The PP who are asking how close you are/saying don’t send a card at all/don’t mention a stillbirth on a new baby card - if you have experienced a late loss yourself, you surely know you are in the minority.
Not in the minority at all. Lots of people don't like random strangers/work collegues/friends of friends bringing up their baby with no warning whatsoever.
It initially sounded like it was a communal office card, that wouldn't have been appropriate at all.
Now it transpires that the lady, herself, asked for privacy, so still not appropriate.
However, reading through the responses it appears that some would not have liked the baby to be mentioned in a card. Whilst most people who have experienced late loss would like their baby to be acknowledged and still see them as part of the family, it appears there's a minority who don't.
This is just rude. My children are still a massive part of my family. I have photos up, my children and I talk about them and have traditions that include them. That doesn't mean that I want random people I barely know to gossip about my losses, or people I hardly know to mention them when I don't expect it, or for colleagues I barely know to decide that they wish to write about them on a card at a time that I'm feeling particularly bittersweet about anyway. That doesn't mean my babies aren't a part of my family. There's more than one way to grieve.