The sh*ttiest thing that someone has said to you?

[Houseofvelour]

What's the rudest/sh*ttiest thing that someone has said to/asked you?

Years ago, I was a bridesmaid for a (now ex) friend. I was blonde at the time and she asked me to dye my hair brown as she preferred it darker.
I did not dye my hair brown.

I was on a flight with my ex when we told me that the women he was really interested in were never interested in him. After we landed he shouted at me in the street that he wished he hadn’t asked me to come with him. We were thousands of miles from home, stuck together for a week

Just had awful realisation that all mine come from my "D"M. And yet I can never quite pluck it up to distance her from my family.

Me aged 8 sporting a belted dress given to me by a friend as a hand me down, I felt frickin fab. Walked into kitchen.
DM: "with that belt around your middle you look like a sack of potatoes". Triggered about 15 yrs of eating issues...

Me aged just 17, after DM has chucked crockery at me and screamed abuse at me for the millionth time for doing absolutely nothing, "would it be better if I just moved out?"
DM: "it's no skin off my nose".

OUCH

My P4 teacher hated me and was always punishing me for something. I can’t remember what I did, but one day she said I wouldn’t amount to anything and would spend my life stacking shelves in a supermarket. She wasn’t too far wrong (I did work in a supermarket in my 20s and have never earned much even after leaving it), but still a vicious thing to say to an 8 year old.

@NiceGerbil

You're not the OP though.

I asked if light hearted or any type of situations.

Op said no. Just liked hearing this stuff.

You're being generous really. Obviously it was going to get all sorts of upsetting posts.

I put mine earlier. They are mild. But rude as per OP.

I hope OP is getting what they wanted (?) out of this.

Your point is very well made @NiceGerbil

I find these genre of thread "tell me about the worst..." are like rubbernecking - it attracts people to full disclosure and can sometimes be cathartic to them to share a negative experience.

Meanwhile the OP who has put in minimal effort or emotional investment, gets to sit back and read everyone's disclosures . What benefit has this given other than temporary gratification.

People give the information by choice but I think an OP has a responsibility not to put the opportunity out there because there are millions of people reading this many of whom have had damaging experiences and may be vulnerable.

Mm not the worst, but a "friend" stated that she thinks blondes with freckles are ugly. (That's me.) She also said about another friends dad, who was critically ill in hospital, that they should let him die. He made a full recovery. That another friends daughter was faking illness, she's a desperately unwell child.

She loses friends hand over fist and doesnt understand why.

On my wedding day, a friend said that her friend X's wedding dress was very like mine but made with nicer material.
I have had people say ruder but this was the one that shocked me most given the context.

That they'd never had a student like me before (in the bad sense). From a university professor.

You've led a charmed life so far, op.
Having a violent ex doesn't sound charmed.

it attracts people to full disclosure and can sometimes be cathartic to them to share a negative experience
fair point there - I tend to overshare at stupid o'clock and I like my Strictly name!

After our last and final round of IVF we waited nervously for our test results to come through. We had to go into the clinic for the test and were waiting in a cafe around the corner for an hour or so while they processed samples. The call came through and it was negative. My wife burst into tears and we both had to go outside into the street to compose ourselves. Some woman observing the scene walked up to me, sizes me up and down and then said to me "nice one wanker" then to my wife "you can do better luv" before smugly walking down the street. She had obviously concluded that I was responsible for upsetting my wife. Did not think much of it at the time but several months later I really wanted to bump into her again and give her piece of my mind.

I am fortunate that no one other than one ex has ever been nasty to me and his vocabulary and wit weren’t up to much so nothing particularly springs to mind.

I did get accused by some oaf online who called me a feminist and that DID offend me.

Fair enough, I understand your points. I didn't
It's not that I enjoy other people's misery, it that life stories genuinely interest me and threads like these always show how resilient people can be when faced with CF of the worst kind.

As everyone has dug deep, I'll share the darker of mine.

• the man that raped me telling me I was begging for it
• my dad telling me that he should have sectioned me a long time ago
• my ex telling me that I was the fattest ugliest person he'd ever seen and he always had to picture his ex to get through sex
• someone in school telling me that I was so ugly, no one would ever love me
• my dad telling me I wouldn't ever amount to anything
• I had the giggles and my ex put his hand around my throat and said "I don't want to hurt you but you're recalling pissing me off"

*really
Not recalling 🤦‍♀️

My dad telling me he thinks I'm ugly and to take one look in the mirror.
My mum saying if she knew I was a girl that she would have had an abortion.

Being asked when I was I going to get a 'proper job' when manager of a multi million £ turnover luxury item store. I had that from my DH's nan, and similar from customers

@Galassia

I am fortunate that no one other than one ex has ever been nasty to me and his vocabulary and wit weren’t up to much so nothing particularly springs to mind.

I did get accused by some oaf online who called me a feminist and that DID offend me.

That would make me proud! It's not an insult to stand up for women's rights.

Far too many to count sadly. Although most recent was a lad pointing me out to one of his mates as I walked past and shouting "oi there's a bird for you!" to which his friend replied "naa mate that's fucking awful". 😔

I have horrendous self-esteem issues around how I look, I'd had a long day at work and I'd gone out for an evening walk to clear my head. I cried and came straight home.

At my mother's funeral - two hours after I had buried my mother. I was seven months pregnant, was offered a biscuit and my uncle loudly commented (in front of a room fiull of people) that I shouldn't have it as I'll get even fatter. What a C*nt.

"You're just like your mother"

When I was holding newborn DS1 a random woman in a shop came up and said ‘they all look like slugs at this age don’t they!’. After enduring 8 years of IVF to have him, she’s lucky I didn’t punch her. It was such an idiotic thing to say I was stunned into silence. I wouldn’t be now!

When I was around 6 months pregnant, a (older male) colleague at work told me it was ok I didn't understand his email because, you know, hormones! I'd followed his instructions to the letter but it turned out he had changed his mind after sending the email and hadn't told me

Same colleague's response when I said I was going to eat all the chocolate at Christmas since i couldn't drink or eat brie (still pregnant) was 'don't do that. You'll get fat and won't be able to lose it'

Anyone I spoke to put it down as cultural differences and English wasn't his first language. He liked to think of himself as offering fatherly advice. I think he was being a knob!

Several weeks after having ds1 I was in a pub with Dh when I bumped into an ex.
He poked his finger towards my belly and said " so youve gone a bit podgy these days' I patted his head and said ' I see you're bald these days' He stormed off. DH came back from toilet and said ' oh, where's ( name) gone. I dud t bother telling him.
Dh is bald, I really am not bothered about bald but I knew ex was. Try to insult me and I'm straight back at you!!!

My mil telling me after a 28 hour labour that I looked terrible. I know it’s not the worst insult but it really bothered me. I know I looked a wreck but in my defence I’d had a child less than 24 hours prior.

Oh she also told me I was big when I was heavily pregnant. 🙄

At a mum and baby group not long before I went back to work. Full of mum guilt about leaving my then 14 month old in nursery pretty much full time, it was only option as we can't live on just my husbands salary, another mum overheard and said ' I don't understand why women have babies just to shove them in a nursery so they can go back to work'