The sh*ttiest thing that someone has said to you?

[Houseofvelour]

What's the rudest/sh*ttiest thing that someone has said to/asked you?

Years ago, I was a bridesmaid for a (now ex) friend. I was blonde at the time and she asked me to dye my hair brown as she preferred it darker.
I did not dye my hair brown.

My ex boyfriend's dad said I'd never amount to anything and his mum said I was only with my ex for their money.

We were together from 16-19. I had no idea about their financial situation. They lived in a three bedroom terrace and drove a Ford Focus company car (my point being they weren't exactly flashy or show-offy, just distinctly ordinary).

Reader, I'm 32 now and I've actually done very well for myself. I wish I could tell them how well.

There's actually so many that it's hard to choose one comment.

I used to work for my friends parents when I was in my early 20's and I was told daily by her mum that I had awful skin, that I should really wear make up and that I was putting on weight and needed to go on a diet. I still have issues 10 years later.

A girl at uni went though my wardrobe uninvited and said 'you have some nice clothes, its a shame you're so much bigger than me'.

I was an 8, and the assumption that I would lend her my clothes was outrageous!

I'm very lucky that the worst stuff people have ever said to me has been on here.

This was once said to me as a compliment!!! From a male friend (who I had a weird sort of relationship with)

“Honest Lj, you are so pretty, if you lost weight you would be one of the hottest women ever”

@Justilou1

My mother told me that she wished they hadn’t resuscitated me at birth as I had brain damage and kept making up stories of her abusing me. My father agreed that it would have been for the best.

That's so unforgivable. I'm sorry.

Two weeks after I gave birth via c section, my Aunty visited. She poked my (still swollen) tummy and asked if I was having another one already.

I wish I could find a hot girl with your personality.
Or words to that effect 🙄

That's probably the rudest.

I've had abusive comments, a couple of threats but threats and abuse are in a different category, not what I would put under 'rude'

I am a teacher. I'd been off sick in hospital with pneumonia and it was my first day back. My mum had died four months previously and I'd got very sick very fast. I was pretty wobbly and I had a very very tricky class. I got pulled into the headteachers office - him and the DP. Apparently a parent had made a complaint whilst I was away. Something about overheating me talking to a colleague about the impossibility of some of the kids - one of them had just thrown a chair at my head. The head teacher said 'it seems to us that you don't even like children very much'. This couldn't be more wrong as evidenced by a 16 year teaching career and so amazing long standing relationships with some of my students. And then they sat and looked at me nodding. I burst into floods of tears and left, got in my car and went home. Neither of them followed me or phoned me. I still have to work with them and will never forgive them.

After 3 hours in labour, sepsis, pre eclampsia, my daughter born via c section with a serious infection, my dad said "Be grateful you didn't have to do it the hard way."

My parents made me have an abortion at 18. That was rude and shitty, I think I win lol.

@Eclairesarethebest

My parents made me have an abortion at 18. That was rude and shitty, I think I win lol.

Omg that's horrendous! I'm so sorry

I was asked if I was really going to have yet another funeral, since it was the 3rd baby to pass away now. By my MIL. A few people seemed to agree with her, SIL, other SIL... nobody stood up for me

Being asked by total strangers if I was pregnant when I wasn’t. I carry all my weight on my middle, fair enough but how rude to assume.

On my wedding day 8 months pregnant. Ready to go and asked my mum how I look. Her reply 'oh well, I suppose it's the best we can do.'.

A guy in College who was in my A-level class turned and said to me you are really cute but your just not sexy. I hadn’t asked him or shown any particular interest in him. He was Mr Popular and I always found him intimidating. It stayed with me for a while. He went on to become a not particularly successful comedian. I just think he makes a living being making people feel bad about themselves.

The OW, who when I found out 3 weeks after my DD died just after birth, turned to me and said ' you couldn't give him a baby, but I cab. I'm pregnant'

Yes I did divorce him.

A children’s social worker telling me that I had nothing to be afraid of and was over reacting WHRN I asked to a separate meeting room so I didn’t have to be in the same room as my ex husband who had sexually coerced me and raped me during our marriage snd had psychologically torn me down over the years. ‘They’re only words - Ivd been in an abusive relationship, I know all about it’ she said.

She’s still a children’s SW

@kodaknodats

I was asked if I was really going to have yet another funeral, since it was the 3rd baby to pass away now. By my MIL. A few people seemed to agree with her, SIL, other SIL... nobody stood up for me

That’s horrendous @kodaknodats - I’m so sorry, and I’m so sorry your in laws are so awful

@Oldtiredfedup What made it worse is they're not generally bad people. Usually quite reasonable but say what they think type of people

Which made it hurt all the more

Second worst:

‘What will the neighbours thing? I’m so ashamed.’ my mother, upon finding out that I’d told my best friend that (aged 20) I was pregnant snd had decided to have an abortion and she was afraid best friend would tell other people.

Dh grandparents asking me if everything was ok and "has everything gone back to normal?" after ds birth because I still had a stomach on me.I cried after we left,I felt disgusting and ill never forget it.

Just thought of another

When I was pregnant with my DD I started experiencing perinatal OCD. It turns out I had suffered with OCD from a very young age and because of what you see in society and the media about OCD I had no idea that was what I was experiencing and it was terrifying. I had a break down after my DD was born and ended up speaking to a therapist about the awful intrusive thoughts I was experiencing. I hadn't told anyone about it before and the first thing she said was " I actually feel very concerned for your DD you are putting all your negativity on to her" it felt so horribly judgmental and actually made me feel so much worse. I ended up just bottling everything up again and suffered in silence for the next 2 years until I was officially diagnosed.

I've worked in a city centre A&E as a senior nurse for many years so have been called all sorts of names etc.
By far my favourite has been "you're just a purple mouse in a green toilet". Still have no idea how to take that one

I've a couple , one said by a lad when I was younger about 40 years ago and still stays with me " nice tits shame about the face " and by my mum when I was about the same age wearing ski pans ,leggings , she said that max wall wanted his legs back .
Must admit I've felt bad about both face and legs since then .

I was 33 and absolutely desperate for a baby(after 2 miscarriages and single.
My aunty had a hysterectomy and was really suffering and I mentioned to my nana and her sister that I hope I never needed one.
Well what would it matter, you won’t be having a baby? Said nanas sister.
Old cunt