I’ve been set up: Ex husband text my partner from a fake number

[W987654321]

I went on a hen do this weekend. I had to tell my ex husband to ensure he was ok to standby on Friday afternoon, in the unlikely event the school called if the children were unwell and needed collecting. (As I wasn’t going to be in the area as I was travelling to the hen do)

My current partner received a text from a random number Saturday morning (see the screenshot) to “alert him” that I had been unfaithful that night.

I came home today with my partner very upset and confused who showed me the message.

I spent the entire hendo with my girlfriends and didn’t even look or speak to another man.

I have been set up. And the only person it could be, is my ex.

Reasons I believe it to be my ex:

-The phone has no trace on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram etc which makes me think it’s a “throw away sim” he has bought for the purpose of sending this message.

-It does however link to Snapchat (with a username that suspiciously sounding user name- it’s the name of his dead dog).

-The phone is an android (ex only ever had android and hated apple)

-We called the number and it goes straight through to voicemail each time

-It’s Giffgaff. A network my ex used to use and encouraged me to use when we were together.

-The person hasn’t replied to his messages asking for more info.

Please help: is there anyway we can trace the numbers IP location or any other way I can prove it is my ex trying to set me up?

My partner believes me. But I still feel I want to give him some solid evidence.

Tell him you are going on a girls weekend away another weekend when you are home with your partner and see if he tries it again

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How did ex get your boyfriend’s number?

I’d look a bit closer to home, it’s surprising how often people will receive “anonymous texts” that they’ve sent to themselves to start some drama

Just forget about it. Your boyfriend should see this is a weird set up situation as no bloke you had shagger would be arsed to message your boyfriend - how would they know his name? Why would they bother? How would they get into your phone etc etc.

Agree with this

Genius!

Gosh did they really? I am surprised the police took it seriously for you.
I have filed a report online for it. As I wanted to report it, incase other things sprout up in the future.

I think it would have been better to just ignore it. Your ex wants a reaction and now he has one from your partner. Don’t say a word to him about it. Dont give him anything.

This, absolutely. Plus if you just carry on as normal he is more likely to trip himself up eg questioning your kids to find out if his trouble making had the desired effect. So you need to ensure your kids know that everything is fine too. Maybe arrange a lovely family day out with your boyfriend and your kids, something a bit special that they can tell him all about when their dickhead Dad asks about you!

Not sure if someone might have said this but with an iPhone you can deactivate so that you don’t use iMessage to send messages. The default would be sms. So it could be from an iPhone btw.

@W987654321 Wait a minute - I’m confused. How do you know what apps are your this alleged burner phone you think your ex used to send your boyfriend the text? Or have I fundamentally misunderstood something?

Scrub that - just remembered you can do phone number searches on those apps. I don’t really use them very much, so forgot that!

Good point, I accidentally left my Google account logged in on my partner's phone when I borrowed it to check my emails once, and months later, I was confused by the search history, and realised that I could see his Google search history because I was still logged in on his phone until he logged me out on his phone, but Sanddunesandseashells is right, I often see the option to log out of other devices. Maybe check your phone for spyware or anything that he could've put onto your phone to enable him to track / hack your phone 😅
(Or I've been influenced by TV dramas / films) 😂

I’m pleased you did. I was going to suggest the police too.

they have access to data us normal people don’t.

@W987654321 that's great news. It's not ok for anyone to harass you or cause problems for you. Even if it turns out to be someone closer to home it's best to nip it in the bud

My first thought is what do you have your partner saved under in your phone? Because unless it's something like hubby, then how the hell would some random that doesn't know you have a partner know you have one and that their name is what it is? Also how would they even get through phone security as they all have biometrics these days. If partner is not saved under some kind of lovey dovey shit then that alone is proof someone's causing shit.

If you have an opportunity act all loved up in front of the exh. That night egg him on again and perhaps expose himself somehow

Best response to a toxic narcissist ex? none whatsoever! They thrive on attention and anger/fear/anxiety. Dont give them any! Starve them of any attention or gratification for upsetting you or your bf. Be careful though, they will work hard to turn your children against you when they learn they cannot control you anymore.

Tell your partner you’ve decided to go to the police.

What did your partner say?

When you were with the x, did you have any family sharing activities on your mobile or laptop selected? I’m wondering if he still has access over your mobile device/s?

Yes. It also wouldn’t allow iMessages if the sim was removed or phone switched off.

Some ex’s hate you being happy and moving on!
as others have suggested.. in. Wouldn’t just log it with the police, I would call and ask to be put through to the malice communication department! Then leave it with them.
I would also be having a really nice day out with your DP & DC & posting some really fun pics on social media .. a mutual friend will be sure to share them with your ex 😂

Just ignore. He's a pathetic trouble maker who you're well rid of.

100 per cent was ex husband,I've actually done the same thing,my grammar is very good, so I would text like this...Instead of isn't it I would text innit or yeah instead of yes or what ever instead of maybe etc etc etc,hope this helps and good luck.