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ADs teach twisted lyrics to their pet tortoise

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BogRollBOGOF · 11/03/2021 22:33

Crawling back to normality slightly slower than a tortoise taking the scenic route...

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4173705-ADs-picnic-in-the-park-with-Twinkle-the-Tortoise

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Seriouslymole · 12/03/2021 16:42

And yes, re the whole rubbish situation and general "rough" feeling. What is going on? It feels a bit like we're on implode mode round here and we live in a generally "nice" area.

TabbyStar · 12/03/2021 16:47

I was in our nearest city centre early evening earlier in the week and it felt horrible, nearly deserted but also quite threatening, I hated it.

AcornAutumn · 12/03/2021 16:50

@Seriouslymole

And yes, re the whole rubbish situation and general "rough" feeling. What is going on? It feels a bit like we're on implode mode round here and we live in a generally "nice" area.
Ah, interesting to hear from someone in a nice area

I think it's bored people, angry people. I think a lot of the discarded masks are a protest and I understand that.

Small groups of drinkers meeting outdoors - no garden. Where mum is, many people have gardens and we hear a lot of fireworks, people are going mad from boredom.

amicissimma · 12/03/2021 16:51

@AcornAutumn, last time I took a train there were 5 people on it. Me, a member of the railway staff and three police. I braced myself but they all ignored me.

But, in the hope that it gives you confidence, the government itself says that You don’t have to stop or answer any questions.

"A police officer might stop you and ask:

what your name is
what you’re doing in the area
where you’re going

You don’t have to stop or answer any questions. If you don’t and there’s no other reason to suspect you, then this alone can’t be used as a reason to search or arrest you."

AcornAutumn · 12/03/2021 16:51

I also think a lot of the dog shit is because people got dogs from boredom and won't clear up after them.

AcornAutumn · 12/03/2021 16:52

[quote amicissimma]@AcornAutumn, last time I took a train there were 5 people on it. Me, a member of the railway staff and three police. I braced myself but they all ignored me.

But, in the hope that it gives you confidence, the government itself says that You don’t have to stop or answer any questions.

"A police officer might stop you and ask:

what your name is
what you’re doing in the area
where you’re going

You don’t have to stop or answer any questions. If you don’t and there’s no other reason to suspect you, then this alone can’t be used as a reason to search or arrest you."[/quote]
Thank you

I know but that doesn't make me feel any better. I'm scared of the police now,

Seriouslymole · 12/03/2021 17:03

@AcornAutumn

I also think a lot of the dog shit is because people got dogs from boredom and won't clear up after them.
Yes, this drives me crazy as well. So many people got puppies during lockdown - it remains to be seen as to whether they will be responsible dog owners - my guess is that not all will.
TabbyStar · 12/03/2021 17:19

DD has done quite a lot of long-ish journeys on the train and no one's ever said anything to her. She said trains last weekend were busier than they have been for a while. I've been doing a lot of driving about too (mostly legit!) and no one's bothered me.

Curlygirl06 · 12/03/2021 17:21

@Seriouslymole welcome fellow tortoise owner! My tortoise is an Indian star, tropical non- hibernating one. She's only 4 months old, I was given her for my big birthday in January.

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BogRollBOGOF · 12/03/2021 17:30

I've noticed more dog shit too. I reckon more random family members walking dogs as an excuse to get out (especially in the first lockdown) or more walks because of WFH. I'm not sure if bins are filling up more or emptied less frequently but they frequently stink. The nearby countryside is generally looking considerably more trampled and there's lots more signs about dogs on leads/ footpath/ not feeding horses, and fencing to keep people on the paths. Not been an issue in the previous years that I've been trail running.

The one thing I was judgy about with the "flocking" last year was the disgusting amount of litter/ bbq burns left around last spring/ summer before the pubs opened, but then the devestation left behind after festivals is repulsive too. Except the countryside doesn't have teams avaliable to sort it out each weekend.

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Seriouslymole · 12/03/2021 17:32

[quote Curlygirl06]@Seriouslymole welcome fellow tortoise owner! My tortoise is an Indian star, tropical non- hibernating one. She's only 4 months old, I was given her for my big birthday in January.[/quote]
Thank you :) My DD is slightly animal mad - in addition to Flash we have two rats, various fish and a greyhound. Our tortie is nearly 3 years old I think. We've been through 2 hibernations and the first year s/he was too little.

AcornAutumn · 12/03/2021 17:33

To be clear, I'm on the Tube twice a week and haven't seen any police

I just thought they might target Mother's Day because...well, police.

Re dogs, I just hope they rehome them. Call me selfish but i'm more concerned about noise in my block of flats.

bakingcupcakes · 12/03/2021 20:57

@BogRollBOGOF When you get the EHCP through make sure you go through it thoroughly. They have a habit of writing them to be more 'beneficial' money saving to the council rather than the child. Lots of wooly wording (like aiming to provide so many hours support not will provide it etc.) My friend says it's got worse since covid.

Another lovely tortoise! Keep the pics coming ladies Grin

ISaySteadyOn · 12/03/2021 20:57

DH and I were just chatting. We had a thought. Does anyone remember that bit in Neil Gaiman's Sandman where the angels take over hell and it's worse? This is a bit like that.

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BogRollBOGOF · 12/03/2021 21:12

[quote bakingcupcakes]@BogRollBOGOF When you get the EHCP through make sure you go through it thoroughly. They have a habit of writing them to be more 'beneficial' money saving to the council rather than the child. Lots of wooly wording (like aiming to provide so many hours support not will provide it etc.) My friend says it's got worse since covid.

