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Serial killer name change

184 replies

weirdnamechange · 03/08/2021 15:03

I really don't know what to do. I recently got married to a wonderful man and I have always wanted to take my partner's name (I am a feminist, it is a choice I want to make). Unfortunately my first name combined with his last name is the name of a very famous serial killer. Before we got married I said I would deal with that issue as it was important for us to have the same name (and I would like to be traditional and take his name), but now that it is time to change my name on bank cards etc I am getting cold feet. I can't wrap my head around introducing myself as this killer??!! My husband is upset as I am going back on our agreement..

What should I do? Could you change it knowing what that name means to most people?

OP posts:
HummingBeeBox · 03/08/2021 15:07

I would maybe double barrel instead

burritofan · 03/08/2021 15:08

Nothing more traditional than serial killing!

Why do you want to change your name?

PegasusReturns · 03/08/2021 15:08

I’d change it. Can you hyphenate your surnames?

Flaunch · 03/08/2021 15:08

He could change names :)

BrozTito · 03/08/2021 15:08

Call yourself Rosemary instead?

Babymeanswashing · 03/08/2021 15:08

There is absolutely no way I would go through life as Rose West if I had a choice in the matter!

Babymeanswashing · 03/08/2021 15:09

@BrozTito

Call yourself Rosemary instead?
Don’t know if you’re trying to be funny but that is actually her name.
KnightandDay · 03/08/2021 15:09

To be honest, I don't think I would change my name to a very famous serial killer, unless I lived in a different country where they were never heard of.

Formaldeheidi · 03/08/2021 15:09

He could take your name. Problem solved.

ineedanewnameplease · 03/08/2021 15:09

I wouldn't want to be Myra Hindley and I'm sure my husband wouldn't want that either. Can your husband take your name? Or can you pronounce it differently so instead of for example hindley you say highndlee?

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 03/08/2021 15:10

Nope. I'd say no. And suggest if he is that bothered about us having the same name he can change.

Would he have separated with you if he knew in advance you wouldnt take his name?

Cocolapew · 03/08/2021 15:10

Id let him be upset rather than introduce myself as Myra Hindley/Harold Shipman/Ghengis Khan.

burritofan · 03/08/2021 15:10

I would maybe double barrel instead
Bundy-Shipman has a lovely ring to it.

LarsErickssong · 03/08/2021 15:10

Not the same but my name is very similar to someone that was killed in a terrorist attack and it drives me mad the amount of people that comment on it when I tell them my name

Formaldeheidi · 03/08/2021 15:10

I mean, it’s got to be Rose West hasn’t it.

BrozTito · 03/08/2021 15:10

Well it was a pretty easy guess, nobody is called myra anymore

MrsPerfect12 · 03/08/2021 15:11

If it's someone as prominent as rose west then I wouldn't change it. If it's someone long dead then I don't see the issue.

Aquamarine1029 · 03/08/2021 15:11

Why is your husband upset?

muffindays · 03/08/2021 15:11

He takes your name!! Easy.

Moonlaserbearwolf · 03/08/2021 15:12

I think your new husband needs to be more understanding. I wouldn’t want the name of a famous serial killer. Ask him how he would feel if his name was Harold Shipman or Fred West.

BrozTito · 03/08/2021 15:12

Could call yourself Mary?

Hiphopopotamus · 03/08/2021 15:13

Sure you’re a feminist Hmm you’d just rather change your name to that of a serial killer than look at any other option

MNybvcx54 · 03/08/2021 15:13

If your husband really is upset that you might not be sharing the same surname after all, then I can think of no reason why he wouldn't take your surname.

grapewine · 03/08/2021 15:14

Not a chance I would. The comments would annoy me too much.

Cyw2018 · 03/08/2021 15:14

@ineedanewnameplease

I wouldn't want to be Myra Hindley and I'm sure my husband wouldn't want that either. Can your husband take your name? Or can you pronounce it differently so instead of for example hindley you say highndlee?
I really wanted the name 'Myra' on my shortlist for DD, but just couldn't do it. Such a pretty name that has been rendered unusable.

OP double barrel, or get your partner to take your surname, or make up a new surname.