What to write on card for colleague's new baby following a stillbirth?

[YogaRetreatsWithBacon]

Very grateful for advice, I don't want to be pushy or intrusive but also feel that her first baby is so very important still.

@Babamamananarama

There are several posters here who've been in the position of having a second baby after stillborn child and all of them (as far as I can see) have said it would mean a lot to them to have their first child honoured in the card.

Other posters saying 'oh no don't mention it, it's crass/might upset them' please LISTEN to what people who've experienced child loss say.

We are awful in this country at sensitively acknowledging death and loss and it makes it even harder for the bereaved when others skate round the subject.

You clearly haven’t read all the responses then, because at least 4 or 5 of those that have suffered a loss, have specifically said they wouldn’t like a work colleague to mention such a tragic loss in a card

@saraclara
@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult
@GreyhoundG1rl

Are three posters off the top of my head that have said they wouldn’t like it.

Ooh, I misunderstood the OP and thought it was a card to acknowledge the stillbirth. It’s really tricky if you’re not close and there’s no way of knowing what your colleague might like.

‘Congratulations on the arrival of [second baby]. Wishing you well and always remembering [first baby]?

I don’t actually know whether or not it’s the right thing to do.

@mummaelle

I wouldn't mention her stillborn if you're not close

I wouldn't refer to her child as "A stillborn" at all. If her baby was stillborn, then it is a stillborn child. Or baby, whatever. But referring to the baby as a stillborn is crass and insensitive.