Does your partner call you during his work day?

[3inthefuckingmorning]

I am a SAHM, with a baby and a 4 year old. Been on lots of walks lately with friends who are also mums at home with babies or kids at school. Nearly all of them get a phone call from there partners while they are at work, just to say hello and see how things are going. My partner doesn't do this and when I told him all my friends get calls he said it is weird.

Does your partner/ DH/DW call you?

No, but he’d always text if we’d had a rough night or one of us was feeling unwell or something. Or to check if he needed to pick anything up from the shop, that sort of thing.

Even when he’s working from home we don’t t tend to speak much during the day - he’s working and needs to concentrate, and I have plenty to do as well. Just brief ‘Fancy a coffee / I’m going for a lunchtime walk, do you want to come’ type interactions.

Rarely, before covid he would wfh two days a week whilst I was at work. I would text at lunch time to check the kids were ok. When he was in the office he would be busy so I would get, 'a miss you all text' but that is about it. He would have a long commute home though and without fail ring me on his way back which I thought was sweet.

Now he is wfh all week he pops up with a coffee for me on his break and tries to have lunch with us but otherwise works solidly.

Nothing needy, nothing sinister

Nope, just plain old fashioned giving a shit.

Would have only been for something urgent so rarely .

It is annoying when you spend the day with a friend and their phone continually rings and they are having a chat with their other half about absolutely nothing. Sometimes even Facetime, and no I don't want to say hello.
Luckily I no longer see that particular friend.

Yes he phones on at least one of his breaks and usually texts as well.

We text or email most days, sometimes one will ask the other how their day is going, or share a link to something of interest, or discuss what shopping needs to be picked up, or an idea for the weekend that has just occurred to us. Both of us are so mentally tired by the end of the day it helps to share these thoughts when we have them. But we are both sitting at desk jobs where a moment of thought like this is a trade off for the times we spend thinking about how to solve a work problem on our own time.

If he has gone to the office (now v rare) I get a phone call as he is walking to the car to let me know when he'll be home (office is 70 miles away) and to discuss what's for dinner. Other than that an occasional text if he sees an even that looks interesting or wants to suggest a takeaway for dinner

Mines a train driver, so phone only on breaks. He often sends me a text or a quick call, although i don't expect it.
See him enough as it is 😂

@lunar1 stealth bragging

I'm a SAHP and he's mostly working from home at the moment, so it works be pretty odd!
But in all the years we have been together, and all the different workplaces we've been in, no. Unless there was an emergency.
Never seen the point of it - we'll see each other at home.
Colleagues and friends alike have thought it was strange but quite honestly, neither of us have felt it necessary.

No. I would have bitten his head off if he did that when I was on mat leave. I was run off my feet the whole time.

Children are older now. We whatsapp each other and the children maybe a couple of times a day with something interesting or silly that then forms part of the evening conversation. No expectation whatsoever that it is looked at during the working/school day.

God no. We're both working and don't have time for a chat.

I'd not even want him to do it when I was/will be on maternity leave, it would interfere with my day.

No. If theres important info I might drop him a quick email. I will message family group chat if I need to pass info on.

Nope. If someone was ill he might check in to see how they were doing, or he might message me with an errand that needs doing, but just ringing for a chat? Nope, never.

Sometimes. I don't expect him to, but sometimes he does.

Me and DH are pretty much joined at the hip and I don't care if people think it's needy! We are definitley going to be one of those old couples who do everything together (you know, the ones people often think are really sweet and romantic) Funny how it's not sweet (desperate/needy/sinister) if you are not elderly?

No, but we WhatsApp when we feel like it/have time.
If I was a SAHP with small children I would like them to ring me I guess?

No, only if there is a need or he's away overnight.

There was the time he went up the motorway to a meeting then had to drive straight down to the airport. I got a few calls that day because he forgot his passport and I had to try and cross paths at motorway services on a tight schedule

@LolaSmiles

Only if he needs something or he needs to get a message to me. He might forward something funny to me that he's read on his break.

I'd find it quite odd and suffocating if I had a partner who expected me to call them throughout the day for no reason. It seems quite needy to me.

We ring each other because we want to not because it's expected.

It's not needy in the slightest. We happen to like each other a lot and always seem to have masses to talk about even after 40 years of marriage.

Each to their own but we like talking or texting. Maybe not every day but most days and some times (shock horror) more than once a day!

@MrsRogerLima

Urgh no, I used to work with a woman who spoke to her husband every lunchtime without fail.

What on earth they had to say to each other every day I don't know. They lived in each other pockets

Well we haven't run out of things to say/talk about after 40 years.

I get that some people don't talk to their OH's every day or even any day but no need to be nasty about those that do.

I would find it odd if my DH never phoned or sent a text especially if he is working away.

Never !
I’ve only called him when I crashed the car !

Only to let me know if he is coming home earlier or later than expected or to see if I need anything picking up or uf there was something I need to know.
I think the last time he phoned was about a week ago to say his mate at a garage could fit the car in for a mot the next day and asking if that was a good time fir me.
Sometimes if he is on a long journey he may call to see how everyone is.

No. If we are both working we may exchange the occasional text/call/email (we work for the same organisation although different sites) but if one of us working and the other off we generally leave each other alone. I'll call if I have something I need to speak to him about but if he doesn't answer the phone I assume he's busy with a prisoner (he's a custody sergeant)

I do text sometimes with anything interesting though if he's working and I'm off, but don't get marked if he doesn't reply. Sometimes he's busy, sometimes not, but he can't leave the block so you can imagine when it's empty or only a few prisoners in he gets bored