Sat in the car about to ruin my life

[AdvanceRegret]

I've got an amazing husband and an even more amazing baby son. I had my son a few months ago and I've just gotten sadder and sadder and it's like I've hit the fuck it button. Insomnia keeps me up all night, I just feel out of control and now I'm sat outside the house of a man who is not my husband in my car and he's expecting me to go in and sleep with him and it's like I've suddenly woken up and realised what I've done. I'm so unhappy with myself not my husband and I'm about to destroy my family. I only just made this family. Even if I turn the car around and drive home it's gone too far. I'm here. That's just as bad as actually doing it. Right? What the fuck is wrong with me?

Don't be daft. Don't go in because just being there is as bad. Just go home and work out the rest from there.

Ok, turn in the car engine, drive off, even if it's just 5 mins away. Get yourself away from the man's house.

You aren't too far gone because you haven't had sex, there isn't an act that has taken place yet which can't be undone.

Drive off, then add a message you've done this so we know you are ok.

Drive home.

If you stop yourself and drive away, its not as wrong as doing it.
You've seen sense, turnaround, go home and cuddle your baby. Then sort out some counselling to work out why you're in this position.
Is PND a possibility?

It’s not the same no. You haven’t done anything yet, drive away

It hasn't gone too far. Go home, have an honest chat with DH about how bad things are for you and get some help, whether that is practical support, counselling, marriage guidance or antidepressants. Don't press the self destruct button.

Turn around and go home.
You've haven't done it yet. Try and get some counselling x

We're here, you don't need to do anything right now. You can sit in that car right where you are and talk to us.

Sweetheart, please keep driving. Don’t go in. We can fix the other stuff, you can save this

Turn the car around and go home, op.

Sitting outside his house is NOT as bad! The point is, you’ve had a moment that’s made you stop and think. It’s certainly not too late to change the path you’re on.

You haven't done anything wrong yet. Turn around and be with your baby

Drive away. Then get yourself assessed for PND.

No it's not too late and it's not as bad . You've seen sense .
You will be so glad you realised before it's too late
Drive away now !!

It sounds like you really don’t want to sleep with him anyway. I would agree you’d be best to drive somewhere else and give yourself some headspace before going home.

You've realised you're in a bad situation. Leave now, go home. What you've done so far is no where near as bad as it could be of you go ahead & sleep with him. Dont do it.

RIGHT NOW is the moment that can change everything. Use it to do the right thing.

It’s not too late.

Go for a drive, clear your head. But don’t go with this man.

Just turn around there is plenty to save here!

Turn around. You don't need to go home if you can't right now. Go to a friend's. Go to a coffee shop. Just don't go into that house.

That's just as bad as actually doing it. Right? What the fuck is wrong with me?

Of course it’s not as bad!

Drive to a pub/McD’s/drive-they Starbucks etc. Sit and compose yourself.

Don’t worry.

It's not to late to stop this. If you go in the house and sleep with this man, you will regret it forever. It's not going to make you feel better. Drive away. Park up somewhere and go for a walk to clear your head. Make an appointment with you GP/HV and get assessed for post natal depression. Go home and tell you husband how bad you feel. Tell friends and family too, get support.
Well done for realising in time the massive mistake this act would be.

It’s not too late.

Go home and speak to your husband about all the things that are wrong and what things you both need to do to make them better.

This is it. This is the point where you make a decision. I think you are smart and self aware enough to know what the right choice is. That's brave and honest OP.

Only you can make this choice but I'm with other posters...don't do it. Make the choice to drive away. You really will thank yourself.

Picture yourself in a week's time. Or a year cos this decision now could change that drastically.

OP. You sound very down and in need of kindness.

Handhold OP, drive somewhere well away then keep chatting here. It honestly can all still be ok.

First thing tomorrow GP app and insist you need some help.