The sh*ttiest thing that someone has said to you?

[Houseofvelour]

What's the rudest/sh*ttiest thing that someone has said to/asked you?

Years ago, I was a bridesmaid for a (now ex) friend. I was blonde at the time and she asked me to dye my hair brown as she preferred it darker.
I did not dye my hair brown.

I confided in a "friend" at work that I'd been bullied all through school and in a previous workplace, she told me there was obviously something wrong in me that encouraged it and I should fix whatever it was instead of complaining. It reinforced my feelings that it was all my fault for being me.

A school bully telling others - with me in obvious earshot - that they hoped I died.

Ex BF said I reminded him of the ugly duckling… not that pretty right now but as I get older he could imagine I’d be really pretty and have men definitely wanting me!! I was 19/20 Ish at the time he was late 20s maybe a bit older. I said see ya right then and he said I was over reacting, and that when I come crawling back he might not be waiting. I didn’t crawl back. What a Donkey walloper.

'you're not THAT fat, but you have put on a fair bit, I must say you look better slimmer '

Talking to a friend about gaining about 10lbs since having ds 18m ago. But saying how much I love my food. I've gone from a 14 to 16 since having him. Mainly big portions wrong food. But I walk much less as I have painful veins etc.

When my heads in it. I'll lose weight but I have to do it right. As a few yrs ago I didn't and I had a bad relationship with food. So I don't want to go there.

Playing for a wedding with my string quartet. One of the guests came up to us, sighed and then said "Why don't you just pluck off?"

This still upsets me now. My youngest brother would have been about 19 when I was pregnant with my DS.
He piped up "I wouldn't be surprised if that baby wraps the umbilical cord around its neck just so it doesn't have to listen to you talking all day."

It felt like such a cruel thing to say. 13 years on and he's married and trying for a baby, and I just want to tell him never to say anything like that to her. But I'll be made out to be the bad guy who can't take a joke.

@ClemDanFango

“You’ve put on so much weight. Your baby is 5 months old already there’s no excuse for it really.” Said to me in a pub in full earshot of the 12 others we were sitting with. Everyone went dead silent and I felt so embarrassed. I asked her if she meant to say it out loud. She quipped back smugly about being a “straight talking person.” So I told her that was great because I’d been wanting to tell her a few home truths for a while and as she liked straight talk… I then proceeded to tear her a new one. She was stunned into silence and got up and left. Probably should have been the bigger person blah blah and all that but I just couldn’t help myself.

I love you.

Did she ever apologise?

The shittiest thing someone has ever said to me - at work I had been asked if I wanted to set up the poppy appeal boxes , which lead to a colleague going on a ten minute rant about why she didn’t support the poppy appeal and what did some old men ever do for her- Nothing in her opinion. And all active soldiers are child murders anyway.

At the time I had been out of the army for a 2 years, but I was 7 months pregnant, my DH was on deployment and I was waiting for updates as he had been shot during an operation to train locals to work in a health centre.

Very eye opening about how callous some people can be and how they deem their opinion more important than empathy.

I have no practical help or support and have been a lone parent for many years.

I worked in a school but had to have 4 days off as my son had been in hospital. (He went in on a Saturday, home on Wednesday). He had had sepsis and I was told they were doing everything they could. It was very serious for 12 hours. He is almost non-verbal so I couldn’t leave his side at all in hospital so hadn’t sleep/washed or had enough to eat.

I wanted to keep my job so sent him back to school on the Friday so I could go to work. I regretted it but he was in an autism unit so well looked after.

I staggered into work and was called into the head’s office to be told I couldn’t expect to take 4 days off in future and I should have got my partner to stop in hospital so I could go to work. I’ve been single for 16 years.

Local person told me they knew how I felt because their aunty's dog died.
My son had just died suddenly in horrific circumstances and the police had been round to tell me.

Cafcass officer, when I was trying to get divorced. “Oh, I get dozens of women in here, crying domestic abuse”.

Well, maybe that’s because dozens of women have received domestic abuse! She didn’t believe me and put in her report that I’d stayed in a refuge because my friend worked there and had organised a place. In reality, I didn’t know any of the staff who worked there and didn’t meet them until I turned up at the door.

Well I am gob smacked. How much vitriol is out there? I had an appalling series of messages yesterday sent from a new boss. I was fuming but to be honest they can make me an offer to leave at which point I will tell them a few home truths.

I was brought up to say something nice or not at all.

@endofthelinefinally

Local person told me they knew how I felt because their aunty's dog died. My son had just died suddenly in horrific circumstances and the police had been round to tell me.

I'm so sorry

Was only a few weeks ago. DH and I are going through a very rough patch. I’ve suffered with ED’s basically my whole life and am only recently in a place where I’m making a conscious effort to eat properly, exercise a “normal” amount rather than excessively etc....and the other weekend, I got up out of bed, wandered over to my drawers to get a hoody, and DH was looking me up and down really intently. I thought “Ooo maybe he does remember what it’s like to find me attractive?!”, then he hits me with: “You need to eat, you look like you’re fucking starving”
Low blow. And he knows that but said it anyway. Cunt.

@ IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves
She never spoke to me again and slagged me off to everyone we knew for being ‘so rude’ to her. I can honestly say I had no fucks to give.

Totally outing, but meh:

The last time I tried to make contact with my father he said ""you're dead to me"...... I've not tried again since.

@Theunamedcat

My dentist telling me I wasn't trying hard enough with my teeth ive literally brushed my gum away at one point in my mouth because of this comment I have a medical condition which gives me a dry mouth and causes a ton of dental issues but she doesn't seem to believe it quite mean of her as I'm terrified of dentists and this comment wounded me

Get a new dentist. She is rubbish at her job and should know better!

at school, (about 13or 14 yrs old) boy next to me in English class, called me tree trunk legs, scared me for life, yes they are big but omg i hate them

Clem, you're fabulous! Bloody good one. 😁 She did exactly what all these self proclaimed Straight Talkers do when they get a taste of their own medicine.

I’m disabled. Recently one of the carers who comes to me told me if she ever gets to the point she needs carers she’ll kill herself rather than have them.

It’s not the first time I’ve heard variants of “I’d rather be dead than disabled”

I hope you've reported that!

" if I'd known you'd be such trouble, I would have drowned you at birth"
My Mum... I was born with mild CP

The one that that will stay with me forever.

I had two brothers one older, other younger.
Older brother was disabled with a condition that has a low life expectancy. But a symptom of that condition meant that anger and shouting/screaming at everyone was commonplace. Most of that anger was directed at me, he wouldn’t let it go, push & push me until i lost my temper and retaliate, mum knew how bad it was as I didn’t want to be at home anymore. I practically moved in with my best friends family. He was moved to a residential school.

He died when I was 13.

Some time after I had a minor squabble with my younger brother, Mum who had been drinking and was quite drunk sneered at me.
Look at the way you treated (other brother) and see what happened to him.

It still stings!

That I'd get over losing my dh to cancer in a few weeks, not like I'd been with him for30 years like my dad

Ffs yeah thanks mum 🙄

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves

I hope you've reported that!

Too right! What an appalling attitude for a carer to have.