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Weird letter received

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 06/07/2021 20:47

DH received this letter in the post today in a used NHS envelope that was stuck down with sellotape. Both of us are stumped to why it's been sent as I've googled and Mankind doesn't look to be part of NHS and the number is correct but the message on the letter has freaked us out,

has anyone ever had anything similar to this?

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Gothichouse40 · 07/07/2021 08:49

The NHS would not use 'text' speak in an official letter. Personally, Id chat informally to the police about this. Just incase you receive any others like this. It's definitely strange and Id keep the letter somewhere, just incase. I hope you don't receive anymore.

EduCated · 07/07/2021 08:50

I currently have about 5 of those envelopes sat waiting to go back to a post box. They’re used for vaccine reminders, and clearly previous tenants of my house haven’t updated their addresses. OP stated the envelope was used and sealed with sellotape - I really don’t think it ‘shows’ it must be someone from work or that it is anyways related to the NHS - it’s just a reused envelope.

The charity is also genuine, but clearly nothing to do with them.

So either someone thinks they’re doing the right thing and is misguided to the point of potentially being quite unwell/delusional, OP’s husband has had an affair and told someone she’s abusing him (I don’t think this is it personally), or someone is being malicious towards the husband or OP. There is also the possibility of mistaken identity in all of those scenarios.

GrimDamnFanjo · 07/07/2021 08:50

My money is it's someone he's met at work. Sounds like someone really unwell. I think he should log it at work in case there's an escalation.

MikeWozniaksGloriousTache · 07/07/2021 08:52

If the envelope came from his work (which many have said the envelopes are widely available and easily snaffled) would it be used? Surely it would be unused and not stuck down with sellotape?

I do think that asking for a check of his records to make sure no one has accessed them that shouldn’t have would be a good starting point at least.

Pinkpepper79 · 07/07/2021 08:53

Probably meant to be for someone else. Have you noticed anything odd about any neighbours

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Borisjohnsonshairbrush · 07/07/2021 09:09

maybe a dare off a mate? does he have pranks with mates where he messes about and someone has taken it too far?

has he done it to you yo see how you would react?

queenMab99 · 07/07/2021 09:11

As it was adressed to 'Mr Surname' with no initial it is more likely to be someone who knows you, rather than him.

ClawedButler · 07/07/2021 09:12

That is really creepy. I received something similar many years ago, but it asking how much I charge, assuming I was a prostitute I think. Freaked me right out. It's someone who has totally got the wrong end of the stick, and has a crush, and is weird.

My advice would be to hold on to the letter, put it in a drawer for now, and if anything else turns up (odd phone calls, letters, whatever) drop into a police station and show them.

theemmadilemma · 07/07/2021 09:12

I'd probably report to Police so it's on file. And then forget it.

You seem assured there's no cheating going on, you're in a position to know better than anyone.

Outside that, it could be anyone's guess. If it is a stalker, or whatever, all you can really do is wait for the next move.

TellingBone · 07/07/2021 09:30

@queenMab99

As it was adressed to 'Mr Surname' with no initial it is more likely to be someone who knows you, rather than him.
This.
NVision · 07/07/2021 09:30

Sounds like he is having an affair OP, sorry.

Might have made out he is trapped with you as his abusive partner, unable to escape you and leave for his other partner

PandemicAtTheDisco · 07/07/2021 09:32

My stalker believed my ex was abusive (he actually was in the end - but at the time my stalker didn't know him - my ex was just in his way and he wanted rid of him).

My stalker was 'very concerned' that my ex was controlling me, I was not happy in the relationship but was too scared to end things. I desperately wanted to be with him. I wanted to marry my stalker after I became engaged to my ex. I'd only became engaged to make my stalker jealous and ask me to marry him.

I had a local women's services contact me to offer support. They'd been contacted on my behalf or were doing a call back. I had an odd phone message left at work that people assumed was about my ex.

My stalker was sectioned many times and I stopped getting hassled by him at these times. He started getting very angry with me for not leaving my ex, he would then get apologetic and beg for forgiveness. He has now moved onto someone else and it's been a few years since I had any recognisable contact from him.

