Think I don’t dress my 6 year old dd like the other girls

[WishfulSprouts]

Don’t think we’re too unusual I prefer traditional style outfits, ditzy prints, colourful tights and clothes think JL Jojo mama that kind of style but this isn’t like 99% of girl in her class.
Dropped her at school party day today and most of the other girls were in sparkly glittery clothes, jeans, skirts mainly pink/grey/black with glitter boots.
Dd has never said anything about clothes until she came home today said a couple of the girl said her clothes were ‘weird’.
Maybe I need to dress her more ‘trendy’? Sorry hate that word but you know what I mean?

It seems such a shame because kids that age will inevitably choose to wear the same clothes everyone else is wearing in an effort to fit in, and I don't want my kids to be like that! But at the same time, I don't want them to get bullied for what they wear, so I guess you're left with no choice!

I prefer the look you describe (particularly love Little Bird) but my DD is 4 and at school now so I let her choose some things. she's wearing a sparkly Star print tutu dress from Primark for her school Christmas party. I also have bought her some sparkly unicorn stuff for Christmas as I know it will make her happy. I think jeans can look nice with the right top but I'd prefer a denim pinafore!

So what did she wear today?

Take her for a bit of a shop, it's easy enough to update her wardrobe with some simple sparkly bits. I don't think you can impose your taste on her anymore, if she's being teased because of it.

DS is same age as your DD and the girls in his class wear (no uniform), jeans, sparkly skirts and leggings, buttoned shirts with patterns, jumpers/hoodies, denim or faux shearling type jackets. Stretchy jeans are very comfortable. My kids wear them all the time now since they started at a no uniform school because they're so bloody practical.

Tight stretchy cord jeggings from H&M are quite comfy (4 year old DD wears them a lot) and often have some subtle sparkly patterns. Uniqlo is perhaps a good inbetween of 'trendy' and traditional.

My eldest (nearly 8) has never owned a pair of jeans, I don't think it's that unusual in itself. Maybe go shopping with her and choose some news clothes that you're both happy with?

Perhaps the teacher could have a word about not being rude and unkind about what other people are wearing

I love the style of clothes you describe. Luckily I have a toddler so I can still indulge myself

I do think that at age 5-6 where they are still not that interested in what they are wearing, it can be helpful to casually observe what their peers are wearing and make sure they are not too far away from that. I encourage my older kids to develop their own style and not to worry about what others think, but that’s for them to do in their own time and to an extent they are comfortable with.

But let her choose what she feels most comfortable in! Nothing wrong with what she wears now if she likes it, but if she doesn't then take her shopping (or do online shopping with her).

DS adores dreadful Lego Ninjago and novelty jumpers.... we all face our fashion challenges with DC clothes!!

My boys are 6 and 3. They dress in bright tops, rainbows, stars, stripes etc. Think frugi and little bird brights. They mostly wear jeans or chinos with these. My son was at his party last night and he wore a white shirt with reindeer motif's on it, and a red sparkly bow tie with navy chinos.

Neither of them have ever expressed a preference for clothing beyond me offering a choice and them choosing from that. They really don't care! My 6 year old 100% does not care what other people say or think. I just asked him if he liked what he wore to his school party last night, or if anyone said anything to him about his clothes, and he looked at me like I was insane. He said no and why would they?

I really wouldn't worry about other kids opinions. They all have them... the key is if your daughter cares what they think. Does she?

Maybe take her to Gap, H&M and Zara, I think they might be a good place to start as they have some nice prints.

I much prefer traditional style clothes for my baby girl. I’ll never dress her in jeans until she asks for a pair.

Also my mind is boggling at kids who don't own jeans till they're nearly 10

Don't their legs get freezing in winter???? No judgment but my DS would whinge mightily about trousers in winter or my DD about tights (even thermal ones). They wear lined jeans from H&M whenever it's below 5!!

We dress the kids in bright clothes too, mini rodini, duns and maxomorra. Eldest is 8 and does wear jeans a lot, we have gap and next tops so that he can wear those to school events/sleepovers but he often picks his colourful tops still. I think it's important to strike a balance, I would never impose ideas on a child but I also think it's not very nice for them to feel obligated to dress certain way to fit in.

Today she wore a navy ditsy printed dress with mustard tights and brown boots and a mustard cardigan. We’ve just had a quick scroll through jl and next websites and she’s chosen everything 😂 she seems keen on anything tulle and glittery especially though so that’s the party outfits sorted.

Most kids at that age wouldn’t bat an eyelid at what others wear. You do get the odd little scrote who says thing like that.

So first teach your daughter to stand up for yourself. Im always telling my dd that she can say to someone that they’re saying mean things etc if they do. She’s pretty confident now (age 7).

Second, just ask your dd what she would like and buy a couple of things then take from there. It’s cheaper to get a few basics and the odd brighter/sparkly top. No need for a massive overhaul if stuff still fits.

@nomad5 my 11 year old has flatly refused to wear jeans until the last few weeks (coinciding with starting secondary school!) She hates the feel of them. I’ve had winter after winter of her wearing skirts and socks (tights are too itchy, apparently).

Firstly, I think it's crap 6 year olds are making such comments about their peers clothes.
My DD is 8 nearly 9 and goes to a non uniform school. There is a huge variety of clothes worn by the girls. Leggings seem to feature quite heavily-they are easy and comfy to wear. Some girls wear jeans, others live in jogging bottoms, some wear dresses/skirts but there is no definite "style". I have suggested jeans/jeggings to her but she won't even try any on.
I would take her shopping to see what she likes-H&M is pretty good. Zara and M&S vary but can have some good bits.

Interestingly she didn’t choose any jeans or jeggings only demon pinafore

*denim!

My 8 year old DD pretty much lives in jeans and has done for years.

She has an older sister (who is a big influence) and wouldn't be seen dead in anything from next these days...all river island and Zara

*I only have boys and they wore lovely, colourful Boden. I looked at older boys and swore my boys would never wear sports gear, joggers etc.

Well. Age 12 and 9 now and they wear nothing but football tops, joggers and other things that I detest but they love. I'm sure they will come out the other side at some point but I just take my money to shops and let them choose.*

I could have written this. My kids were so beautifully dressed when they were little. All those lovely Boden outfits, long stripy shorts, appliqué tops, bright colours. I looked back at the pictures nostalgically and complement myself on my fantastic taste.

Now, the 16 year old wears only black tracksuit trousers and any one of about 15 random football tops from around the world. I swore no child of mine would ever wear a football kit unless on a football pitch

The 8 year old will only wear tracksuit trousers and short sleeved tshirts with hoodies, jeans aren’t comfortable apparently

And the 13 year old, well, let’s not even go there

I know a mum who sends her 8 year old off to class parties in a bow tie and shirt, he does get picked on and i know she is really worried about him.
Mine have chosen their own clothes from 2ish but I guess from out of stuff I’ve pre selected first. I like a similar style to you. None of mine wear jeans through choice but they mostly wear leggings or tracksuit bottoms.

DD is 6 and has chosen her own clothes since she was 3. I make sure she's warm and functional but the style is up to her mostly. She's had a lot of TV character stuff, animals, sparkles, tutu skirts etc. She's a young 6 though.

Most middle class mums myself included want to dress them as escapees from an Enid blyton book look at Kate Middletons kids - they all rebel against that just depends how long it takes them we a long way from cheerful tops and dresses now it’s distuptor trainers and crop tops

What she wore sounds fine. The rude kid probably has a rude parent/s