blackpool itself, I think it is more than possible to have a fun break away with some nice meals out, a few cocktails and generally enjoy yourselves. It is still a popular holiday resort with restaurants and attractions and I think the illuminations will be on too. You're going for a weekend, not moving there, so I think some posters are being overly dramatic.

The illuminations have nothing to do with Christmas. They're there to extend the summer season and are usually turned off in November. This year, they'll be on until January though.

Hope you enjoy your weekend, tell him he’ll need to provide a bit more input next time as you didn’t realise you were supposed to keep making suggestions until you hit on something he fancied 🙄

Blackpool is awful.

I like Blackpool for what it is. A girls night out (hen do). An overnight stay with the kids when they were young, the lights, the slots and the funfair.

If my husband booked a weekend away for just the two of us I would not be impressed with Blackpool and I probably would not go.

However, I am not keen on Edinburgh either so I would not have been happy with either choice!

What about Lytham with a trip to Blackpool one afternoon?
Blackpool is great fun but not sure I could do two nights. It is rough.
If it's not refundable then embrace it, I think the nights will be the worst bit so see if there are any show you like to book. Fish and chips, tower, trip through the lights, walk on the beach, trip to Lytham or drive to a nice country pub. There is a nice spa at Ribby hall close by you could have an afternoon at.