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Condoms Found in travel Bag

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Mismisy · 12/08/2022 20:10

Hello I found 8 sealed condom
packets in my husbands travel
bag. I also found empty viagra bottle , he had used it when we were trying to conceive our 2 nd baby couple of years ago and maybe some Pills were left from those. his name was intact but the address was attempted to
be scratched out . When I confronted him he does travel once in a month or 2 he told me it's for his gay friend who is having some problems and he toldhim to try out this brand of condoms so he took for his friend but the friend did not show up to collect it. Initially he said bottle of pills were old and he discarded them on the way back while crossing the border back into the country from his work trip . I found he had ordered 2 packets of condoms and he showed me and tried to make the count that none were used to his defense . He has been a bit indifferent to me for past one year or so and 2 nd baby has addded to
the stress for sure . But I don't know if he is saying the truth or lying and I m going crazy as that's the only explaination he provided . Any advise ? Thank you

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2boysand1princess · 12/08/2022 21:42

No idea if it sounds like he is possibly gay, but I’d never believe that story in a million years. So sorry OP 💐

NotStayingIn · 12/08/2022 21:46

I must admit I find the gay reference a bit odd as well. Why is that relevant? If it was relevant to the issue you'd think the gay friend would have asked one of his gay friends for advice.

Instead, the gay friend asked his straight friend, the one who hasn't had sex in 18 months. Right...

Liars often embellish. I wouldn't believe a word of this.

MondayMoan · 12/08/2022 21:46

Normally the obvious answer is the correct one. Don't kid yourself with random stories.

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LaurieFairyCake · 12/08/2022 21:49

Who cares about whether he used those specific ones or not

He bought them with the intention of fucking some one else - so it's over right ?

rahjama · 12/08/2022 21:49

Lying, lying, probably gay, but still lying.

Put · 12/08/2022 21:51

Lying, obviously. He's having an affair. The condom counting is nonsense, he could of used the other person's or no condoms.

SQLserved · 12/08/2022 22:10

girlmom21 · 12/08/2022 20:42

There's a very good chance someone else turned up with condoms - potentially even his gay friend.

This is what I was thinking.

I have, unfortunately, been cheated on a few times. The initial story is always something close to the the truth. In this case, it sounds like he is experimenting with his gay friend.

thenewduchessoflapland · 12/08/2022 22:15

Whether or not he's secretly gay/bisexual/pansexual or not or if he's actually cheated on you or not (yet anyway) he's at least open to cheating,he has the floppy dicked married man's cheater's starter kit with him.

Spookysparkles · 12/08/2022 22:21

I’m so sorry sweetheart, but this doesent sound good. It all just sounds a bit far fetched, and generally I find the simplest answer or most obvious answer- is usually the correct one.

DaphneSprucesPippasClack · 12/08/2022 22:22

He's lying his arse off.. Get your ducks in a row.

abovedecknotbelow · 12/08/2022 22:23

Please please don't believe the gay friend bullshit. What a tosser.

abovedecknotbelow · 12/08/2022 22:24

In fact I'm angry for you that he's even think you'd believe it.

Boreded · 12/08/2022 22:35

Defo lying about something. Sexuality or affair, who knows

Hawkins001 · 12/08/2022 22:45

Basically he's equipped for the possibility of a fling or an affair, @Mismisy

Fraaahnces · 12/08/2022 22:46

Is he gay?

GettingItOutThere · 12/08/2022 22:49

hes lying. get your ducks in a row - hes either sleeping with someone else or he thinks hes gay

Twocrabs20 · 12/08/2022 22:56

His explanation is not believable.

slowquickstep · 12/08/2022 22:57

OP don't lie to yourself. You will never ever trust him again so do yourself a favour and get rid of this liar.

blinder · 12/08/2022 23:07

Just ask yourself why you would take 8 condoms and sex pills with you in your luggage when you go away. They aren’t his friend’s. That’s the most childlike excuse ever.
Sorry OP. If he hasn’t cheated, it seems he was hoping to cheat.

Unforgettablefire · 12/08/2022 23:10

This reminds me of a man I was chatting to on a dating app a while ago.
He was married, dressing up in his wife's clothes and going to meet other men for sex. I asked him how his wife felt about it he said "she doesn't know she wouldn't understand" no shit!
He then asked if I wanted to come and watch guy on guy fun. I declined.

Be careful op.

Macaroni1924 · 12/08/2022 23:13

Why discard the viagra and not the bottle?

Nat6999 · 12/08/2022 23:13

I think he is having a gay affair. Don't say anything, do your detective work & get your ducks in a row. Watch for signs to confirm your suspicions, is he hiding his phone or can you get in it to look for messages or photos?

GG1986 · 12/08/2022 23:15

He's lying! This happened to me with an ex! He tried to sat they were from years ago and then said he had used them for a posh wank, fucking loser!

allboysherebutme · 12/08/2022 23:35

You know you said he mentioned his gay friend, could he be sleeping with this man that's why he doesn't want to sleep with you, if he has slept with someone without a condom. He might be worried about giving you something. X

Commonhealthgames · 12/08/2022 23:40

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