I’ve been set up: Ex husband text my partner from a fake number

[W987654321]

I went on a hen do this weekend. I had to tell my ex husband to ensure he was ok to standby on Friday afternoon, in the unlikely event the school called if the children were unwell and needed collecting. (As I wasn’t going to be in the area as I was travelling to the hen do)

My current partner received a text from a random number Saturday morning (see the screenshot) to “alert him” that I had been unfaithful that night.

I came home today with my partner very upset and confused who showed me the message.

I spent the entire hendo with my girlfriends and didn’t even look or speak to another man.

I have been set up. And the only person it could be, is my ex.

Reasons I believe it to be my ex:

-The phone has no trace on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram etc which makes me think it’s a “throw away sim” he has bought for the purpose of sending this message.

-It does however link to Snapchat (with a username that suspiciously sounding user name- it’s the name of his dead dog).

-The phone is an android (ex only ever had android and hated apple)

-We called the number and it goes straight through to voicemail each time

-It’s Giffgaff. A network my ex used to use and encouraged me to use when we were together.

-The person hasn’t replied to his messages asking for more info.

Please help: is there anyway we can trace the numbers IP location or any other way I can prove it is my ex trying to set me up?

My partner believes me. But I still feel I want to give him some solid evidence.

I think silence is the only solution here.
As with most scenarios…If you’re not sure what to do next, just wait.
Either ex will say something or current partner will. Bingo.

Could it be a jealous friend from the hen do who sent the message?
I think your proof it is your ex is weak. It’s possible, but you don’t have enough evidence to accuse him. I agree with the greyrock advice.

I would reply with “Ok Craig” or whatever his name is. Actively name him.

so that he knows that when and if you have to take it further with evidence of harassment, this is in your pocket.

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Ignoring it would be best, but I'd be so tempted by the trap many PPs have suggested of pretending to go away again.

Would one of your kids or the school have given your partners number to the ex? He sounds manipulative and I'm guessing could've got it from anywhere if he had the right sounding story as to why he needed it.

Nasty man if it is him he might have thrown the chip away by now you could show up to his house and have your partner ring the phone from outside. It might not be him it could be someone trying to create drama for some reason. The snapchat could have been set up by someone that knows him if he bought a sim would he be that stupid to link it to an account.

@W987654321 Ok, fair enough. Yeah, how did he get your partner's number?
This seems really weird.
I'd say ignore it. I guess if it continues it could be classed as malicious communication, but with no number I'm not sure what police can do. They might make you save them which could be quite distressing.

You could I suppose get your phones/computers security checkedto see if there is anything that might allow your ex to access them.

I suspect a jealous friend

A few people saying they think it’s my partner who text himself. I really don’t think this is the case at all.

Mostly because of the fact that the fake number has a Snapchat account with the username of my ex’s childhood dead dog. It’s Giffgaff (his network of choice) and it’s an Android phone (he won’t ever buy apple). Too many coincidences.

How he got my partners number, it’s been a mystery to us. But a friend just said perhaps he got it from my partners very small, local business. (Hadn’t thought about that before but perhaps googling his name he has managed to find it)

Good observation! 😂 I hadn’t spotted that.

I agree, the proof is weak.

I was hoping someone might be able to advise a way of tracking the number. But it seems we can’t do that for sms messages. Only if it came from a computer unfortunately.

I did think about hanging outside his house and ringing the number. But it just goes straight to voicemail every time (even more reason it makes me think it’s a SIM card he’s bought purely for the purpose of sending this text, then taken it out his phone)

If this was reversed and my partner spent this much energy on I would assume they were cheating

It all sounds very childish, if happened to me I would move on and not mention it to anyone, as I won't have cheated I have nothing to worry about and would carry on in the mature way I am now

Can you set a trap by telling him you are going on a girls night out? See if he sends anything further when he is the only one that knows about it?

This is mad. Just forget about it? Why are you spending so much time worrying about it? I’d say you did actually cheat.

How do you know it's Android and Giffgaff? Or even that it's linked to Snapchat?

Is that something you can see on an Apple phone? I can't see any of that information on contacts on my Android phone.

Yes I am also wondering this. I've now checked my work Apple phone and I can't see a way of working that out from the contacts.

If the message is from your ex, then he is trying to hoover you back in, and its working. You are heavily invested in proving its him.
You need to stop caring who sent the message. You can't prove who it was, and there's no truth in it.

It shouldn't matter. Don't let other people into your relationship.

I'm guessing you can tell it's android because it isn't iMessage so not can't be apple - likelihood is it's android rather than some other provider.

If they'd called and it went to a standard voicemail, doesn't the GiffGaff one state it's a GiffGaff voicemail? Even if it doesn't overtly say it, it'll sound like the other GiffGaff standard voicemails which Op would know if her ex used it previously.

Put the number into Snapchat and it'll find the account.

As for finding the boyfriend's number when it's saved under his name, surely you'd just check her messages to find the ones that look like they're between a couple and then take the number from there?

It's all a bit nuts but not beyond the realms of possibility.

You presumably love and trust your bf. And he loves and trusts you, because when you told him you knew nothing about it he believed you, he didn't need proof. So let it go, don't say another word to your ex or your bf about it.

I would do this!! I'm more convinced it's your partner now to be honest.

if you put the number into most social media channels it links it to your profile. Android doesn’t have I message too

Ignore it- don't mention it- he'll be pissed as hell.
Do not give him that power over you.

THIS!!!