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Gobsmacked and shocked by DH

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Serena1977 · 01/09/2021 18:11

Picked up dh this morning from hospital. He's been in for 8 days (not covid). He had an emergency operation in which in had a cardiac arrest.

I have been so scared and was so relieved to have him home. DC 9 and 8 have been beside themselves too.

Just checked on him, he's in bed after his parents called to see him at lunch.

Went into his bedside table to change his toothbrush for his electric toothbrush and there was a handkerchief. I panicked because i thought he had been sick and was hiding it so I didn't panic. He admitted he had had a wank, he said to relax and get to sleep.

I'm still scared because of what happened and how poorly he was and now a bit angry and emotional.

I have been to hell and back too, keeping things going looking after dc, dealing with pils etc and tomorrow I start teacher training which i'm not in the right frame of mind for since he's been so poorly.

Am i over reacting?

OP posts:

IndiaDreaming · 01/09/2021 20:50

It's a really good sleep aid.

whatthejiggeries · 01/09/2021 21:14

I think you need to have a wank OP - might chill you out a bit

ChargingBuck · 01/09/2021 21:14

butterpuffed

The vipers are out in force tonight , having a go at OP who's had a scary week along with her children.

I guess she's worried about it could be affecting his medical condition as he's had a heart attack and an emergency operation and is just over reacting . Lay off her.

^^ this. What an unpleasant site this has become. All the virtue signalling - hubby fine to wank when ever, his body, you're controlling.etc.

He's been in hospital for 8 days - who has done all of the heavy lifting at home with the DC (quite young), home etc?

Plus starting a new job - always stressful.

Yet "D"H - able to be in bed wanking. Surely most normal people would be concerned about the impact on the heart (because he had a heart attack)?

Op - He sounds better. Able to do child care,cooking and cleaning. I really your new job goes well. Our SCITTS were in today - nervous but really looking forward to new term. Please concentrate on you and your new career. I just wonder if in years to come you might need that job and career more than you might think now.

Bloody hell @spongedog, you make some superior observations about how unpleasant the site has become, chum up to the OP with some (actually very nicely phrased & spot-on) observations about prepping for her new job ...
& then hit her with a snide whammy by "just wondering" if she will need that career, insinuating that her marriage will be on the skids.

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MrsDThomas · 01/09/2021 21:18

This place gets weirder by the day.

ChargingBuck · 01/09/2021 21:18

Hey OP, having read your updates now, well done for getting yourself in hand (phnarr phnarr, sorry couldn't resist) & your very gracious acknowledgement that you over-reacted out of anxiety.

Sorry I was hard on you in my first post. I could have read between the lines a bit better, & realised your upset came from the turmoil & worry - not a desire to police DH's body.

Best of luck with the new job, & your DH's recovery.

Sadiecow · 01/09/2021 21:47

@spongedog what a ridiculous post! OP has said he's a great DD and DH. So I'm sure he'll be up for childcare etc, after his cardiac arrest etc.

So because he had a wank, the marriage is doomed? He had a wank not sex with another woman, whilst OP was looking after him.

How very very odd!

LemonJuiceFromConcentrate · 01/09/2021 21:51

Take care, OP

stilldumdedumming · 01/09/2021 21:58

I have just checked back here. Oh bless you. This:

I wanted to be the provider of his comfort, eg hugs, kisses, fetching food and drink etc. but I was being stupid. *
*
I absolutely recognise. People are being pretty shitty to you. They have no idea what it's like. The relief when they are home can be quite hard to handle weirdly. Please take heart that he's home and he absolutely does need you and will be very glad he's home with you. Wishing all the best for recovery for both of you.

ViciousJackdaw · 01/09/2021 22:39

OP, you are a silly sausage! But it's obvious your upset isn't really about the wank though and I've got to say, you've been a bloody good sport about all the ribbing!

Shallwegoforawalk · 01/09/2021 23:20

I don't know whether I'm coming or going.

Sits on hands. Don't say it. Don't say it.

OhGiveUp · 01/09/2021 23:59

I don't know whether I'm coming or going.

Unlike your DH 😁

Shallwegoforawalk · 02/09/2021 00:37

@OhGiveUp said it

Rosscameasdoody · 02/09/2021 09:31

Amazed at how many people read this as a heart attack. It was a cardiac arrest - sudden stopping of the heartbeat, unlike a heart attack which damages the heart muscle.

ChargingBuck · 02/09/2021 09:38

@ViciousJackdaw

OP, you are a silly sausage! But it's obvious your upset isn't really about the wank though and I've got to say, you've been a bloody good sport about all the ribbing!

Seconded - OP's shown a lot of grace under pressure on her thread.

DizzySquirrel90 · 02/09/2021 09:39

Funnily enough he's probs not up for full on sex 🤨

FoxesAtDawn · 02/09/2021 12:28

He was in his own bed in his own home!

Oh, I completely misread that! In which case I really don't understand the problem at all!

Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 02/09/2021 12:30

You are definitely over reacting I'm afraid. Tbh it's good for him and good he's managed it after being unwell.

Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 02/09/2021 12:31

@whatthejiggeries

I think you need to have a wank OP - might chill you out a bit

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