Condoms Found in travel Bag

[Mismisy]

Hello I found 8 sealed condom
packets in my husbands travel
bag. I also found empty viagra bottle , he had used it when we were trying to conceive our 2 nd baby couple of years ago and maybe some Pills were left from those. his name was intact but the address was attempted to
be scratched out . When I confronted him he does travel once in a month or 2 he told me it's for his gay friend who is having some problems and he toldhim to try out this brand of condoms so he took for his friend but the friend did not show up to collect it. Initially he said bottle of pills were old and he discarded them on the way back while crossing the border back into the country from his work trip . I found he had ordered 2 packets of condoms and he showed me and tried to make the count that none were used to his defense . He has been a bit indifferent to me for past one year or so and 2 nd baby has addded to
the stress for sure . But I don't know if he is saying the truth or lying and I m going crazy as that's the only explaination he provided . Any advise ? Thank you

My dear Op you are really losing a grip on reality if you think this is a sane thing to do. You want to contact a total stranger on social media and ask him about his condom use / buying habits !!!

It does NOT matter what evidence you get, your husband will lie his way around it. And you will be left more distressed and confused than ever.

There are women on Mn who find absolute proof that their husband shared a room with another woman while he was supposedly on a work trip. And the men come up with a story about she was just a mate / colleague who was locked out her room / she was dead drunk and not safe to be left alone / she was suicidal because her cat had just died.

I know a woman who found her husband has shared a room with another man (not required for work) and she accused him of cheating. He quite seriously told his wife that it wasn’t grounds for divorce as adultery as long as it was with another man and not a woman ( turns out he was right , although it is unreasonable behaviour ).

Even if you find a video of him and someone else having sex, he will attack you for somehow filming him . It will be your fault.

There is NOTHING that cheaters won’t lie and DARVO and gaslight you about.

He's having sex with the gay friend. He doesn't want sex with you because he's realised he's gay/feels too guilty knowing where his dick has been.

His friend had condoms and they used the viagra.

One crucial detail here is he has been depressed due to his job and career for past year or so . We conceived our 2nd baby 2 years back he was not so keen but he did it for my desire . He used Viagra during that time with me to help in conception. He quit his job last year beginning and trying to bootstrap his business and For past 18 months or so he refused sex sighting mental pressure and psychological trauma. Maybe he thought of a fling or maybe he did something I don't know but I really doubt he is gay . His gay friend that he mentioned has moved far away from where we reside he told me and I have verified that info. So I really don't think he is gay but maybe he had some one night stands or flings with someone I am not sure if that happened can't verify it as I have nothing in my hand.

Hey OP, apologies if I have missed this but are you from a culture where divorce and homosexuality would be frowned upon or not condoned? I say this very gently, and I don't want to upset you, but I genuinely do wonder if he is gay and masking this. The trips could be his way to be able to live out this side to him that he is otherwise suppressing. Sending you love and strength

Are the ‘work trips’ just visits to see his “friend” or is he actually doing paid work
as well?

Honestly why are you making excuses for him?

Mentionitis?

Sometimes when they talk about the friend a lot......maybe he doesn't