I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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Sending a hand hold OP x

Wishing you all the very best.

Thinking of you OP and sending hugs. I hope your husband pulls through

Thinking of you all and sending love and strength

I am so very sorry. Keep talking if you need to xx

Sending so much love OP. ICU is an amazing and terrifying place. I have been there. The only thing I can say is never give up hope - there is always hope. X

Oh god, that is the worst nightmare. Sending you a virtual hug and positive vibes. Wishing you and your daughter so much strength and love. xx

So so sorry this is happening xx

Sending lots of love to you.

Sending you lots of love

Fingers crossed he pulls through

Oh @DollyParsnip how heartbreaking to read you must be in so much shock still!

I have nothing to offer but a hug and a handhold..there is some great advice upthread.

I'm so sorry you are all going through this incredible stress. Remember to try and drink tea and eat some toast at least twice a day. Sending prayers and strength. Xx

Didn't want to read and run. So sorry to hear this.
It does sound like they are doing their very best to help him. The NHS is absolutely amazing.
Peeing sounds very promising.
Will be thinking of you and your daughter.

You and your family are in my prayers,Dolly
Sending lots of love

What an awful situation, I am so sorry to hear this. I really truly hope you have lots of support right now for you and your DD

This must be really hard for you and your DD.
I'm so sorry. Hoping he makes it through against the odds

Very best wishes to you and your DD. I hope that this time next year you will be able to look at your DH and say ' I knew you'd pull through'

What an awful time for you all. Sending you all strength to get through the next few hours/days

Beyond heartbreaking
Keep talking to him
Make sure you eat
❤️

So sorry OP, sending love and strength

If he hasn’t been able to have a scan yet then there’s still hope. Hopefully he’s more stable soon and can have the scan and it could be better news . Thinking of you, I hope you have some good real life support.

Oh I'm so sorry, thinking of you and sending lots of positive thoughts

Sending love ❤️