I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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Oh what an awful thing to happen. I'm so sorry for you all. No wonder you're panicking. Are you able to spend time with him now?

I couldn't read and run, I am so sorry you and your family are going through this.

Oh I am so sorry x

So sorry OP. Sending love and strength.

Oh op. I’m so sorry. Hard to find adequate words.

Will be thinking of you.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
I know it’s easier said than done but take every day as it comes

I am sorry to hear this @DollyParsnip. That is so hard for you all. What a shock.

Oh no..... sending hugs OP

Oh gosh how awful for you all, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Oh @DollyParsnip I have no words. Just please know that here on MN we will be with you every step of the way with support and sending love and hope for a positive outcome.

Thank you, it's so bloody weird!

The hospital are allowing visitors (in a booking system) and are confident enough for me to leave him - Thursday they found a room for me so I could stay, so the chaos is lessening but as some bits stabilise they're looking at new bits, hence the brain stuff. They can't scan as he's too unwell to move so it's just waiting.

I can't quite believe it.

Sending kindest thoughts and positive vibes

I'm so sorry you are going through this

I'm sorry you're dealing with this

I'm sure it is very hard. The hospital may be able to provide some support with talking to your daughter about this.

@DollyParsnip

I'm so sorry you're going thru this
There are no words 😶 but sending you lots of love 💕

Sorry I posted before finishing

Speak to chaplaincy (even if you are religious) as their staff are (in my experience) amazing

Absolutely unthinkable - purgatory for you. Sending strength

I'm sorry about your DH being so ill, that's awful. All the uncertainty and waiting to see how he does must be extremely upsetting and stressful too. Here with everyone else hoping for the best outcome for your DH and you.

This sounds absolutely horrific OP.

I'm so sorrry.

I am so sorry you are going through this.

I hope you have a great support next work around you.

Good God this is horrific. Do you have any RL support?

This is so awful. My brother went through something very similar when his wife died. It was awful, for quite a long time. But they are all ok now. She is never forgotten, but you and your DD can and will get through all of this, awful as it is. He had counselling for a while after from the counsellor attached to the ICU, which he found very helpful. Very best wishes.

I’m so sorry to hear this - how awful and unexpected, all you can do is spend time with him and hope for a miracle. My mum passed away unexpectedly before Christmas, all I could do was talk to her during her final hours and tell her how much I loved her and what an amazing mum she’d been - I’ll never know if she could hear me but I like to think that she could

Sorry OP