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DD 14 drink spiked

204 replies

Holdingtherope · 01/01/2020 01:08

I am at work tonight. Unbeknown to me, daughter and friends snuck out to a party. Looks like my daughter was either spiked or drunk too much.

She is fine, going in the ambulance to hospital. What will they do? I feel so helpless. Husband in bed and can’t wake him.

Suitable punishment? Only child who has hot teenager age yet and it’s so unknown. I just don’t know what to do

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PanicAndRun · 01/01/2020 01:49

If you can’t hear a phone - outside contact - you’re obviously not rousable easily in any useful sense!

Erm I'd hear a knock on the door, DD calling my name,the cat meowing , DD sleep walking etc. I can be plenty useful thank you very much.

Rachelfromfriends1 · 01/01/2020 01:50

I wouldn’t dwell on the paramedic. Just jot it down as someone else being funny in the background of the call, maybe your daughter’s friends were trying to make light of the situation or were trying to cheer her up etc

JingsMahBucket · 01/01/2020 01:51

Some posters on this thread need to deescalate. Cool your jets folks. Some folks are heavy sleepers, that’s okay. The OP’s husband in this case happens to be terminally ill. The OP is stressed enough without all this hysteria from some “raging” posters.

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PanicAndRun · 01/01/2020 01:52

It also changes my mind on consequences. To take advantage that her dad is so ill and her mum has to work is not acceptable. If I'd be raging with anyone it would be her. Starting with taking her phone off her so she can't organise clandestine meetings.

NoSquirrels · 01/01/2020 01:52

eveshopper I think you’re on the wind-up. Happy New Year! You’re deliberately misunderstanding and misinterpreting the situation. Makes no odds if it’s a bloke, btw - I’d feel the same about any co-parent not being contactable when they’re on duty.

EsmeSwan · 01/01/2020 01:52

I would do your best to wake your DH up because if no Adult shows up to be with their drunk 14 year old daughter, we would be sending the Police round, and doing a SS referral. Come on OP, you are a RMN you should know how this works.

Louise91417 · 01/01/2020 01:53

Glad your dd is ok..most of us have been there at some point with our teenagers, the embarrassment tomorrow should be punishment enough for her to deal with.Wink

Rachelfromfriends1 · 01/01/2020 01:55

Her friends will never let her live this down! She will be suitably embarrassed at the complete scene caused, imagine sneaking out and being caught in this manner!

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Holdingtherope · 01/01/2020 01:56

No Esme I don’t. I work in elderly care

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AlaskaElfForGin · 01/01/2020 01:56

She needs a parent with her.

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Holdingtherope · 01/01/2020 01:57

Alaska that’s not an option

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eveshopper · 01/01/2020 01:58

eveshopper I think you’re on the wind-up. Happy New Year! You’re deliberately misunderstanding and misinterpreting the situation.

Not at all. I just think it's unfair for people to say they would be 'fucking raging' at the DH for doing the rather normal thing of sleep.

Makes no odds if it’s a bloke, btw - I’d feel the same about any co-parent not being contactable when they’re on duty.

'On duty'? Does this mean all parents should take turns about at sleeping? One person stay awake just in case?

Come on, I'm not misunderstanding anyone. The DH went to bed, not a strange thing to do. I'm sure I'm not the only person to put their phone on silent when I go to bed. Well I know I'm not because the OPDH does and a PP also said they do.

Please also note, I have been called a fuckwit and accused of poor parenting on this thread, simply for pointing out it's not abnormal to put your phone on silent when you are in bed. I didn't name call or slate anybody's parenting.

AFemale · 01/01/2020 01:59

It’s irresponsible to not even be rousable when you’re solely responsible for children ffs. Yes I would be bloody raging at him snoring his fucking head off and incapable of being awoken when he needs to step up and parent his kids.

I have a 15 year old dd and also have a chronic health condition which has me on some strong meds that make me very drowsy and sleepy and yes, very difficult to wake up at times.

I'm not an irresponsible parent, I'm a sick one and there's many people out there on much stronger meds than me.

PanicAndRun · 01/01/2020 02:02

@Holdingtherope just hang in there, only 4 more hours until you can finish work. Hopefully won't take you long to get to the hospital after that. DH might be woken up by the friend's parent and be there before you.

Are you in contact with her friends? Can they keep you updated as to how she is?

Ginfordinner · 01/01/2020 02:04

Sorry to hear about your husband OP. I take back what I said. I agree with a PP that your daughter shouldn't have taken advantage of the situation.

EsmeSwan · 01/01/2020 02:06

You are a RMN, you do Safe-guarding, all Nurses have to do it. On the busiest night of the year your drunk DD is allowed to stay until you finish your shift until you collect her??? No sorry, we would document that her father is unreachable and would put a SS referral in. I am sorry, but your priority is with your DD.

Savingshoes · 01/01/2020 02:06

Just to confirm, you are a registered nurse and you are unsure of the treatment for an intoxicated patient who may also have had Unknown drugs/substance lace her drinks?

Also, you and your husband hold PR for this child and you don't think they're going to raise a safeguarding that neither of you have attended a&e with your child and you haven't arranged for an adult to act in loco parentis?

Yet you know not to leave your patients without a registered nurse on duty?

At best, she might have a hangover. At worse she might die of what ever drug she has possibly digested.

Savingshoes · 01/01/2020 02:09

Suggestion: call the manager of your care home. Tell her you will be leaving at 03:00 and that the home will have no Registered nurse on duty. You have a family emergency.

Purpleartichoke · 01/01/2020 02:09

Yep, we totally misjudged the husband situation.

Op, you have a kid that needs to be dealt with, but also probably is going to have to be stepping up and taking on some extra responsibility. You have to be able to work and a 14 year old should be able to be trusted to care for Herself for the length of your shift. I don’t envy you that conversation tomorrow.

EsmeSwan · 01/01/2020 02:10

@Savingshoes I agree entirely!

eveshopper · 01/01/2020 02:12

@EsmeSwan

You would put a referral in to SS because a terminally ill man hasn't come to A&E for his DD who is not in any danger? Surely that would be an absolute waste of time for so many people?

PanicAndRun · 01/01/2020 02:13

Yep, we totally misjudged the husband situation.

Of course you did, general you here.

Raging,fuming,name calling, idiot,drunk etc.

I see some haven't even bothered to come back or apologise once the husband bashing became rather irrelevant.

Rachelfromfriends1 · 01/01/2020 02:13

@Savingshoes come on, the op is obviously quite stressed without you piling on.

One of the friend’s parents is en route in a taxi. As the daughter doesn’t need any treatment I very much doubt she’s dying.

Branleuse · 01/01/2020 02:13

Chances are the poor kid has drunk too much. Most cases where people say they've been spiked is alcohol poisoning

JamieVardysHavingAParty · 01/01/2020 02:14

OP is between a rock and a hard place.

The girl hasn't been spiked. There's no need to speculate that she's going to die from a drug she's not been given.

The OP has responsibilities to her patients, too. She's in an agonising position.