Does your partner call you during his work day?

[3inthefuckingmorning]

I am a SAHM, with a baby and a 4 year old. Been on lots of walks lately with friends who are also mums at home with babies or kids at school. Nearly all of them get a phone call from there partners while they are at work, just to say hello and see how things are going. My partner doesn't do this and when I told him all my friends get calls he said it is weird.

Does your partner/ DH/DW call you?

Dh and I text a lot. When I was a SAHM, it was easier in his job. Now we occasionally text on my work days as I am too busy with the children at work.

One of my mum friend's husband's called her constantly when he was at work. That was odd to me.

We've never called each other at work just to have a chat. I do think that's quite unusual - I've worked in offices for over 20 years and have been able to hear the conversations all around me. I've never heard a colleague receive a call from their partner just for a chat, only the occasional emergency call if something important has happened.

@mooncakes

Only if we need something, not for a chat.

This ^^

We pre-date mobile phones, and back in the day personal phone calls were frowned on at work. This ethic has stayed with us.

That said, we both WFH now, so we do chat now and again.

No. I'm at work and my phone is switched off so he would only call my work number if It was really urgent.

I used to work with someone whose boyfriend called her several times a day at work. I used to think what is so important that it can't wait until tonight?

As I wasn't her manager I couldn't tell her to ask him to stop, but our manager did, and nothing changed. I then said that the company turned a blind eye to people making and receiving personal phone calls as long as we didn't take the piss, and that if she was seen to be taking the piss it would spoil it for all of us. That fell on deaf ears as well.

Needless to say she wasn't kept on after her probation period ended, and when they checked her browsing history after she left there were loads of non work related websites on there. It explained why she had completed only 3 pages of a publication we were working on where I had completed 80 pages.

If I worked with someone whose partner rang them several times a day I'd be assuming they were in an abusive relationship with a someone who demanded that every minute of their day is accounted for.

@wellthatsunusual

We've never called each other at work just to have a chat. I do think that's quite unusual - I've worked in offices for over 20 years and have been able to hear the conversations all around me. I've never heard a colleague receive a call from their partner just for a chat, only the occasional emergency call if something important has happened.

Well I don't think it is unusual at all. I worked in offices for over 40 years and it was very common for colleagues to receive calls frequently from their wives, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends plus parents.

As almost all of the offices were open plan you could hear a lot of the calls and they were almost always just chat.

I am talking using the work phone then not a mobile.

Dh is working this morning.
He has just phoned me to see if I fancy any thing from the bakery on his way home.
I dont mind those phone calls!!

Occasionally, and I mean very occasionally 🤷‍♀️ He’s never called me just to chat.

Normally a few texts, eg can you pass Asda on the way home, or who’s picking the kids up?!?

Well I don't think it is unusual at all. I worked in offices for over 40 years and it was very common for colleagues to receive calls frequently from their wives, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends plus parents.

I'm of a similar vintage and that is the complete opposite of my experience. When I started work, even though we had phones on our desks, it was impossible for anybody ringing in to get past the operator unless unless it was an emergency. If we wanted an outside number, it had to be connected through the operator. In my next job it was similar but there was only one phone between 15 people. There was a payphone for personal calls. Things didn't really change until mobile phones became commonplace in the late 1990s but even then personal calls during work time were frowned upon and rare.

@Etulosba

Well I don't think it is unusual at all. I worked in offices for over 40 years and it was very common for colleagues to receive calls frequently from their wives, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends plus parents.

I'm of a similar vintage and that is the complete opposite of my experience. When I started work, even though we had phones on our desks, it was impossible for anybody ringing in to get past the operator unless unless it was an emergency. If we wanted an outside number, it had to be connected through the operator. In my next job it was similar but there was only one phone between 15 people. There was a payphone for personal calls. Things didn't really change until mobile phones became commonplace in the late 1990s but even then personal calls during work time were frowned upon and rare.

Thinking about it, as a secretary most of the calls for my different bosses came to me and I had to put them through. They all got personal calls from their OH's regularly. They were all solicitors so were meant to be busy!

One of my female bosses (solicitor) was married to someone who was (and still is) on tv fairly often. He was lovely and very friendly and he rang so often and always chatted to me that I almost felt he was a friend

Gosh no, this would be my nightmare!

We've always tended to whatsapp or msn.

Some of our best arguments have been that way, lol.

Now he's on one side of the dining table, and I'm on the other. . . . and we now both work for the same sodding company! But yes, we've always been in contact during the day, but not ringing each other to talk.

Oh, and in the early noughties, I was PA for a very senior dude, in a very big company. He told me, if any member of my family rings me, unless I'm in a meeting with the Pope himself, you put them through. I got on very good terms with his racehorse trainer and his wife, and he and his wife decided that I was responsible enough to vet the calls from his children. . .

I have the least clingy man in the world, however he nearly always gives me a quick bell from work. I don't even know why. He just chats away and asks if I'd like anything brought in with him when he comes home. He's a good egg. Likes a chat 😂