My stalker believed the only reason we were not together was because of my abusive ex. He never lived close enough to be a danger but I would have worried about my ex being attacked by him if he lived close by and knew more about us.

randomlyLostInWales · 07/07/2021 09:35

I'd check social media settings - and double just check there's no name/address linkage anywhere.

Ask neigbours and collegues discretely if they've had odd letters - may not just be your DH .

Think about doorbell camera and possibly contact police and see how helpful they are.

Then forget about it - you may never find out what it was about.

Twitchynose · 07/07/2021 09:41

That paper looks like the recycled paper that the NHS use too. I’d definitely be thinking that someone had printed that off in work with the paper and envelope. Worth him mentioning it to his boss or HR perhaps?

Firstbornunicorn · 07/07/2021 09:52

Coming on here to say, OP, that you don’t have to explain or justify your relationship to anyone. Sounds like you’re happy so keep doing what works for you.

TatianaBis · 07/07/2021 10:11

Whoever it is doesn’t seem to know his first name or his flat number.

PearlNextDoor · 07/07/2021 10:14

So it's somebody from his work surely.
He works for the NHS, the pre-paid envelope was NHS

comebacksunshines · 07/07/2021 10:30

If you’re gonna be that cryptic, surely it would extend as far as buying a plain envelope and a stamp. You wouldn’t use your employees identifiable stationary.
Most of the population will have had one of those envelopes after being asked to book a Covid jab.

ShrinkingViolet9 · 07/07/2021 10:32

@Addicted2LuvIsland

He is NHS and its in an NHS envelope. It's someone from his work.
Practically the entire adult population has received an NHS envelope since invitations for C-19 vaccination have been sent out.

I suggest more police procedural and less Love Island? Smile

MrsTulipTattsyrup · 07/07/2021 10:39

It’s very simple.

  • Person sending it believes for some reason that they have had a prior relationship with DH.
  • Can only believe that the reason DH hasn’t left OP for him/her is that OP is abusive.
  • Sends DH a link to resources for DV victims (just as we all always post like to Women’s Aid here for women in abusive relationships) in the hope it’ll help DH escape and be free to “come back to me”
  • Sender puts letter in reused vaccination invitation envelope, presumably in the absence of a new one, or to make it more likely that it will be opened.

What OP and DH need to work out is a) why this person believes they’ve had a relationship with DH (several possible answers for this, from obsession and mental illness up to actually being an ex) and b) what they’re going to do about it.

SirVixofVixHall · 07/07/2021 10:43

I think it is either as a pp suggested, someone who has tried to track down an ex or a crush with the same surname, and has found your address by mistake, or someone mentally ill. As there is no initial I think the latter is possible, surely if the person knew your DH they would have put his initial or name ? It doesn’t read like an affair to me at all, it is too peculiar.
DH had a bizarre, angry letter from an ex girlfriend years after they had split, they had only dated a few times for a month or so, so he hadn’t got to know her very well, but the letter was clearly from someone very paranoid and mentally ill- she was convinced that he had written a play about her that she’d heard on the radio, and wanted him to stop writing fiction based on her (he isn’t a writer, he has never written a radio play). It was quite disturbing as she was so angry, full of detail about him that bore no relation at all to what he does or how he is. It had gone to his old address I think, or maybe his work one, and then been forwarded, so I wasn’t worried about her turning up on my doorstep, but it was unsettling for both of us. He didn’t hear from her again.

Dontdripme · 07/07/2021 10:43

That is freaky!!!

Americam · 07/07/2021 10:46

I think it’s related to his work somehow.

What does his id badge have on it for his name, ie full name or just first name?

I also think it’s from someone relatively young who has taken a liking to him. Someone who has encountered him in his line of work, someone he’s been kind to, and potentially someone vulnerable (if they’re pregnant). Your dh has said something kind and caring and they’ve developed some sort of a crush, found out what they could about him, and sent the letter in that envelope to cover their identity,

It has a real smell of “young person with a crush trying desperately to contact crush for any and all legitimate reasons” to me!

Is it worth showing to his line manager just to cover all bases?

Borisjohnsonshairbrush · 07/07/2021 10:51

Just quick one,

Do you have older teens? The "leave ur" and "come back 2 me" Sounds like it could be written by someone young possibly immature.

I reckon its a wrong address job or a sick prank.

If it was an afffiar surely they would have your DP's number?