Does your partner call you during his work day?

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I am a SAHM, with a baby and a 4 year old. Been on lots of walks lately with friends who are also mums at home with babies or kids at school. Nearly all of them get a phone call from there partners while they are at work, just to say hello and see how things are going. My partner doesn't do this and when I told him all my friends get calls he said it is weird.

Does your partner/ DH/DW call you?

DH calls me all the bloody time, just to chat and it drives me bonkers. I never call him unless it's something urgent.

It would drive me mental. Pet hate of mine that some people need constant reassurance. Then again, I'm single

No, if he called i would fear the worse,

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No, if he called i would fear the worse,

Same here-if I saw it was him as it rang I would be 'oh no what catastrophe has happened?'

Rarely, if it's something important
but he will usually text a few times throughout the day if he has time.

No. A text maybe, but only if something comes up, like "Do I need to take next Wednesday off for us to go to X?" Never just for chit chat.

No, we would only call each other with an emergency during the working day

Yes. Used to be once it twice a shift to check in or tell me about an incident that's happened.

At the moment it's more once every hour/couple of hours for a phone call
and texting in-between. We've had a bad time recently, we needed to keep in close contact.

No, only texts when on the way home or at lunch.

I found it odd that some of my friends husbands would phone and checked what they were doing during mat leave.

Only when he's on the road or not so busy. It's not weird but sometimes it's not practical to call during work. Depends on the job.

Rarely, and only if it is something important. Never idle chat.

I can't remember the last time he sent me a text, from work or anywhere else.

Only to impart information. We text sometimes. But generally I wouldn’t think anything of it if I heard nothing from him all day and vice versa.

No. We text but nothing exciting. Usually just checking in or asking what’s for tea, can you pick up bread type messages or reminders of stuff we need to do.

Nope. Sends me a few texts on his lunch break but that’s it. I’d honestly think something was wrong if he called me, he knows I’m not a fan of phone calls so only generally calls in emergencies .

No why would he? He's a teacher and not contactable. Plus I don't like to bother him unless its an emergency. We text occasionally if we need to.

If DH called me during the working day I'd think something awful must have happened. I'd be embarrassed to take or make a chatty call during the working day. If it's something like get milk on your way home I'd send a text but wouldn't call except in an emergency.

He wouldn't call me either for all the same reasons.

We'd only call if we needed something or it was something that couldn't wait generally.
We email things that need to be asked or that need to know but not urgently.

So he'd email "going to be late tonight because I've a meeting that's been postponed so I won't finish until 6pm" but he'd call if he was saying "I've got a puncture, can you pick me up or shall I get the bus that leaves in 10 minutes?"
I'd email and say "how on earth do you get the printer to connect to the wifi?" but call to say "I've got to take ds to A&E can you be home to meet dd when she comes home at 3:45."

Although he's currently wfh so we do a bit more talking. Like "help, I've just thrown coffee all over my laptop...."

DP and I only ever ring each other if something urgent has happened. We only ever message each other to let the other know when we're leaving work.

I'm thinking about the fathers of my children, and I'm not sure. Probably not for a chat, but they probably would've called from time to time to sort out practicalities and perhaps we'd have a chat. Current partner; no, we don't. We text here and there. But all different situationally as we don't have children together or live together

He is ed to in the early days, quite often, to keep up moral - more recently but before covid he used to call me every morning while he was walking down Embankment or to an office via Bloomsbury, or somewhere else but they were the most memorable, while I drank my coffee he’d describe the street scene. It was such a lovely way to connect every morning. Now he’s at home zooming all day - we sneak moments with each other. I think we were unusual compared to my friends.

I don't understand the need to check on people who are working/during the day to see if they are ok. Why wouldn't they be?

Because not everyone is ok or having an ok time and a quick text or phone call can make both parties feel better.

No not in 30 years, he doesn’t have his phone in work with him as it is not allowed. Even when I was pregnant and on maternity leave, I just had the office phone to call if it was an emergency. But then I have always been used to just getting on with it. He also doesn’t call me to say he is on his way home unless he is stopping at Tesco then he might send a text to see if I need anything.
I work too now and if he is at home he doesn’t expect me to call him even though I have my phone on my desk and can use it when I want.
However I now have 2 D.C. at university and we have random WhatsApp during the day, they know if I am busy I will ignore them until later. They do the same to me!

Not a call no. We might exchange a couple of WhatsApp messages if we have something to tell the other one but apart from that no. Ours are older now but when they were tiny it would be a text or something. He's busy at work and so am I.

OP, there's nothing wrong with partners who call each other, just as there's nothing wrong with those who don't. We don't because it just doesn't suit us but the faux aghast 'why would anyone do that' comments from some posters are just a little silly. Different strokes and all that.

Normally only if I text first to ask something that cant wait and then he doesn't respond straightaway. Sometimes, if things have been stressful at home and he knows I'm struggling a bit (we have two kids with additional needs and sometimes it is hard) he will just drop me a quick text to see how I am. But that isn't every day. I am quite happy for him not to text all the time.