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This is another porn thing, isn’t it?

220 replies

Nastra · 02/01/2024 19:56

It’s not a problem really but it made me wonder because it was weird.
I believe my DP and I are generally fairly open with one another. I don’t mind if he initiates something while I am asleep and vice versa because we both wake up and only engage if in the mood. A while ago he asked me could I pretend to be asleep while he did things. I was ok trying it but it was actually just weird and boring at the same time and not my thing and nothing I need to do again.
Yesterday he asked if I’d ever consider taking a sleeping tablet so I’d sleep heavily and he could tell me the next day what he did. The simple answer is “no” because I think it’s kind of creepy plus the fact that I wouldn’t take any medication just for fun.
He was fine with that and agreed that he’d probably find it creepy too if it was the other word around, so I think this is settled but it made me wonder. I couldn’t think of anything less appealing and I wonder if many people actually do this? I assume it’s a porn thing that isn’t really done in real life?

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HowNice23 · 02/01/2024 20:04

That's very creepy and yes undoubtedly a porn thing. Don't blame you for the veto!

WhatdoIdoTree · 02/01/2024 20:05

Wtaf!!

LolaSmiles · 02/01/2024 20:06

It's weird and I'd seriously question what sort of man wants to perform sexual acts on someone who is sleeping and/or drugged.

fancyflower · 02/01/2024 20:06

No offence OP, but he sounds like a freak!Confused

sprigatito · 02/01/2024 20:07

My god, that is a disgusting suggestion and I wouldn't look at him the same way again. Ick, ick, ick. I'm so fucking fed up of reading about porn-addled, revolting perverted men.🤢🤢🤮

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Nastra · 02/01/2024 20:14

Thanks! I don’t mind him asking or suggesting stuff but that just seemed like a bit much.

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premiur · 02/01/2024 20:16

Oh god he wants to drug and sexually attack you. I don't think it matters much if he got this from porn or not. It would be a deal breaker for me.

EmmaEmerald · 02/01/2024 20:17

Run away before he kills you.

Grumpsy · 02/01/2024 20:22

Not sure if it’s a porn thing or not, i wouldn’t want to be anywhere near a man who likes this. It’s more than a bit rapey.

I’d be questioning whether he fantasises about going out, drugging women and raping them.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 02/01/2024 20:25

There was a movie about this -I think it is called Sleeping Beauties. I dont know if it is really based on real life, but in it, the young women are sedated and men pay. The only rule is no penetration, but the women have no memory the next morning fo what happened. I think the protagonist somehow finds a way to spy on what is happening.

C1N1C · 02/01/2024 20:27

Yeah, that's creepy.

Although (I apologise, but I couldn't resist)...

Do you talk a lot during sex?

premiur · 02/01/2024 20:29

Run away before he kills you.

This is a very real risk, as is @Atethehalloweenchocs post about having other men involved.

Honestly OP, you are in danger.

NameChangerGameChanger2 · 02/01/2024 20:30

I’d be seriously considering whether I ever wanted to have sex with him again, whether I could trust him and whether I wanted to stay in the relationship.

basically you tried similar once, you clearly didn’t like it, so he now wants to drug you into submission so he can act out some fantasy?

beyond weird, and I wouldn’t put it past him to drug you anyway, given he didn’t accept your earlier disinterest in repeating it.

Soapboxqueen · 02/01/2024 20:31
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WTAF

Jackiebrambles · 02/01/2024 20:32

Well that’s terrifying. Watch what you eat and drink when you are with him.

MoiraRosesOtherDaughter · 02/01/2024 20:32

Outlier here

But I don't think this would worry me. Plenty of people have rape fantasies. That's what it is - a fantasy, a taboo, it doesn't mean you truly want to be raped.

I think his thinking could be on a level like this - it's the taboo of it all. It could be a Dom thing for him.

I don't think it's a porn thing at all.

TookTheBook · 02/01/2024 20:32

How sure are you that he won't spike your drink now OP?

Alexavolumedown · 02/01/2024 20:33

So he wants to rape you basically?

verdantverdure · 02/01/2024 20:37

MoiraRosesOtherDaughter · 02/01/2024 20:32

Outlier here

But I don't think this would worry me. Plenty of people have rape fantasies. That's what it is - a fantasy, a taboo, it doesn't mean you truly want to be raped.

I think his thinking could be on a level like this - it's the taboo of it all. It could be a Dom thing for him.

I don't think it's a porn thing at all.

It's not a fantasy if you actually do it.

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 02/01/2024 20:37

it probably takes him back to the good oul days when he went around nightclubs with a supply of rohypnol.

Either he is a sick twisted pervert and you should run a mile, or he is too brain fried by pornography to understand that fantasy is just that and not to be tried in real life, in which case you should also run a mile.

premiur · 02/01/2024 20:38

MoiraRosesOtherDaughter · 02/01/2024 20:32

Outlier here

But I don't think this would worry me. Plenty of people have rape fantasies. That's what it is - a fantasy, a taboo, it doesn't mean you truly want to be raped.

I think his thinking could be on a level like this - it's the taboo of it all. It could be a Dom thing for him.

I don't think it's a porn thing at all.

What part of this is a fantasy? He is asking her to medicate herself ffs

Winnipeggy · 02/01/2024 20:39

He's basically saying he wants to do things to you without your consent. That's a massive red flag OP.

BelindaOkra · 02/01/2024 20:40

That’s grim.

Winnipeggy · 02/01/2024 20:40

MoiraRosesOtherDaughter · 02/01/2024 20:32

Outlier here

But I don't think this would worry me. Plenty of people have rape fantasies. That's what it is - a fantasy, a taboo, it doesn't mean you truly want to be raped.

I think his thinking could be on a level like this - it's the taboo of it all. It could be a Dom thing for him.

I don't think it's a porn thing at all.

He doesn't want to be raped, he wants to rape someone, and is actively trying to make it happen

Blueeyedmale · 02/01/2024 20:42

No absolutely wrong and worrying what a disgusting thing to suggest I'm concerned now he might indulge this sick fantasy on you or someone else without consent.

Very worrying and chilling.