I’ve been set up: Ex husband text my partner from a fake number

[W987654321]

I went on a hen do this weekend. I had to tell my ex husband to ensure he was ok to standby on Friday afternoon, in the unlikely event the school called if the children were unwell and needed collecting. (As I wasn’t going to be in the area as I was travelling to the hen do)

My current partner received a text from a random number Saturday morning (see the screenshot) to “alert him” that I had been unfaithful that night.

I came home today with my partner very upset and confused who showed me the message.

I spent the entire hendo with my girlfriends and didn’t even look or speak to another man.

I have been set up. And the only person it could be, is my ex.

Reasons I believe it to be my ex:

-The phone has no trace on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram etc which makes me think it’s a “throw away sim” he has bought for the purpose of sending this message.

-It does however link to Snapchat (with a username that suspiciously sounding user name- it’s the name of his dead dog).

-The phone is an android (ex only ever had android and hated apple)

-We called the number and it goes straight through to voicemail each time

-It’s Giffgaff. A network my ex used to use and encouraged me to use when we were together.

-The person hasn’t replied to his messages asking for more info.

Please help: is there anyway we can trace the numbers IP location or any other way I can prove it is my ex trying to set me up?

My partner believes me. But I still feel I want to give him some solid evidence.

Is it just me who isn’t too impressed with your boyfriend (a) replying in the first place and (b) saying he now feels sick?

Why did he even engage?

Have you swapped one idiot for another OP?

Absolutely. Silence is the greatest defence - pulls the rug completely from the sender.

But this is how your BF should have dealt with it as your ex now knows it landed.

Would ‘sorry, Victoria ( any other name than yours) has been with me all weekend. David’ ( any other name than your BF) be enough to make your ex think he has contacted a wrong number?

This.

It treats him like the absolutely idiotic, jealous twit that he is.

No games playing, just ''Look, we both know it's you, cut it out.''

@W987654321 I'm sorry your partner had to receive such a spiteful message.

HAD you been unfaithful, how would the person have even known you had a partner at home?

Or knew his name and number?

It's just not been thought out properly- Thankfully.

text back. Ok,Sams back. Now i know who you are-im coming for you.

ah i see...

And Google requires two factor authentication now as well (I think).

I would be looking closer to home than the ex because it just doesn’t make sense for the ex to do it. Are you sure it wasn’t your partner, OP?

Just ask the police for advice OP.

Bound to be red herring.

I caught out a cheating partner once by laying a trap- via a letter I got a friend to write something and it had to look totally different to the kind of thing I'd write- so we changed the style and used different terminology, just to throw him off the scent.

It worked!

My guess is that your ex was trying to use a different way of texting so you wouldn't suspect him.

What a scrote.

If you do actually have a unisex name like Sam, I'd be quite tempted to reply 'yeah, Sam said you loved his huge cock, & I enjoyed the photos...🤩'.

That should confuse the saddo quite nicely...

The ex isn't very bright, but neither is the partner if he actually replied!

I would just shrug and tell partner to reply to message with 'nice try'.

And then find another partner.

Could you tell your ex you’re away on another night, stay with your partner and see if another text is sent? Not that you should have to prove it

Nope, I think its odd as well.

This is such a good idea

It is more likely that your partner sent it to himself.

How do you know it's sent by a android just by the phone number?

maybe wouldn’t work now , as he’s already replied , but if he hadn’t replied already your DP should have text something back like “ you can have her , I’m sleeping with her best mate anyway “ and see how long it took for that to get back to you!

I wouldn't be happy with my DH responding in the way yours did tbh saying he felt sick not knowing and asking for more info. It gives the prankster/your ex the satisfaction he's caused some doubt.

As much as a lot of the suggestions sound very satisfying, I think your best option was complete ignoring. Unfortunately I think this would have been better if your bf had not replied at all, especially not in the desperate way he did.

Now your ex knows that he's caused problems even if he doesn't hear any more. At the very least he will assume he's caused an argument or driven a wedge.

The second best option I think is calling him out directly. But are you completely sure it's him? The only solid evidence is the dead dog name but how uncommon is it? Are we talking Rover or are we talking Augustus-Nathaniel III?

Do you have a lock on your phone op? If you do it's got to be your current BF and that is some scary manipulation.

I'd ignore it, don't give him the satisfaction of thinking he's caused you any problems.

I also felt it was current BF.
His replies show a level of desperation that he clearly wants OP to reassure.

Has he shagged around on a stag do and therefore expects OP to do the same on a hen?

Most fellas would respond with something. You'd want the juicy gossip!

If it's the ex, not mentioning it at all gives him a reason to start fishing for information and then sending another message next time you tell him you're going out.

If it's the partner, not telling your ex (but telling your partner you've told him) and going out will mean there will be another message.

You then either a) know it's the ex and ignore them because it's designed to split you up or b) know that your partner is as bad if not worse than your ex by making you feel scared he's still monitoring you and make decisions accordingly.