I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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I am genuinely so thankful for your lovely support and kindness, thank you.

I am v lucky to have good friends and family around, my in laws are here too, so we're all supporting each other but sometimes those thoughts get in and just overwhelm me.

I dread knowing more and dread not knowing in equal measure.

I am so sorry you are going through this op.

My thoughts are with you and your family

Very sorry to hear that.
I hope your DD can visit to say goodbye

So very sorry.

Thinking of you

This is a horrific thing for you and your daughter, and of course your husband, to be going through. Waiting can be absolute hell. You'll wonder how to get through it, but you will.

My very best thoughts with you all for a positive outcome

So sorry OP x

So very sorry

Op, I have no words to make you feel better. Through us here on MN you are bot alone. We are all here for you. Xx

Oh Dolly I am so very sorry.

Keeping you in my thoughts. Keep posting if you need company, there is always someone here through the night.

Would you like to tell us about your dh. How long have you been together?

💐

I am so sorry @DollyParsnip, it's important not to give up hope.

I nearly died and was in a coma 5 years ago, in ICU. DH was told I would die.

@Mumtofourandnomore I remember absolutely everything that was said around me and to me at the time. Vividly. Hearing is the very last thing to go. I am certain your DMum heard you and I am certain the OP's DH can hear her.

Much love @DollyParsnip

I'm so so sorry. I hope you have some real life support you can call on.

Do the team caring for him have a plan for the next few days? Have they talked to you about it?

Sending positive thoughts 💐

Thinking of you OP. Sending positive thoughts x

I'm so sorry @DollyParsnip

I used to work on a cardiac ITU and it can be very daunting / frightening. How is your daughter?

I hope you are resting as much as you can. Talk to your DH - he may be able to hear you.

Sending lots of love x

Dolly, I am so sorry - thinking of you

So sorry OP sending you lots of positive vibes to get you through

Sending positive thoughts and a virtual handhold

I'm so sorry Dolly. Thinking of you x

Oh my god I'm so sorry, what awful shocking news.

Thinking of you

I'm so sorry op. I cannot imagine how this must feel. I would be an absolute wreck. Sending

Oh goodness, I'm so sorry. I hope you are able to get some positive news and reassurance. It sounds like you have great support in real life and on here.

I’m so sorry. What a shock and so unexpected. Just sending

Thinking of you and your family today.

Thank you so much, you are all brilliant

I am definitely talking to him, about all sorts - the nurses make me so teary as they are always chatting to him about what they're doing and everything, it's bizarrely quite lovely!

The plan is to keep waiting and seeing; his chest needs closing at some point then gradually more should become clear. He started to pee today which is really encouraging!

DD is just awesome, she is aware of everything (mostly) but is being well supported by her school and her friends and I've said she can talk to me about anything, if I cry it's not because she's made me upset.

Trying to take it gently for all of our sakes.

Thank you again for such wonderful messages xx

So sorry to read this. You look like a very strong woman. Bless you and your family.