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DD 14 drink spiked

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Holdingtherope · 01/01/2020 01:08

I am at work tonight. Unbeknown to me, daughter and friends snuck out to a party. Looks like my daughter was either spiked or drunk too much.

She is fine, going in the ambulance to hospital. What will they do? I feel so helpless. Husband in bed and can’t wake him.

Suitable punishment? Only child who has hot teenager age yet and it’s so unknown. I just don’t know what to do

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CareOfPunts · 01/01/2020 01:26

And what was the husband thinking of going to bed while the 14 year old is out at a party? I would also be raging at him.

Me too. Or at least not having his phone on loud so he could hear if it rang!

Rachelfromfriends1 · 01/01/2020 01:27

To be honest, worst case scenario you might be okay waiting until 6 (although that will obviously worry you). Maybe see if your replacement can come in an hour early?

She may not necessarily be seen to right away/she may still be at hospital by 6 and not discharged by then. I assume that they’ll want to monitor her condition to make sure she’s stable.

If you have a family iCloud account you can “play sound” under “Find My” app. It will play an excruciatingly loud alarm.

Definitely try and contact family, friends or neighbours to wake him. Are any of your daughter’s friend’s parents available? I’m sure they’re aware that their children are not home yet so may still be awake.

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eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:27

And what was the husband thinking of going to bed while the 14 year old is out at a party? I would also be raging at him.

Did you read the OP? The DD 'snuck' out to a party with friends. Perhaps that is an indication that he didn't know?

CareOfPunts · 01/01/2020 01:27

I'm sure they would have a protocol which might mean the police knocking op's door or calling social services

Thanks I wondered if there would be something x

alexdgr8 · 01/01/2020 01:28

the problem here is with the lack of proper supervision of a child.
is your husband drunk.
what is going on there.
can you contact a parent of one of the other girls. or a relative/ neighbour of yours. I understand you cannot leave your post.
can you ring a neighbour to throw something at husband's window.
punishment is not the helpful approach. a child not properly supervised on NYE, that is the problem. its a new year, try to give more time and attention to your daughter, both you and your husband, together and separately. do not let her become alienated, get in with a bad crowd.
can you ring the hosp and explain your position.
all the best. happy new year.

Rachelfromfriends1 · 01/01/2020 01:28

But the hospital seem to have already made contact with OP so they may not need to contact her husband as part of protocol? I’m not sure though

DNAwrangler · 01/01/2020 01:29

She snuck out. Presumably DH thinks she's soundly asleep in her bed...

Purpleartichoke · 01/01/2020 01:31

My DH has his do disturb set so my calls always come through, but if that wasn’t working anyone can override Do not disturb by calling twice in a row.

If that doesn’t work, is there a neighbor who can go bang on your door or window. He needs to get to the hospital.

AnduinsGirl · 01/01/2020 01:31

Why are you asking about punishments when your daughter has been hospitalised!?

CareOfPunts · 01/01/2020 01:31

Regardless of how and when the daughter got out he needs to be bloody rousable when he’s solely responsible for the care of children when the OP is at work. I would be fucking raging at him.

docemmett · 01/01/2020 01:32

You're worried sick, but she's in the best possible care now and her friends who are probably scared stiff, did the responsible thing and called for help and stayed with her.

Rachelfromfriends1 · 01/01/2020 01:33

Even ask your daughter’s friends to bombard his number with calls

eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:33

Regardless of how and when the daughter got out he needs to be bloody rousable when he’s solely responsible for the care of children when the OP is at work. I would be fucking raging at him.

I go to sleep often when no one else is home to wake me. The idea that you would be 'fucking raging' at me for doing so is quite bizarre.

Purpleartichoke · 01/01/2020 01:34

And I’m guessing the punishment speculation is to channel the anxiety OP is currently feeling.

Natural consequence for sneaking out is losing your trust. So she now has to give you detailed descriptions of everywhere she is going and check in regularly. Made it to school. Text mom. Stopping at the library. Text mom. Also, turn on tracking on her phone. There can be traditional grounding too, but I would focus on her lack of ability to be trusted and make her earn that back.

PanicAndRun · 01/01/2020 01:35

Why are you asking about punishments when your daughter has been hospitalised!?

Because presumably she snuck out of the house while her father was asleep and went to a party?

Rachelfromfriends1 · 01/01/2020 01:35

In fact, definitely ask your daughter’s friends to contact their parents. One of them could be able to go over to yours, rouse him and go to hospital where presumably they’ll be picking their own child up

CareOfPunts · 01/01/2020 01:35

I go to sleep often when no one else is home to wake me. The idea that you would be 'fucking raging' at me for doing so is quite bizarre

It’s irresponsible to not even be rousable when you’re solely responsible for children ffs. Yes I would be bloody raging at him snoring his fucking head off and incapable of being awoken when he needs to step up and parent his kids.

NoSquirrels · 01/01/2020 01:36

Anyone who can go and knock on the door to wake your DH? One of the teens? One of the teens parents? A neighbour etc?

Ginfordinner · 01/01/2020 01:36

Did you read the OP? The DD 'snuck' out to a party with friends. Perhaps that is an indication that he didn't know?

He must have gone to bed very early then.

DecemberSnow · 01/01/2020 01:36

Surely the hospital cant treat her without a parent being there?

Thunderclearstheair · 01/01/2020 01:36

If one of you doesn’t get there now SS will be asking why the fuck one of you isn’t there.

Get some one to wake him up
Or go there yourself

If she needs her stomach pumped she’s gonna be in a bad way

eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:37

It’s irresponsible to not even be rousable when you’re solely responsible for children ffs.

I have been irresponsible for ducking years then. So irresponsible I worked from 8pm - 8am and took my kids to and from school every day.

CareOfPunts · 01/01/2020 01:38

I have literally no idea what you’re on about eveshopper. Are you pissed?

PanicAndRun · 01/01/2020 01:39

It’s irresponsible to not even be rousable when you’re solely responsible for children ffs. Yes I would be bloody raging at him snoring his fucking head off and incapable of being awoken when he needs to step up and parent his kids.

I always have my phone on silent. If I'm asleep I obviously won't hear it. It doesn't mean that I'm not rousable.

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