Gobsmacked and shocked by DH

[Serena1977]

Picked up dh this morning from hospital. He's been in for 8 days (not covid). He had an emergency operation in which in had a cardiac arrest.

I have been so scared and was so relieved to have him home. DC 9 and 8 have been beside themselves too.

Just checked on him, he's in bed after his parents called to see him at lunch.

Went into his bedside table to change his toothbrush for his electric toothbrush and there was a handkerchief. I panicked because i thought he had been sick and was hiding it so I didn't panic. He admitted he had had a wank, he said to relax and get to sleep.

I'm still scared because of what happened and how poorly he was and now a bit angry and emotional.

I have been to hell and back too, keeping things going looking after dc, dealing with pils etc and tomorrow I start teacher training which i'm not in the right frame of mind for since he's been so poorly.

Am i over reacting?

What is your issue? I suppose it's a bit odd that someone could have walked in on him accidentally....but are you against masturbation?

In a word yes. I'd be more annoyed at him leaving the tissue/hankie. If it makes him feel better after a shitty ordeal then what's the problem?

I don't even understand the problem.

What's the issue? That he has a wank? That he had a wank after an operation?

People masturbate, it's absolutely completely normal.

Definitely overreacting!

He was probably worried it might not work (which wouldn't be unusual after a cardiac arrest etc).

Obviously he should have disposed of the tissue.

Oh let him have his tommy-tank, for heaven's sake!

Is this for real? Give the guy a break!

What are you shocked about? I thought originally it was because he was in hospital but sounds like he's at home?

You are massively over reacting. I imagine it was a release after being in a public ward for so long with no privacy. Are you normally against masturbation? I would let this one go

What is the problem exactly?

What's wrong with that?

Struggling to see the issue unless he did it in front of his mum and dad, in which case then yes, I see your point

Oh god poor man does he know you have asked a bunch of Internet randoms this. I think he will be fine.

I'm sorry I know you're still distraught but you are being very unreasonable, people do masterbate to relax.

He's been 8 days without one, don't think I'd begrudge him a quick one now he's home

My ex used to be the wank police. Note - ex.

Are you serious???

Man has wank in his own bed

This can't be real 😂😂

It's normal and a sign that he's on the mend I would think

The only thing is he could have disposed of the tissue otherwise

What is the problem? I'm not sure I can see one.

Can you explain why you're angry op?

He was home, relaxing, after a scary week in hospital and had a wank, in his own bed.

I can't see any reason for you to be angry at all.

So... he had a wank. Big deal.

Maybe get some sleep

He's recently had a cardiac arrest, been through a traumatic time where he was basically was dead for a few seconds and you're angry with him for having the nerve to have a cheeky wank?! Get a grip!

What the fuck?