DD 14 drink spiked

[Holdingtherope]

I am at work tonight. Unbeknown to me, daughter and friends snuck out to a party. Looks like my daughter was either spiked or drunk too much.

She is fine, going in the ambulance to hospital. What will they do? I feel so helpless. Husband in bed and can’t wake him.

Suitable punishment? Only child who has hot teenager age yet and it’s so unknown. I just don’t know what to do

I assume they will try and decide if she has been spiked or just drunk too much as this will determine what treatment if any she receives. Can you not leave work as emergency time off for dependent? Who will be at the hospital with her?

Perhaps her experience tonight will be punishment enough?

I am the only RMN in a care home. The on call isn’t picking up and the next nurse cant get here until 6. Her friends are with her at hospital

I'd be raging with your husband tbh! Presumably he should have his phone on loud if you're at work and knowing DD not home??

DD will learn from this, try not to be too harsh. I remember getting totally drunk at a similar age... my parents didn't punish me as they realised I felt bad enough. Never did it again.

Your dd needs a parent with her in hospital???

Are you going with her ?

She doesn’t need a punishment- her consequence is being served to her right now. I can’t believe no one can over you and your husband won’t waken up. That’s awful. Sorry you can’t be with your daughter. 😔

Yep - she's going to feel AWFUL and be terrified. Can you get off work?

You need to call a relative or neighbour to wake him. The hospital will insist on having next of kin present or how can they decide on treatment?

In my experience she must be in a bad way if they took her to hospital, they do their best to ask you to go home and sober up, especially if you have friends to escort and look after you.

Perhaps she may get her stomach pumped if it’s alcohol poisoning. They will absolutely look into whether she’s been spoiled

Spoiled=spiked sorry

You need to keep ringing your husband. Hope she’s ok. My son is 14 in a few months and the thought of this being him is scary x

It's a fairly typical scenario, she's much more likely to have had too much to drink at a teenage party rather than been spiked.
I hope she wasn't too unwell, but why couldn't your DH have been woken?

Her friends are with her at hospital she needs an adult there not a bunch of presumably also drunk 14 year olds!

Can’t wake him? Can’t wake him? Ffs make him get up and parent!!

Yes your husband needs to get out of bed

Do you have access to his find my iPhone /iCloud account or android equivalent? You can force his phone to play a loud noise

Whatever happens to her next is punishment enough.

However you do need to look into how she snuck out and I would give a consequence for that.

Did your husband know she went out or did he sleep through it all?

Can’t wake him? Can’t wake him? Ffs make him get up and parent!!

Presumably she’s trying. What do you propose she does? She’s at work and can’t exactly leave.

'She is fine' despite an ambulance taking her to hospital?!

Are there any neighbours or friends who might still be up who could pop round and hammer the door?

Do hospitals have protocols when unattended children are brought in?

@ChidiAnnaKendrick

Can’t wake him? Can’t wake him? Ffs make him get up and parent!!

Perhaps you could provide some advice on how to do this to accompany your comment? It wouldn't look so stupid then

OP is there anyone at all that can go knock your door to wake him? If not someone that can go to the hospital until you can?

This is one of the reasons we still have a landline. None of us can sleep through the landline ringing.

And what was the husband thinking of going to bed while the 14 year old is out at a party? I would also be raging at him.

I'm sure they would have a protocol which might mean the police knocking op's door or calling social services.

I would give the ward his number. Was he supposed to be in charge of your dd?