The sh*ttiest thing that someone has said to you?

[Houseofvelour]

What's the rudest/sh*ttiest thing that someone has said to/asked you?

Years ago, I was a bridesmaid for a (now ex) friend. I was blonde at the time and she asked me to dye my hair brown as she preferred it darker.
I did not dye my hair brown.

I broke up (amicably or so I thought) with a guy in my 20s.

A few weeks later I was rushed to hospital after collapsing & heavily bleeding with a suspected miscarriage. I called him from the hospital bed as I was scared and thought it was the right thing to do if I was losing his child. His response "you are really hard to shake off, the lenghts you will go to to get me back!"

He also told others too that I made it all up. I wasn't lying & often thought of sending him the medical report afterwards. I thought I was losing his child, they never confirmed if it was an early miscarriage or not but it was the start of me discovering I could never carry a child due to numerous medical conditions that I knew nothing about beforehand. It's all in writing & 100% true. Nothing has ever stung so much.

i think the one memory i could think of for this question is the one where it was my birthday and my now ex best friend came up to me and said infront of everyone "so when are you gonna cross over?"

After we lost twins at 19 weeks gestation. My dad said "never mind, try again. Better luck next time". I'll never get over that.

I used to work as a Nurse on a frantically busy ward. One day an elderly patient said to me "it's surprising you are still so fat the way you run around all day "

When I telephoned my mother to tell her I was expecting my first child, her words were 'I advise you to get rid of it' as she hated my ExP .

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I was pregnant for the first time and my boss said "I won't say congratulations because you might lose it as it so early". I did. 😢

My boss said the same, she said she'd keep her fingers crossed as 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. Wtaf?

I'm so sorry yours did,what shitty bosses we had

My god how terrible

An old boss - when talking about Carol Vorderman (was along time ago) and how much weight she'd lost said to me - well it looks like you've been doing the Richard Whiteley diet

A ‘friend’ of the family rang me when she’d heard my lovely DB had committed suicide.
She said how sad it was that he’d ‘brought shame’ on the good family name.
He’s been gone 23 years - and that remark still hurts like hell.
She’s dead now. Thankfully.

I gave birth to my daughter last week, she was 4 weeks early and needed to spend some time in NICU. I was trying so hard to get my supply up and had pumped a feed for her one night and went to take it down to her. The lady on the desk takes it and says 'wow, is that it? Thought you'd be giving us more than that'. They apologised the next day and said my supply was great but it was too late, my confidence was shattered. I have plenty of other examples, but this one really hurt me at such a vulnerable time.

My GP at a pregnancy check up. You're like a barrell, as wide as you are high

EA and DV ex said he would rip my head off and shit down my neck.
This was 25+ years ago but it has stayed with me.

My boss announced my pregnancy to work colleagues without asking me.

‘You should have pants on’
By a surgeon, while I was lying on a bed in hospital gown after an operation. With period, age 16. I don’t know why there were no pants.

‘You’re still technically a virgin’ after being anally raped by a ‘boyfriend’, age 19.

That I have a mean face and am going to age badly! This was during a pleasant conversation. I think the guy is on the spectrum.

A fellow contestant on a quiz show telling me he could have done my chosen specialist subject with ease, but would have modified it to make it harder 🙄 'so it's more fair'. Prick. I was about 20 years younger than him and it was my first time on telly.

The Twitterverse, after any tv quiz I've ever been on. Hair/face/tits/dress/voice/posture. It's fucking mental.

Mind you, they may have a point as one of my best friends, on the phone to a bloke she fancied as we drove to the pub, was obviously asked (of me): "Is she pretty?" She replied that she was "pretty enough for both of us, so it doesn't matter." Charming.

A group of squaddies, whom I served the previous night (when they demanded free dessert for "being heroes" - sadly not even the top ten twattiest thing I've had the Armed Forces say) came into the same pub I was in with friends, the following night. Three or four of them had a loud conversation about ten feet from me, about how one of their friends had fancied me. This was odd, apparently, because he was "really fit" and "normally only goes for fit birds" and I was by far - by far - "the plainest waitress at the restaurant". (This was also true, sadly, as I worked with some stunners, but the incredulity in their voices was a bit much). Their friend wasn't fit, btw. He somehow managed to look like all three members of boyband '911', simultaneously.

When I was at high school we were having a proper belly laugh at something that had happened and one of my best friends told me 'you're so ugly when you laugh'
I genuinely think that was the last time I've laughed carefree since.
That thought pops into my mind every single time I laugh or smile now.

My ex husband also said that it was impossible to love me, and even if I got into another relationship and years down the line was thinking that it was all going well, he said that that person would be secretly planning leaving me because I'm impossible to love.

The first incident was 30 years ago and the second about 15 and they both still plague me.