Husband isn't happy I have booked a weekend in Blackpool...

[ringsingling]

Next weekend he said he fancied going away in the UK for two nights.
I asked him where he fancied and he's words were "I don't care ,just a nice break with you "
We haven't been away since July when we went to Cyprus so thought a little trip was a nice idea.
I looked at Edinburgh and hotels were so overpriced
Found a b&b in Blackpool for £130 for two nights with breakfast.
Reviews said it was nice.
Obviously it's a no frills b&b but I don't care.

I used to go to Blackpool every year with my mum and she passed away when I was 13 (now I'm 30) and honestly it was the place with all my happy memories.
I know the back is run down now but I thought it would be nice.
I found a couple of nice bars -bloom bar and beach club or beach bar.

Anyway told husband and he isn't happy
He said he didn't mind ...then I book and he's miserable

Is it that bad now ?
I just thought a couple of cheesy days
Maybe do madam tuzaards,the tower etc
I just want to go to remember my mum too,walk past the hotel we used to stay at.
It's still open

I'm honestly really excited
The illuminations are on
I really want to go to the tower ballroom (love strictly ) the sea life centre
A couple of nice cocktail bars
Some candy rock
I know people might hate it but it's right up my street
It's not like I would go every year but once every 10 years I'm game

Blackpool is terrible, after the last time when two drug addicts were comatose in the middle of the street I vowed never to return. The place is a dump and filled with scum.

We had a couple of days in Blackpool the year after covid when abroad travel hadn’t properly got going again. Admittedly it was midweek so the stag and hen crew weren’t in force but we had a good time. Both the south bit of the prom right down towards St Anne’s and the north bit towards Bispham are nice, it’s the middle bit thats a bit iffy. Can remember going in an ok pub near the pleasure beach with outside seating.
We got a tram up to fleetwood and had a wander round there for a bit and we’ve previously been to Lytham which was nice.
Honestly, go with an open mind, research best restaurants, it’s a couple of days so just make the most of it

Why would someone spend money on a good bar or hotel in Blackpool? It would quite honestly be a waste given the surroundings. About 90% of the country is more preferable to visit, you only have to look at the crime and health statistics of the local citizens.

It would probably be dead last in my list of places for a weekend away tbh.

Aww poor Blackpool. I go every couple of years with the kids, now teenagers. Dh stays at home.

The Tower is fun, we still love the circus. Still spend a fortune in the amusements. Stanley Park is nice, we go every time to see the model village. Yes it's old fashioned but you could say it's nostalgic. The kids like the Pleasure Beach

Stick to the tourist bits and you'll be fine.

And book somewhere to eat of an evening. Don't just wander around hoping to find somewhere nice. You'll just find drunks.

And finally, could you afford something a bit better than a no frills B&B? At least if you've had a good sleep and a decent breakfast you'll be in a better frame of mind to start your day.

Your issue is though that your DH doesn’t feel the same way. Maybe go with some girl friends instead?

Well played, @ringsingling - he’ll never leave the arrangements up to you again, will he?

On the one hand I applaud your decisive action when he wouldn’t give suggestions.

On the other, I would flatly refuse to go and would suggest you take a person you don’t like friend instead.

It was awful enough 25 years ago. I’d honestly rather declutter the garage and I’ve been avoiding that task for months.

Given your last trip was to Cyprus, I suspect he was blindsided by the choice of Blackpool. It sounds as if you are very eager to go and don't care that he isn't.

That was what I was about to suggest too. St Annes is really lovely That could be a good compromise. A nice hotel in St Annes and a trip at some point into Blackpool

A no frills b&b in Blackpool sounds (and probably will be) grim

He should have been more involved if he didn't want to go to specific places.

That said, I'd rather stay home than go to Blackpool I'm afraid. I used to go as a child and have been as an adult, and I'd be very unenthusiastic about going back again now, it's rough.

I'd (far) rather stay at home than go to Blackpool. I get that you asked him where he'd like to go and that he just said 'a nice break with you', but if you're married to him, presumably you know whether or not he'd consider a trip to Blackpool a nice break?

Or he could have actually put some effort into helping to pick somewhere.

Yes the Wetherspoons near the Pleasure Beach is bizarrely fancy!

I live 30 mins away and work in Blackpool but I’d never go there through choice!

That said, it’s your husband’s own fault for not getting involved in the planning.

'Malicious compliance' made me laugh.

I do have to agree that if he ain't arsed to engage with you on where he's actually up for going then he'll get what he gets. Blackpool is not my idea of a good time but then again I'm married to a man who books the worst surprise mini-breaks ever, and I'd 100% opt for Blackpool over some of the random vandalised town-centres/hellscapes we've ended up sitting in. At least, broadly speaking, it's a place some people do go for entertainment purposes. If he moans too much about this I am happy to provide a list of WTF Destinations That Will Make You Question Everything You Believed In.

@desperatedaysareover I want to know more about these WTF Destinations, please. My ILs have form for this - they've previous had weekends away in Kidderminster, Chesterfield, and Telford. Weird humans.

Sorry but if my other half booked a weekend in Blackpool he would be going on his own. Absolutely nothing going for it - rundown and grim. Is there anyway you could cancel the booking and go somewhere else? I would trade going just one night away somewhere nice for the two nights in Blackpool!

He said he didn’t care, so you chose. He can’t complain. It wouldn’t be my first choice either (or last choice tbh), but maybe your enthusiasm will rub off on him op. I hope you have a great time.

Yanbu.
He said he didn't care and it was up to you. Don't say something if you don't mean it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think you can compare hotel prices for Blackpool and Edinburgh, they are very different places.
If he's not happy, just go with a friend and choose somewhere you both want to go next time

What do you what do you mean? Are you saying it’s a long time or a short time? It seems a very short time to me to think of going away again.

I’m famously quite particular in my choices and I’ve also got happy memories of childhood trips and I’d happily go back. It’s only a weekend. Your DH is being a bit of a dick I think I’d suck it up in his position.

I’m with your husband, Blackpool is firmly on my been there done that will not return list. I definitely would have shown him your suggestion before booking.

That’s what I thought. July was only weeks ago. 😂

Irrelevant to having a good time.
I don't live in Blackpool but I do live in a seaside town full of drunks and alcoholics puking on the high street at 10am to quote someone on this thread. Lol
That does not stop holiday makers coming here in the summer and having a great time. Just hit the beach and stay away from the town centre.

Have a good time op he shouldn't of said he didn't mind and then backtracked 😉