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DH should be 42 today

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tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:42

It’s not that old, is it? He died of cancer aged 37.

I’ve tried to mark it well. But my word, I miss him.

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tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:43

My eldest is struggling in various ways and takes it all out on me of course. This evening was no exception.

I try so hard. I’m very tired.

I wish I could’ve taken DH out for tea like we did in the olden days.

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heyyyall · 16/11/2021 21:45

I'm sorry for you loss. It must be so difficult. 🥰

Newchallenge · 16/11/2021 21:45

I'm so sorry. Flowers

tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:45

He was a slight man, not greedy, but loved good food. So he’d always debate over having steak or fish as main “because I love steak but I do really want fish, but the problem with having fish is they think you want a lighter meal, but I don’t!” Grin

I would suggest a fish starter then steak main, which was usually what happened

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chillied · 16/11/2021 21:45

I'm so sorry. That was way way too young for him to die.

tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:46

Right now I’d be having pudding and he’d be chatting and looking at me lovingly because he wouldn’t have room, whereas I can’t fit three courses in either but always prioritise pudding over starter

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BigSigh2021 · 16/11/2021 21:46

37 is so, so young to die. I'm really sorry, you must all miss him so much.

Leeds2 · 16/11/2021 21:46

I'm so sorry for your loss, tunnocks.. You are right, 37 is no age. Flowers

Switch82 · 16/11/2021 21:46

💐

Scbchl · 16/11/2021 21:46

I'm so sorry, that was so young 😔

tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:47

But I’m home in bed, the DCs are asleep and I’m already dreading what mood my pre-teen will wake up in Hmm

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mimi14 · 16/11/2021 21:47

Ahh Tunnocks, I remember your threads about your DH. He was a cyclist if I remember correctly? So sorry if I've got that wrong. I often think of you and wonder how you're doing Flowers

Purplewithred · 16/11/2021 21:47

I'm so sorry, that must be so hard for you. 💐

tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:47

He was just delightful.

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tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:48

I didn’t deserve him

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IslaInthesun · 16/11/2021 21:48

I remember your posts Tunnock

Lots of love to you all Thanks

tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:48

And now he is gone.

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Crunchymum · 16/11/2021 21:48

I remember your posts from way back. Gosh I can't believe how much time has passed.

I love the fish / steak story.

Happy birthday to your DH, and much love to you and the kiddies x

tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:48

@mimi14

Ahh Tunnocks, I remember your threads about your DH. He was a cyclist if I remember correctly? So sorry if I've got that wrong. I often think of you and wonder how you're doing Flowers
Yes, this is him.

We did well for a while - not so well, these days

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FadedRed · 16/11/2021 21:49

Sorry for your loss. He sounds a character-that is exactly the same kind of metal gymnastics I have when eating out- I just thought it was me that was strange!
37 is no age, so unfair to him and you and your children.
💐

DistrictCommissioner · 16/11/2021 21:49

I remember your story. I’m so sorry.

Sandsnake · 16/11/2021 21:49

That made me chuckle - nobody wants someone to think you want a light meal, especially on your birthday! He sounds like a lovely man. I’m sorry, it’s really unfair. Must be hard to have to be the calm and understanding parent to your DC when you’re hurting too.Flowers

tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:49

So many years ahead without him. And not the childhood I hoped for for our children.

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tunnocksreturns2019 · 16/11/2021 21:50

@Sandsnake

That made me chuckle - nobody wants someone to think you want a light meal, especially on your birthday! He sounds like a lovely man. I’m sorry, it’s really unfair. Must be hard to have to be the calm and understanding parent to your DC when you’re hurting too.Flowers
I fail, all the time.
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prettypinkflamingo · 16/11/2021 21:50

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family x