Think I don’t dress my 6 year old dd like the other girls

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Don’t think we’re too unusual I prefer traditional style outfits, ditzy prints, colourful tights and clothes think JL Jojo mama that kind of style but this isn’t like 99% of girl in her class.
Dropped her at school party day today and most of the other girls were in sparkly glittery clothes, jeans, skirts mainly pink/grey/black with glitter boots.
Dd has never said anything about clothes until she came home today said a couple of the girl said her clothes were ‘weird’.
Maybe I need to dress her more ‘trendy’? Sorry hate that word but you know what I mean?

What happens when you let her choose her clothes? What does she pick?

Btw Dh is in agreement that I need to update the kids clothes as neither have jeans but I’ve always though kids in jeans look uncomfortable

I shop in similar places and like a more traditional dress on little ones. But so many are wanting to grow up and school partie become fashion shows from an early age.

I always buy for her so she will choose from her wardrobe but maybe I need to let her loose in the shops!

Oh bless her, it’s horrible when your child comes home and someone’s said something nasty, I hope she’s ok.

I let DD pick her clothes mostly, within reason obviously, nothing crazy expensive or ridiculous. She came home from school last week upset because she was laughed at for not knowing what Mac lipstick was!!! She’s 5x

No idea where that x came from, it was supposed to be a .

I like the style you describe, but perhaps she's getting a little old for it? What does your DD want to do? A pair of jeans and a couple of sparkly tops might go down well on Christmas Day.

Maybe have a mix?
I like the sort of clothes you describe, and am not keen on glittery mini adult type stuff, but for school discos and parties they probably are the norm.
Is your daughter bothered? If she is, get a few sparkly pink unicorn tops, if not..ignore!

Jojo Maman Bebe only goes up to age 5-6. My 8 year old still likes applique t shirts from Boden etc but also likes jeggings, sparkly tops etc. I won't let her wear crop tops or anything else that is revealing. We sometimes go to H&M and choose things together.

Dd is 7 she likes

Leggings or skinny jeans
Full skirts
Denim short dungarees
Regular dungarees
Slim joggers
Sweatshirts
T shirts

She wore at the weekend-
Star print leggings
Denim full skirt
Stripy long sleeve t shirt with a sequin print on it
High top Vans

She likes to look “cool” but I draw the line at cropped tops and full head to toe sports gear unless she is training.

My DD is 7 and all of her clothes are from next and GAP.
She's not wore bright tights and the style of clothes I imagine you mean for a couple of years now- her choice.
Think black leggings, longer tops, gap logo hoodies, denim dungaree dresses, skinny jeans, ankle boots, converse etc.
To a party she would definitely wear something glittery with dark tights and black glittery ankle boots.
Do you let your DD chose her clothes?

I think there is just a lot of sparkly stuff around atm with Xmas coming. If you buy clothes in chain stores you won't stray too far from 'normal' as all the shops seem to have very similar stuff.

I think maybe I will give dd more choice if I can interest her in shopping.
She doesn’t have anything with logo or anything dark (some navy but no black) so maybe I do need to move with the times much prefer a traditional look but don’t want dd to be concerned about her outfits

In the nicest possible way OP, although it’s up to you to make sure her clothes are appropriate for what she’s using them for, it’s a bit unfair to push your tastes on to her when she’s old enough to have an input.

Unfortunately I don't think you can stop a child becoming concerned about their outfits. She is out in the world, to an extent, and will be influenced.

Probably no help op but I much prefer the sort of stuff you describe your dad wears than jeans etc. My eldest dd dresses the same until about 9, youngest dd wouldn’t wear shirts or dresses but she didn’t have jeans until she was about 9.

Dd not dad!

Lad at dds school disco in full suit with a bow tie - they are 9. Know the parents and they are worried he is getting picked on couldn’t help but think dressing him like that isn’t really doing him any favours

I only have boys and they wore lovely, colourful Boden. I looked at older boys and swore my boys would never wear sports gear, joggers etc.

Well. Age 12 and 9 now and they wear nothing but football tops, joggers and other things that I detest but they love. I'm sure they will come out the other side at some point but I just take my money to shops and let them choose.

My 6 year old has been choosing her own clothes for years so you have been fortunate to impose your taste on her up to this point! Let her choose some bits - you might find she chooses similar to you anyway.

I encourage my D.C. to wear what they like rather than be skates to fashion but the key point is wear that they like, not what I like.

If a child chooses to dress differently from everyone else that’s one thing, imposing it on them can be socially isolating.

Don’t you remember what it was like at school to be dressed in the “wrong” thing? To feel uncomfortable because you stood out in a bad way?

It doesn’t mean she has to be in glitter and slogan from head to toe but for goodness sake why not buy her some jeans?

How old is she that she doesn’t have any input to her own clothes?

Being able to put together a stylish appropriate outfit is a life skill.

I think not owing jeans at 6yo is pretty odd actually. I agree that jeans on babies and toddlers to some extent, look uncomfortable but jeans are a wardrobe staple for most kids.

It sounds like she’s pretty traditional/old fashioned in how you dress her and I would definitely give her more input. There’s a halfway between how she sounds like she dresses and crop tops and mini skirts.

Most young girls love skinny jeans a a sparkly top for Christmas!

Im more saddened by the fact that 6 year olds said that! Who knew they could think like that so young?! Bless. Hope your DD is ok.

I think Next would make a good shop for a little haul with her. Lots of cool clothes, lots of colours, lots of matching items.

She must be pretty biddable that you’ve been in charge for so long

My dc chose their own clothes from an early age. They liked traditional clothes. Dd2 loved smocked dresses right the way through primary.
Now (15yo and 18yo ) both live in leggings/jeans (only dd2) and t-shirts, but they were the children at soft play/rolling in the mud at the park in a long dress and tights. Their choice, and it never stopped them doing anything. Now they won't touch a dress or skirt.

Both were fine. Both were their choice at that time.
Dd1 still doesn't care about wearing what other people do though.