Why are so many women afraid of going anywhere on their own?

[GeriKellmansUpdo]

That's the impression I get from many threads on MN anyway. Afraid of going out for a meal alone, going to a cafe alone, going to the movies alone, travelling alone, without a partner or friends. The reality is we are all going to be alone at some point in our lives.

If you are ND, this thread is not for you. Am talking only about NT women.

I agree with this. Utter nonsense to say that in 2023 a woman having a drink in a bar on her own would be likely to be thought of as a prostitute.

I’m happy to do most things alone. I often find myself in the middle of the forest thinking to myself no one knows I’m here and if someone were to kill me it would be ages before they found me. It’s just a musing though not a fear.

I wouldn’t go out for a proper dinner alone, mostly because I’d find it a bit weird, but happily go for coffee or fast food alone.

I’ll walk about at night just about anywhere on my own. I think I’m privileged to live in a fairly safe area where I don’t have to give these things much thought.

I don't understand people objecting to being "bothered" either. Isn't the whole point of going to the pub (with orwithout a friend) to socialise? If you don't want any contact other people, you can save a fortune and stay at home.

I recently spent a few days staying in a pub on my own and drank alone in the bar each evening. I had some short interactions with lots of people and some good chats with strangers. It's easy enough to get rid of the ones you don't want to talk to and the bar staff are always aware of what's going on in their bar IME.

Don't know where you lived but as a woman in her 50s i can assure you i never felt i was fair game, i have been going into pubs to have a drink or eat on my own since 1984. Never felt i was treated like a prostitute.

This is interesting- was reminiscing with some friends recently about the 90s and someone mentioned what a difference it made when AllBarOne arrived- before that it was genuinely difficult to sit on your own in a pub or bar without being hassled, but something about AllBarOne meant that you could do it no problem- maybe the fact it was light and bright inside, it wasn’t an old man pub not a sleazy bar. I’d completely forgotten about it but her bringing it up reminded me-there was a genuine shift in the 90s which made it much easier to have a drink on your own without getting hassled. Don’t know whether it was all down to AllBarOne as my friend suggested- more likely that was part of a bigger change.

Because many men are dickheads and because we can no longer trust the police.

I go all over the place on my own. I'm 65. Not foreign travel as I can't afford it. My dd 33 also goes to many places on her own. It"s funny sometimes because when she visits us her dad always asks her to text when she gets home. She does because she knows he worries. Quite what he'd do if she forgot I don't know, probably send me to look for her 😂😂
On the other hand DH never goes anywhere on his own, as he's aged and become unwell he doesn't seem to have any confidence.