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Gobsmacked and shocked by DH

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Serena1977 · 01/09/2021 18:11

Picked up dh this morning from hospital. He's been in for 8 days (not covid). He had an emergency operation in which in had a cardiac arrest.

I have been so scared and was so relieved to have him home. DC 9 and 8 have been beside themselves too.

Just checked on him, he's in bed after his parents called to see him at lunch.

Went into his bedside table to change his toothbrush for his electric toothbrush and there was a handkerchief. I panicked because i thought he had been sick and was hiding it so I didn't panic. He admitted he had had a wank, he said to relax and get to sleep.

I'm still scared because of what happened and how poorly he was and now a bit angry and emotional.

I have been to hell and back too, keeping things going looking after dc, dealing with pils etc and tomorrow I start teacher training which i'm not in the right frame of mind for since he's been so poorly.

Am i over reacting?

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Seesawmummadaw · 01/09/2021 19:01

Why are you angry?

Lorw · 01/09/2021 19:01

OP has clearly been through a stressful time and I think people need to be kind, and to be fair if that was me I’d be left a bit traumatised thinking I could have nearly lost him and would now be acting and thinking unreasonably while trying to process that and work through the emotions. OP don’t worry about him, sign that he’s on the mend, see it as a good thing, before you know it things will be back to normal and settle down.

doingnothing · 01/09/2021 19:01

is this a joke?

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HosannainExcelSheets · 01/09/2021 19:02

From a medical perspective, orgasms put a lot of strain on your heart. Your blood pressure shoots up, so does your heart rate. I can see why you were worried. The doctors should/would have warned him in hospital if sex and orgasms were best avoided though.

Babyroobs · 01/09/2021 19:03

not even sure why you would post about this?

Mariell · 01/09/2021 19:03

@JustJustWhy

Oh leave him alone, poor wanker.
That made me laugh! Grin
NorthLodgeAvenue · 01/09/2021 19:05

Made up garbage, bye bye

Rachie1973 · 01/09/2021 19:05

@Serena1977

Picked up dh this morning from hospital. He's been in for 8 days (not covid). He had an emergency operation in which in had a cardiac arrest.

I have been so scared and was so relieved to have him home. DC 9 and 8 have been beside themselves too.

Just checked on him, he's in bed after his parents called to see him at lunch.

Went into his bedside table to change his toothbrush for his electric toothbrush and there was a handkerchief. I panicked because i thought he had been sick and was hiding it so I didn't panic. He admitted he had had a wank, he said to relax and get to sleep.

I'm still scared because of what happened and how poorly he was and now a bit angry and emotional.

I have been to hell and back too, keeping things going looking after dc, dealing with pils etc and tomorrow I start teacher training which i'm not in the right frame of mind for since he's been so poorly.

Am i over reacting?

Absolutely over reacting.

I understand your fear. My DH had a widow maker heart attack at just 51. He’s a bit of a walking miracle,

It was a real concern to him that it ‘all worked properly’. Seems silly in the grand scheme of things but he wanted some normality back.

doitwithlove · 01/09/2021 19:06

I understand how you are feeling @Serena1977. You have kept everything together whilst he has been in hospital, having arrived home his main priority is having a wank so he can sleep.

It is amazing how men operate !!!

CandyLeBonBon · 01/09/2021 19:06

@TheAverageUser

What are you shocked about? I thought originally it was because he was in hospital but sounds like he's at home?
Same - was he in hospital or at home op?
TweedePrik · 01/09/2021 19:08

Not an issue at all. Can't believe you would post about it.

Jessaas · 01/09/2021 19:09

I don't see the issue.

Man has a wank, call the tabloids.

WorraLiberty · 01/09/2021 19:09

@YouJustDoYou

I honestly.find it vile when they leave a used wank hanky or whatever lying around. Men are utterly disgusting creatures sometimes 🤮🤮🤮
He didn't leave it lying around.

He tidied it away into his own bedside cabinet.

Mindyourbusiness22 · 01/09/2021 19:09

Sorry but this has made me laugh 🤣🤣 (not that he had a cardiac arrest, that’s not funny!

ChargingBuck · 01/09/2021 19:10

@doitwithlove

I understand how you are feeling *@Serena1977*. You have kept everything together whilst he has been in hospital, having arrived home his main priority is having a wank so he can sleep.

It is amazing how men operate !!!

It's amazing how some women operate.

OP hasn't had a heart attack, isn't contemplating mortality having come close to losing her life - but her poor scared husband finally gets home & feels well enough to have a quiet wank.

OP should be celebrating his survival, not fixating on how much more of the domestic load she's had to shoulder because of her DH's totally selfish visit to the hospital ...

butterpuffed · 01/09/2021 19:10

The vipers are out in force tonight , having a go at OP who's had a scary week along with her children.

I guess she's worried about it could be affecting his medical condition as he's had a heart attack and an emergency operation and is just over reacting . Lay off her.

WorraLiberty · 01/09/2021 19:11

You have kept everything together whilst he has been in hospital, having arrived home his main priority is having a wank so he can sleep.

Sleep is normally the main priority of anyone whose just spent 8 days in hospital.

ClosDesMouches · 01/09/2021 19:13

🤔

Flatdisco · 01/09/2021 19:13

He likely also wanted to check everything was working OK after his heart problems. I'm sure it was scary and I think you're reacting like this because you were so worried. But honestly you could have lost him. Let tye small stuff go.

iklboo · 01/09/2021 19:15

One post vanishing act.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 01/09/2021 19:15

You could try looking on it another way - he's clearly feeling better.

Which after what he's been through, is probably the best news you've had for a while.

LemonJuiceFromConcentrate · 01/09/2021 19:15

Poor you OP, and your poor DH. But yes you’re overreacting.

Or rather, you’re having an unfair/inappropriate reaction to something normal, because of your emotional turmoil I guess.

I can totally understand it but there really isn’t any level at which he deserves anger for this. There’s nothing actually shocking or wrong about it.

WorraLiberty · 01/09/2021 19:18

@NeverDropYourMooncup

You could try looking on it another way - he's clearly feeling better.

Which after what he's been through, is probably the best news you've had for a while.

That's not all he's been feeling Blush Grin
pegasussy · 01/09/2021 19:19

My immediate thought was that someone with a heart condition shouldn't excite themselves too much. Is that the (t)issue?

girlmom21 · 01/09/2021 19:20

Why would your immediate thought to a used handkerchief be vomit? If he'd been sick and all he'd needed to clean up was a hanky I wouldn't be worried...

But why was your first thought not "oh he probably has a runny nose"?

Why did he have to confess to you what he'd used the hanky for?

Either tell him to tidy up after himself or leave him alone.