Another lovely tortoise! Keep the pics coming ladies Grin[/quote]
Thanks for that. I do feel like I'm fumbling a bit in the dark on it, but it all seems to be taken fairly seriously so far... except from the school who were far too full to have him in prior to this week despite the lack of work. They get away with it because it's a small cosy school, but chatting to the consultant earlier, we share concerns about secondary transition and adjustment. We had no TA support for his class at all in y4 (or what he did of it!) This year his class does have some TA time and he does mention the class TA.

Poor kid sobbed shortly after coming home yesterday; they'd been doing self-portaits in art and the eyes on his own drawing had scared him that much. At least my mask phobia is an insight into his world!

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justasking111 · 12/03/2021 23:13

My surgery replied. Yes sorry I had slipped through the cracks should have been contacted, so I get the first jab on Wednesday. I wonder how often that happens sigh...

ISaySteadyOn · 13/03/2021 06:05

Good luck @justasking111.

I am awake stupid early because I have not been able to sleep. I had the horrible realisation that even if all this does end (and I am still unconvinced it ever will), I will live the rest of my (probably shortened) life on a knife edge waiting for everything to be snatched away again.

And I no longer trust any public institutions at all with the notable exceptions of the posties, bin men, and firefighters. The rest of them, well, they are not there to help anymore are they?

And I feel such anger and I have to hold it in to protect my children. I have not told my parents or my sister exactly what I think of them and their dementory ways because I don't want to wreck my children's relationship with them. Though my sister most likely hates me anyway.

The only people I can tell this to are you lot. And I hate having these feelings but what can I do? The whole goddamn world is telling me my existence is wrong.

I just want to stop being now, thanks.

bakingcupcakes · 13/03/2021 06:39

@ISaySteadyOn I hope you feel better later on. I feel similar with regards to things being snatched away. And I feel generally mistrustful of those 'above'. I'm also peeved as the new series of Handmaid's Tale is out soon. I've loved it from the start but I tried rewatching 1-3 a few weeks ago and it's lost the enjoyment factor because I feel like I could wake up in 10 years time and discover I'm living in Giliad. This whole never-ending situation is very unnerving.

@BogRollBOGOF I'm not knowledgeable on EHCPs at all other than the conversations I've had with my friend over it. Her DC has always had 1-2-1 support in class which they tried to remove even though the situation hasn't improved. Her DC had improved but because the 1-2-1 he had was excellent. She got a lot of help from some of the disability groups via Facebook on how to approach things. However, her council had a habit of agreeing to things at meetings and then they'd send this fluffily worded EHCP out that she felt wasn't worth the paper it was written on. She spends substantial time checking everything they send out now.

Iheartmysmart · 13/03/2021 07:30

@ISaySteadyOn feeling exactly the same here. I don’t want my future to be scouring the news for anything that will give the government reason to snatch away my freedom but I fear it will. Was never the most trusting of people at the best of times and you are right, many public institutions are certainly not here to help us.

TrustTheGeneGenie · 13/03/2021 08:51

@ISaySteadyOn

Good luck *@justasking111*.

I am awake stupid early because I have not been able to sleep. I had the horrible realisation that even if all this does end (and I am still unconvinced it ever will), I will live the rest of my (probably shortened) life on a knife edge waiting for everything to be snatched away again.

And I no longer trust any public institutions at all with the notable exceptions of the posties, bin men, and firefighters. The rest of them, well, they are not there to help anymore are they?

And I feel such anger and I have to hold it in to protect my children. I have not told my parents or my sister exactly what I think of them and their dementory ways because I don't want to wreck my children's relationship with them. Though my sister most likely hates me anyway.

The only people I can tell this to are you lot. And I hate having these feelings but what can I do? The whole goddamn world is telling me my existence is wrong.

I just want to stop being now, thanks.

I feel the same with the mistrust. The exclusion of posties, bin men and firefighters really made me smile though. I can't say I have ever "trusted" the police. I've not been brought up to think that way, but in my adult life I've noticed that when you need them they are not there, but always seem to have someone available to put in a secluded corner with a speed gun.
Taswama · 13/03/2021 09:16

Morning all. Was awake stupidly early after having a dream where I was lost trying to deliver food parcels to care home residents and realised I was up Lakey hill (somewhere in Borsetshire) looking down on a lake.

DP was also tossing and turning and at one point checked the clock radio and then went back to bed so it must have been too early even for him (so pre 6am).

Met a new person at work yesterday, who was lovely. No kids but talked about only being able to watch TV with gentle themes and talked about everything being snatched away from her. We had a bit of a chat about feminism and I recommended Mumsnet. She said she'd already discovered it, so maybe she's on here. I know from you guys it's not just parents affected but it really brought that home to me.

110APiccadilly · 13/03/2021 09:28

Our town council have finally decided to reopen one of the closed playgrounds - from 10 to 2, on weekdays. Just as KS1 (or Foundation Phase, as they call it here) are going back to school.

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BogRollBOGOF · 13/03/2021 09:44

@110APiccadilly

Our town council have finally decided to reopen one of the closed playgrounds - from 10 to 2, on weekdays. Just as KS1 (or Foundation Phase, as they call it here) are going back to school.
For flip's sake! Is closing playgrounds actually even a thing generally. Why on earth would they piss about with opening and closing it, and such stupid hours too???
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ISaySteadyOn · 13/03/2021 10:22

Child hating jobsworths. Just angry now.

MrsEWeatherwax · 13/03/2021 12:05

Re Mother’s Day on the news they were saying don’t visit. Go to a park and have a coffee/ walk picnic. It’s 6 degrees here today, my DM doesn’t want to have a picnic in the cold! What’s the difference of seeing your mother in a park to other side of driveway etc.