Did she really just say this?! WTAF?!

[Takemebacktothenorth]

Hi,

I'm trying not to be outraged by this, but I just can't get my head around this womans comment!

Joined a friend app a few months a go and have actually been pleasantly surprised by it so far and have met some lovely women and made a few good friends, which was the aim, so am obviously happy.

However, I had been chatting to this woman for a few days and she sounded like an intelligent, interesting person, but when she asked what my husband did for a living and I corrected her and said "sorry, wife", she got really strange and said, "I'm sorry, but I'm really just looking for friends, which is why I'm on a friend app" 😶🤔🙄

Erm....what? 1, why would I try to find women on a friend app when there are plenty of dating apps? 2, why would I try and chat her up by telling her I had a wife?! So many whys here!!

It's absolutely ridiculous and bloody insulting! Does me having a wife mean I can't possibly have a platonic relationship with a woman?!

Just venting really.

It looks like the woman has chosen to completely missunderstand and lacks the ability to communicate with you as a human being, which is her loss and not yours.

Eurgh.

Good lord.

Is she an evangelical "bible-believing" Christian?

What a strange thing to say. I think you've had a lucky escape because the kind of people who think queer folk are predatory are probably not people you want to be friends with...

This thread is very funny. Like who the fudge would think OP was calling the homophobe 'wife'? It makes zero sense.
Anyway. Onwards OP.

I actually can't believe some people think she thought I was calling her wife!
Just ask her. I think you'll find that's what she thought.

What's the app? Asking for a friend ..... 😂

How?????

"What does your husband do for work?"
"Sorry, its my wife. She's a glow worm breeder"

How does that translate into calling her wife?

And IF she did actually think OP called her wife, how does "sorry, im only looking for friendship" make sense? Did she think op was proposing marirage??

Fuck sake ... Haha. She did NOT think you were referring to her as your wife. She is a heteronormative knobhead without a baseline acceptable understanding of diversity. Hard swerve.
Isn't it amazing how people will engage in mental contortions to explain the responses people make to those with a protected characteristic? It's definitely a thing>

Ps I love @Simonjt response. I'd love to see the 'iresistible' homophobes deal with that.

@JaneJeffer hahaha I don't need to! "Sorry, it's wife actually" followed by what my wife does for a living, can't possibly be misunderstood!

Meh, she's probably on of those twats that responds with "I have a boyfriend/husband" when a male asks them the time or reminds them they have a meeting tomorrow.

How could you possibly resist really?

she may also be one of those people who believe straight men in relationships cannot have female friends.

Her loss.

Reminds me of an online group i joined where a poster is looking for new friends after a divorce and she kept specifying that she is a lesbian. I thought to myself how sad that she feels the need to "warn" people just to make friends. Thankfully it's a really nice group and no one was bothered and she's had loads of us arranging meet ups.

Ha ha. I’m wondering how the rest of your chat went, OP. Did you explain you aren’t in an open relationship?! Or how did you move on from her response? Were you too surprised to deal with it.

What does your wife do for a living? Maybe it's your wages job that freaked her out!

Her: what does your husband do for a living?

You: it's wife actually, she's called penny and she skins cats and makes jewellery from their skeletons :)

Her:.... Ok sorry I'm just looking for friends under her breath, not psychopaths

I'm dying to know how you responded to that??

Wife's job not wages damnit

I’m here to ask what the app is 😁

Terrible homophobia.

Nasty bigoted woman she is

I agree.

Sorry @Takemebacktothenorth this happened that is really crap.

I'd call her out on it.

This must be it. Its clearly your wife's job's fault.
"Its wife sctually, she's called Pandora and shes a sex therapist, shes looking for new client's actually, i can get you a discount...."

Ok, so
IF she did actually think OP called her wife, how does "sorry, im only looking for friendship" make sense? Did she think op was proposing marirage??

I'm desperate to know two things:

1. What is the app?
2. What is your wife's job that was so alarming? 😂

I once sat in a meeting next to someone I knew in passing. She was wearing a James t shirt. I told her that I liked James. She apologised that she wasn't a lesbian and moved away from me. Not that it matters but I'm not gay and they were the only words I'd ever spoken to her. It made no sense. Moral of the story, people make no sense.

Please tell us how you responded!