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DH taken to hospital by ambulance at 11am. How long before I hear anything?

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NewMatress · 21/05/2021 14:06

Will I hear anything?

I'm sick of the Covid rules now . He was in hospital for 2 months without a single visitor, had to receive the news that his cancer was terminal and there won't be any more treatment, in hospital, on his own, by telephone because the consultant was shielding.

He's seriously ill, we know there's little to be done for him, but the hospice won't increase his pain relief without having him medically assessed because he has new chest pain. I do understand the reasons but...

I wasn't allowed to go with him today and had to see him go, screaming in pain from being moved and begging me not to send him, he's already spent too many of his last weeks in hospital without his family. Although terminal, still no visits until the last days. I understand why he didn't want to go, I couldn't get the pain relief he needs without having him assessed though.

He's not answering his phone, I don't know if he's well enough to contact me and I haven't heard anything.

How long do I wait before calling the hospital?

OP posts:
sundayistheday · 21/05/2021 14:08

Oh goodness. I would call. Anyone would understand and at least then someone will hopefully register your concern and know you are waiting. So sorry OP.

DinosaurDiana · 21/05/2021 14:08

Phone now.

Oldandcold · 21/05/2021 14:08

Call now for your own peace of mind.

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saraclara · 21/05/2021 14:10

Absolutely call now.

ContinuousMonotoneBeep · 21/05/2021 14:10

Call the hospital yourself. It's the best way and there's no reason why you can't

You're in a horrendous situation, I'm so sorry.

ContinuousMonotoneBeep · 21/05/2021 14:10

Call the hospital yourself now, I meant.

TokyoSushi · 21/05/2021 14:11

OH OP that sounds really difficult, I'd call.

tenlittlecygnets · 21/05/2021 14:12

I'm so sorry, op. How stressful. Sending 💐 and a hand-hold.

CoffeeRunner · 21/05/2021 14:13

I would also call the hospital for an update.

YouLookSoCool · 21/05/2021 14:13

I'd call them now, and not be worried about phoning them again later this evening for an update. Sorry you are both going through this.

MotherOfGremlins · 21/05/2021 14:13

Call them x

Elbie79 · 21/05/2021 14:14

Sending you love and strength x

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 21/05/2021 14:14

Call now.

EL8888 · 21/05/2021 14:16

another vote to call now. Thinks of your husband and you

user11838686969686 · 21/05/2021 14:16

I'm so sorry.

Call now. They won't call you. And do not feel guilty for a second about chasing them and pushing them until you get the answers you need.

AllDoneIn · 21/05/2021 14:16

So sorry you are going through this. It's a nightmare for you both even in normal times. Do call and I hope you have real life support too Flowers

LIZS · 21/05/2021 14:19

Yes call now. He should have been assessed.

EllJ · 21/05/2021 14:20

So so sorry to hear this. Please call, even if you can't get an immediate update then they'll hopefully tell you when you can call back, or they might offer to call back as soon as there's an update Thanks

AtoZed · 21/05/2021 14:21

Am so sorry to hear this. 💐

purpleme12 · 21/05/2021 14:23

Bloody hell this is awful
Surely there must be some exceptions for this
I would call them whenever!

NewMatress · 21/05/2021 14:26

Ok, so I've been on hold 10 min and counting and now I'm worried that he might be trying to get through...

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PabloSlow · 21/05/2021 14:26

This situation is beyond awful. Call, hope you get to speak to someone, hopefully DH Flowers

ncgy · 21/05/2021 14:27

How awful. I would call.

My dh was seriously unwell & I was permitted to see him twice. They were really understanding.

HollowTalk · 21/05/2021 14:28

That's so awful for you both. I'm so sorry.

Bumzoo · 21/05/2021 14:30

I hope you get through soon

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