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Condoms Found in travel Bag

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Mismisy · 12/08/2022 20:10

Hello I found 8 sealed condom
packets in my husbands travel
bag. I also found empty viagra bottle , he had used it when we were trying to conceive our 2 nd baby couple of years ago and maybe some Pills were left from those. his name was intact but the address was attempted to
be scratched out . When I confronted him he does travel once in a month or 2 he told me it's for his gay friend who is having some problems and he toldhim to try out this brand of condoms so he took for his friend but the friend did not show up to collect it. Initially he said bottle of pills were old and he discarded them on the way back while crossing the border back into the country from his work trip . I found he had ordered 2 packets of condoms and he showed me and tried to make the count that none were used to his defense . He has been a bit indifferent to me for past one year or so and 2 nd baby has addded to
the stress for sure . But I don't know if he is saying the truth or lying and I m going crazy as that's the only explaination he provided . Any advise ? Thank you

OP posts:
girlmom21 · 12/08/2022 20:15

It makes no sense to take viagra and condoms for someone else.

Given the fact you know he lied about the viagra, I wouldn't trust him.

sugarspiceplumfairy · 12/08/2022 20:18

He’s lying

Furrybutts · 12/08/2022 20:23

Sorry op, but men don't buy condoms for other men. He might send a link to them, but not buy them.

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mamatoTails · 12/08/2022 20:26

Sorry I wouldn't believe him.

homarr · 12/08/2022 20:35

Oh god. That doesn't sound good.

CornishTiger · 12/08/2022 20:36

Nope not buying it. Let him think you have though and get your ducks in order.

Mismisy · 12/08/2022 20:39

Also just to add none of the ordered condoms were used. When he showed me the other packet he had ordered the counts of condoms showed up he had not used them. Also we had not had sex after our 2 nd baby who is now 18 months old I have tried to initiate a few times but he has refused saying he is stressed or not in a mood ...so we never used condoms I last couple of years as we never got that far due to his disinterest and he told me when I found out his intention was to use the packets for us and hence he ordered and took a few for his friend to help him. My question is since the condoms were unused and the pills though expired were empty is it possible he used the pills on himself for some sexual
pleasure in the past months maybe some random flings or strip clubs I don't n is just guessing and was contemplating using condoms but did not just get to it yet . Is that a probability ?

OP posts:
MinorWomensWhiplash1 · 12/08/2022 20:39

He’s lying. Even if he didn’t go through with anything for whatever reason the intention was there. I would be ready to find out about another woman or sex workers. I’m so sorry OP.

girlmom21 · 12/08/2022 20:42

There's a very good chance someone else turned up with condoms - potentially even his gay friend.

Hyvsvaar · 12/08/2022 20:45

Go with your instincts on this based on your history together

Hairydogmummy · 12/08/2022 20:49

Doesn't sound good I'm afraid...but only you know your husband and the dynamics/situation etc.

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2022 20:53

My mum didn't believe, "I'm holding these cigarettes for my friend" 3 decades ago.

He's lying.

Annabananna1 · 12/08/2022 20:54

Obviously he's full of shit.

He took condoms but didn't end up using. Probably because the other person brought some OR they didn't use any at all (most likely IMO).

Really horrible for you to discover this but you know full well he is lying. And cheating. At the very least trying to cheat.

He scratched out the address for gods sake.

Look after yourself.

thefizz · 12/08/2022 20:55

He could be gay.

Aquamarine1029 · 12/08/2022 20:57

When I confronted him he does travel once in a month or 2 he told me it's for his gay friend who is having some problems and he toldhim to try out this brand of condoms so he took for his friend but the friend did not show up to collect it.

If you believe that utter bullshit I have a bridge to sell you.

winterchills · 12/08/2022 20:59

Sorry but I think he's definitely not telling the truth and has been up to no good.

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2022 21:01

I actually had condoms once in my bag after a trip away. It was a 'sexual health' day where I was teaching and I got given them. Because I don't want poor DH to get upset, I told him, showed him, also showed him the picture of the giant condom-dressed man giving them out.

I didn't hide them with viagra and get caught.

Anon778833 · 12/08/2022 21:04

thefizz · 12/08/2022 20:55

He could be gay.

I agree. Why else would gay be a part of the story? The truth often gets mixed with lies in scenarios like this.

UserError012345 · 12/08/2022 21:05

Liar, liar. Pants on fire.

velvetvixen · 12/08/2022 21:06

Anon778833 · 12/08/2022 21:04

I agree. Why else would gay be a part of the story? The truth often gets mixed with lies in scenarios like this.

Very likely gay, I agree.

Randomthoughts992 · 12/08/2022 21:25

more like his fling never turned up

Ponderingwindow · 12/08/2022 21:30

someone might pass along some old Viagra to a friend. It’s not supposed to happen, but it does.

no one would buy a friend condoms. He would just send him the link or the name in a text.

Luckymummytoone · 12/08/2022 21:32

I immediately thought gay too when I read this!

VanGoghsDog · 12/08/2022 21:35

I thought Viagra came in blister packs, not bottles?

AliceS1994 · 12/08/2022 21:39

Definetly lying, probably gay too