I’ve been set up: Ex husband text my partner from a fake number

[W987654321]

I went on a hen do this weekend. I had to tell my ex husband to ensure he was ok to standby on Friday afternoon, in the unlikely event the school called if the children were unwell and needed collecting. (As I wasn’t going to be in the area as I was travelling to the hen do)

My current partner received a text from a random number Saturday morning (see the screenshot) to “alert him” that I had been unfaithful that night.

I came home today with my partner very upset and confused who showed me the message.

I spent the entire hendo with my girlfriends and didn’t even look or speak to another man.

I have been set up. And the only person it could be, is my ex.

Reasons I believe it to be my ex:

-The phone has no trace on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram etc which makes me think it’s a “throw away sim” he has bought for the purpose of sending this message.

-It does however link to Snapchat (with a username that suspiciously sounding user name- it’s the name of his dead dog).

-The phone is an android (ex only ever had android and hated apple)

-We called the number and it goes straight through to voicemail each time

-It’s Giffgaff. A network my ex used to use and encouraged me to use when we were together.

-The person hasn’t replied to his messages asking for more info.

Please help: is there anyway we can trace the numbers IP location or any other way I can prove it is my ex trying to set me up?

My partner believes me. But I still feel I want to give him some solid evidence.

Why does it say 'texting with anom' instead of anon?
Surely the phone software isn't dyslexic?
Someone's mocked something up...

It doesn't matter that your partner replied. He's going to want to get a reaction from you @W987654321 . Don't give him one. Don't react in any single way. You know it was him. You don't need to prove it. Any proof is just you proving to him that you know it was him. You don't need to do that. He's never going to admit that so you're going to end up frustrated listening to him lying and making fun of you and your relationship.

Why would you give him the time and opportunity?

It really shouldn’t be such a big deal - why don’t you both ignore it?

This sounds exactly like the type of things my ex used to do. I hope your dp realises and believes you and doesn’t have a slight bit of doubt.
with the ex - do not respond in any way. Wait a week or so and say you are away again. Tell the kids you’re going out and ask the ex to be on standby to pick them up early or something like that so only he knows and the kids (in case he asks them if mums out with out dp)
He might do it again.

Big hugs as I’ve been there and it’s not nice, he is just clinging onto any form of control that he can do to your life.

Exactly. It doesn’t make sense.

but equally, I don’t know how my ex got my partners number from.

Your ex is a sick bastard and I see why he is your ex.
I like @CormorantStrikesBack idea.

as long as your partner believes you, and that 100% nothing happened on the hen do, then do nothing! ignore it.. block the number.. don't waste anymore time and effort on it.

Just ignore, your partner believes you. You have nothing to prove. Leave your ex wondering…

Urgh people. A friend of mine did this to me a few years ago and caused huge drama with me and DP.
I know you probably want to do or say something but rise above. Your husband might be suspicious but he will trust you over this random and your ex will give himself away soon enough by asking too many questions like my “friend” did.

I'd text back...

Not my bird mate. She bullshitted her dumb ass ex that she saw at a hen party last night so we could have a romantic night without the kids.

Then wait for your actual phone to blow up!

Oh, well spotted! Chances are the poor spelling was replicated in the fake text too.

Do absolutely nothing. Don't let on you've spent even a second thinking about it. It'll annoy him more thinking you don't care and will surely give himself away sooner rather than later.

I would feel like trying all of these ploys to catch him out but honestly the best thing to do is completely ignore it.

I would imagine he has your boyfriend’s number off the kids phone/tablet whatever.

Wise move.
Leave him guessing as to your reaction. Act as if nothing has happened but find out all you can about his intrusion into your IT. Even get advice on how to protect yourself and save everything in case it escalates.

Ah, so how did this dude you shagged on the hen do know he is your bf?

The name could have been a work colleague, a tradesman, anybody.

Your ex isn't terribly bright, is he?

Could he have got partners number from children's phones?

This is good advice.

but equally, I don’t know how my ex got my partners number from

Does he ever have access to your phone?

Through your kids' phones?

Ignore the pathetic little man child. He’s trying to create drama…don’t play the game. In future don’t respond to any weird messages…unless you want to respond with ‘ex please get a life’…which I might be tempted to…but grey rock is best.

I’m torn, if he is doing this to hurt or control you the best reaction would be no reaction to show him his stupid games haven’t worked buuuutt I would also really want current bf to message “thanks for the heads up we’re over I can’t trust her”….. then wait to see if ex messages you or asks you anything about the break up because from the sounds of it he would be dying to hear about it

He could have had your exs phone number for ages and has been waiting for an opportunity.

Grey rock all the way. I understand why your bf replied but was the worst thing.

You know it doesn't matter what you do or say he won't admit it

Any response to this @W987654321?

He’s a nasty piece of work isn’t he! X

My partner saved the number to his phone under the name Anom. I guess it’s a typo for Anon

Ex could not be anymore obvious. Why would a one night stand go through your phone 🤷🏼‍♀️ / be bothered if you had a man in your life.

How does he have your current partners number?