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DD 14 drink spiked

204 replies

Holdingtherope · 01/01/2020 01:08

I am at work tonight. Unbeknown to me, daughter and friends snuck out to a party. Looks like my daughter was either spiked or drunk too much.

She is fine, going in the ambulance to hospital. What will they do? I feel so helpless. Husband in bed and can’t wake him.

Suitable punishment? Only child who has hot teenager age yet and it’s so unknown. I just don’t know what to do

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Daisydoola · 01/01/2020 01:39

I don't think you should be considering punishments at the moment.

They won't have taken her to hospital on the busiest night if the year without good cause.

You need to get someone over to be with her if you can't wake your DH. And I don't mean her 14 yo friends.

If she's been spiked it could be serious, I'm not trying to worry you at all but she'll need one of you with her when she starts coming down/sobering up

Pieceofpurplesky · 01/01/2020 01:39

What? You need to get to your DD if you can't wake your H. Hospital will call SOCIAL services

CareOfPunts · 01/01/2020 01:39

So if an emergency had arisen when your kids were at school for example you wouldn’t have been capable of being woken up if someone rang? Yes I do think that’s pretty poor parenting.

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eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:41

have literally no idea what you’re on about eveshopper. Are you pissed?

No, are you?

I'm simply saying I worked nights and slept in the day. I was asleep, alone in the house, just like the dad in this scenario. The idea that you would be fucking raging at me for sleeping is bonkers. People sleep. It's normal.

Original poster
Holdingtherope · 01/01/2020 01:42

I have spoke to the hospital who haven’t mentioned SS but asked that I pick her up when finish shift. Supposed to finish at 7am, colleague coming in an hour earlier.

Daughter snuck out, DH didn’t know. He has a terminal illness and takes strong medication.

Every single one of friends parents has had a drink but one going to go in a taxi.

She doesn’t need any treatment. WS it possible a precaution to just take her?

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eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:42

So if an emergency had arisen when your kids were at school for example you wouldn’t have been capable of being woken up if someone rang?

No, I put my phone on silent. My DH on the other hand, is awake all day. Just like OP is right now, at work.

Yes I do think that’s pretty poor parenting.

You don't have a clue!

CareOfPunts · 01/01/2020 01:42

Some people would start an argument in an empty house on here or argue black was white for the sake of it. The point is that this guy is solely responsible for children while his partner is at work and not capable of being awoken. That’s not on.

I should really make it my NY resolution not to argue with contrary random internet fuckwits. Hope your idiot husband steps up and your daughter is OK OP.

Original poster
Holdingtherope · 01/01/2020 01:43

No one has mentioned social services. They seemed to accept rationale

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eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:43

@CareOfPunts

You are just so desperate to blame the DH for this but without any reason at all. Perhaps have a think about why that is?

alexdgr8 · 01/01/2020 01:44

eveshopper Wed 01-Jan-20 01:37:38

It’s irresponsible to not even be rousable when you’re solely responsible for children ffs.

I have been irresponsible for ducking years then. So irresponsible I worked from 8pm - 8am and took my kids to and from school every day

I don't understand the above. do you mean you went to work and left your children alone overnight, as a regular thing? if so, nothing to boast about.

eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:45

I should really make it my NY resolution not to argue with contrary random internet fuckwits.

You would be better making a resolution not to call people 'fuxkwits' when they don't agree with you. It doesn't make you look any better.

Happy New Year

NoSquirrels · 01/01/2020 01:45

I always have my phone on silent. If I'm asleep I obviously won't hear it. It doesn't mean that I'm not rousable.

If you can’t hear a phone - outside contact - you’re obviously not rousable easily in any useful sense!

If the DH is in charge of teens he shouldn’t have a) been so out of it he’s let his 14-year-old sneak out and b) not have a phone on standby to wake him.

I absolutely WOULD be fucking raging with my DP in these circumstances because he’d know I cannot leave work.

PanicAndRun · 01/01/2020 01:46

No one has mentioned social services. They seemed to accept rationale

Make sense. Even if you could get through to your DH would he be able to get to hospital and have full capacity?

eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:46

don't understand the above. do you mean you went to work and left your children alone overnight, as a regular thing? if so, nothing to boast about.

No of course not Confused

I worked night shift and slept during the day.

Rachelfromfriends1 · 01/01/2020 01:46

So happy one of the parents was able to help! What a relief that someone can do something whilst you’re stuck at work and he’s uncontactable

To be honest if she isn’t having treatment, maybe they just thought your daughter was vulnerable. She’s 14 and presumably being “looked after” by a bunch of drunk 14 year olds instead of actual adults if the paramedics left her where she was.

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Holdingtherope · 01/01/2020 01:47

The paramedic was laughing, I was going mad. What would be funny here?

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PanicAndRun · 01/01/2020 01:47

Is no one reading OP's posts? He has a fucking terminal illness and on strong medication.

DaisyDreaming · 01/01/2020 01:47

Glad she is ok and can be picked up at the end of your shift. I’m sure this has suitable scared her enough

NotYourTypicalNerd · 01/01/2020 01:48

Sounds like a stressful situation. Glad the hospital understand the circumstances. And sorry to hear your dh is also ill.

Is there someone who can sit with your dd until you get there?

ineedaholidaynow · 01/01/2020 01:48

Have people read the whole thread where the OP states the DH has a terminal illness and is on strong medication. Maybe cut him some slack

hellodontworry · 01/01/2020 01:48

Why are you thinking about punishment when your child is on her way to hospital. I understand you must be annoyed but come on, you don't have the full picture here.

Daisydoola · 01/01/2020 01:48

He was laughing?

No I don't think that's appropriate at all.

I'm not sure why they took her to hospital if she doesn't need treatment though.

I hope she's ok and the next few hours pass quickly so you can get to her.

eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:49

If the DH is in charge of teens he shouldn’t have a) been so out of it he’s let his 14-year-old sneak out and b) not have a phone on standby to wake him.

I absolutely WOULD be fucking raging with my DP in these circumstances because he’d know I cannot leave work.

But surely every parent goes to sleep at some point when they are 'in charge of' teens?

DH is asleep. I am going to sleep soon. Both our phones are on silent. That's not abnormal and nothing to be 'fucking raging' about.

You don't like men much, do you?

EsmeSwan · 01/01/2020 01:49

They will give her IV Fluids probably. I guarantee she is just drunk, not spiked. If I had a pound for everyone that came into A&E saying that ....

NoSquirrels · 01/01/2020 01:49

Daughter snuck out, DH didn’t know. He has a terminal illness and takes strong medication.

Ah, OP. OK, that changes things quite a bit.

Anyone else but Dad who can go to the hospital? You need extra support systems.

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