Is it ok for bf of 1.5 years to spend time with my dd without me?

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We have been together for 1.5 years. My daughter is 5 and a half and they get on really well. They always messing around. I was thinking it would be nice if he took her to the park without me to bond a little. So far everything we have done has been together. We don’t live together.

Would that be a good or bad idea?

It's a shame it's not a legal requirement to do disclosures on unrelated adults who will be spending time alone with our children. Any adult in a professional setting with children would have an advanced DBS check.

It's such a simple thing to do, and there are many cases since it was introduced that have shown up criminal history the partner would never have known about.

The consequences for your judgment being wrong are too horrendous to take a chance on, and it's really odd that you can't see it given your history. Not all abusers start out the same or have the same tells.

Op won’t be back

@Excitedforthefuture

‘Op
A mere couple of weeks ago you started a thread asking if your boyfriend of almost 14 months was emotionally unavailable

• After a couple of years I met my boyfriend, I fear I was very much still traumatised. It’s been over a year and I’m beginning to see he is emotionally unavailable to me…..’

Thanks for checking OP’s previous threads; I didn’t have time to do that earlier.
OP’s previous thread is a major red flag, therefore, no it is definitely not a good idea for OP’s DD of 5 years of age to bond with this emotionally unavailable man alone.

I never trusted my kids' own father alone with them ( too much to go into on here) but my husband is a great stepdad to them and biological dad to our youngest. I don't think it's absolutely necessary that they go out and spend time alone together, but the longer you're together and the more serious the relationship gets, it's inevitable that he will be in charge of looking after her at some point.

@Cheeeeislifenow

Cheeeeislifenow

This thread is depressing... A trip to the park does not a paedophile make...do people allow their children to go to their grandfather's and other male family members? Ffs

It's very easy to say stuff like this when you have no experience of abuse. Be happy and grateful you haven't. Not dismissive of those that have to consider it.

Fathers, uncles, cousins, grandfathers have all abused their female relatives. Being blood doesn't save you.

How fucking presumptuous...
Don't presume to think you know everything about everyone posting and their history...you have no idea who is behind a screen.

As does no one. No need to be so rude. However, when someone is being so sneery it isn't a stretch to think they have no experience of abuse or clue as to its effects.