I’ve been set up: Ex husband text my partner from a fake number

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I went on a hen do this weekend. I had to tell my ex husband to ensure he was ok to standby on Friday afternoon, in the unlikely event the school called if the children were unwell and needed collecting. (As I wasn’t going to be in the area as I was travelling to the hen do)

My current partner received a text from a random number Saturday morning (see the screenshot) to “alert him” that I had been unfaithful that night.

I came home today with my partner very upset and confused who showed me the message.

I spent the entire hendo with my girlfriends and didn’t even look or speak to another man.

I have been set up. And the only person it could be, is my ex.

Reasons I believe it to be my ex:

-The phone has no trace on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram etc which makes me think it’s a “throw away sim” he has bought for the purpose of sending this message.

-It does however link to Snapchat (with a username that suspiciously sounding user name- it’s the name of his dead dog).

-The phone is an android (ex only ever had android and hated apple)

-We called the number and it goes straight through to voicemail each time

-It’s Giffgaff. A network my ex used to use and encouraged me to use when we were together.

-The person hasn’t replied to his messages asking for more info.

Please help: is there anyway we can trace the numbers IP location or any other way I can prove it is my ex trying to set me up?

My partner believes me. But I still feel I want to give him some solid evidence.

actually. zero further response at all.
is crap if now has partners number tho. is it a helluva hassle for him to change it.? cos that be best-caancel all accessible routes to stupid games.

Get your partner to text back saying sorry to hear that.. because the sender'd better get an STI test as you're both "riddled". And then invite him to watch the next time you're dogging, "the more the merrier!"

Sorry to be crude but he deserves something utterly ridiculous

yeh, it can onlyl be him, that's why he's written in bad english.

Set a trap, give him a few weeks then tell him again you are going away again for another hen do (don’t tell anyone else what you are doing) then see if it happens again

That was my first thought, too. Is it possible that is what happened?

i agree this would be a zero reaction from me.

Although he’s already has a reaction from your partner. why did your partner respond the way he did? Mine’s would completely ignore that in respect of the sender and only mention it to me as he would know it was obv nonsense or a joke.
But your partner responded to it asking for info and saying he felt sick.

That's a GREAT response!

my x once got my new number from the label of my son's anorak.

I don't understand how he would have your bf's number...

Did any of the girls you were away with have an agenda?

Colleen, dat you?

i would send ex this text:

Thanks for being on standby Friday.
I know it's cheeky but BF just announced he wants to take me on a romantic weekend away - are you feeling flexible about dates? No worries if not, we can postpone.

A loud message that his attempt at sabotage was so pathetic, it's not even on the radar

Don't do this. You'll waste their time and they really won't be interested.

Just tell him to block the number if he hasn't already.

I also think this could be from your boyfriend. His "response" doesn't sit right.

My ex has gone through the kids phones to get my ex's number would that be possible?

Give it a while, let him forget this happened, create a fake Snapchat profile, sexy name/icon and you will discover that it's him.

I think it is suspicious that someone who spells nite/mite incorrectly would use apostrophes appropriately as they are often mis used and to me that makes it look like the spelling has been done deliberately

Could your phone still be linked to something your ex owns (like still logged into computer or an iPad?). Maybe log out of everything before logging back in on your phone. I wouldn’t contact him. When you do the drop off of the children I would make sure you’re looking fabulously happy and loved up and sparkling and fresh. If he has done this then you looking so happy will infuriate him and be the best resolution.

Are you sure it wasn’t your current partner texting himself. That he faked it, so he could challenge you on being faithful

surely your friends can vouch for you. What more evidence do you need?

it’s a difficult one but either your partner trusts you or he doesn’t. I wouldn’t get into elaborate games with your ex such as baiting him to send more messages. Your partner just needs to be on board with trusting you and ignoring those text messages and not entertaining any future text messages.

I don’t think this works because OP’s partner has entertained the texts so is clearly concerned

@PizzaPastaWine this covers it www.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/sh/stalking-harassment/what-is-stalking-harassment/

This kind of abuse can escalate very quickly and should never be minimised.

By any chance was your boyfriend at all unhappy/stressed/worried/jealous about you going on the hen do in the first place?

Why? Why would she do that? Why would she pretend to conspire with her ex against her current partner? He might be a prat but I doubt he's completely stupid and would immediately know he's being set up if hisex, who obviously doesn't like him very much, suddenly started confiding in him something she didn't want her partner to know,

OP, please don't play any of the silly games being advised here. It might be well meaning advice but it works on the assumption that your ex is a reasonable person who will be suitably embarrassed and getting caught out and think twice before doing it again. No. That doesn't work with people like him. He will twist and turn this to make you be pathetic and needy and paranoid. He will ridicule you and your relationship. He will insult you, your partner, your friends on the hen. He will come out on top, always. Because he will keep fighting/arguing.needling/denying until you give up.

For your own sanity do not engage. At all. Your only contact should be with regards your children. Nothing else. Leave it at that. Anything else is playing in his hands, exactly what he wants.

That’s what I’m thinking, that the current boyfriend sent it to himself.

Why would your partner even engage in such a juvenile chat. This is like playground games. Not enough eye rolls.