I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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How awful for you, I hope he pulls through.
Sending love and hugs

I am so sorry but also I will keep hoping

Sending love & hope xxxx

Thinking of you

Oh darling, so very, very sorry.

Sending you so much love and hope that things will work out okay ❤️

Thinking of you OP. Sending love and amazing luck for your DH.

Goodness OP, I'm so sorry

For what it's worth I think you sound amazing x

I’m very sorry, Dolly. That sounds horrifically hard, but also surreal given how sudden and unexpected it all was.

Wishing you and your husband the very best. I hope you get good news soon.

You sound awesome too. I'm so sorry you and DD are having to go through this x

I’m so sorry.

The medical team think there is a chance. They wouldn’t keep him in intensive care otherwise.

I’m so sorry @DollyParsnip. I’m not medical and I don’t have anything to offer but a handhold. Thinking of you.

Hoping for the best for you @Dolly

I am so sorry. That is awful. You are doing amazingly well and sound like an incredible mum. Praying for you and your daughter and husband. Sending lots of love and hugs.

Sending you so much love ❤️

I’m so sorry to hear this, OP. Thinking of you all

What a hard time for you all. Sending positive thoughts your way - and we are all here for you.

Oh I'm so very sorry OP I hope your DH pulls through 💔

Oh I am so sorry you are going through this - I really pray he pulls through xxx

I’m so sorry, you must be terrified.

Hoping he pulls through

Remember to look after yourself too x

Gosh, I'm so so sorry for you and your dd. You must be so shocked. Lean on as many people as possible and ask for help, lifts, food, anything that allows you some headspace. I hope he improves soon. X

Am thinking about you even though I don’t know you and sending all my thoughts your way, OP. Very, very best wishes and a hand hold for you and your family.

I am so very sorry this is happening to you and your family, we are all here for you whenever you need to chat xx

Oh I am so sorry. Sending prayers and hugs your way.

Op I’m so so sorry you’re going through this, what a shock for your whole family! I too have spent days watching a loved one in ICU, we were given a blank book/diary to write in. It was so helpful both at the time and afterwards. Just to record anything really, who popped in, what they said, a little story maybe. We would write things for my love one, how we were all rooting for him. It really helped us, I think the ICU team may be able to provide you with one? Or I’d love to send you one if you would be happy to pm me your address 💐💐 wishing you every strength