Think I don’t dress my 6 year old dd like the other girls

[WishfulSprouts]

Don’t think we’re too unusual I prefer traditional style outfits, ditzy prints, colourful tights and clothes think JL Jojo mama that kind of style but this isn’t like 99% of girl in her class.
Dropped her at school party day today and most of the other girls were in sparkly glittery clothes, jeans, skirts mainly pink/grey/black with glitter boots.
Dd has never said anything about clothes until she came home today said a couple of the girl said her clothes were ‘weird’.
Maybe I need to dress her more ‘trendy’? Sorry hate that word but you know what I mean?

How on earth does your child not wear trousers? I understand no jeans - DS still won't wear denim - but trousers are so much more practical. DD loves leggings or tights with skirts/ dresses, but she often regularly wears jeggings, thick leggings, trackies, jeans etc. And in the summer she has a wide selection of cotton, lightweight trousers which she always absolutely adores.

But it sounds like you're doing a good job on loosening things so that DD can choose herself. Well done.

My dd is 6. I love bright colours and soft clothes for her. She wears jeans to school, mainly because they seem to be quite tough on clothes and jeans are easy to wash and hard wearing so protect her knees. She has some lovely bright tights and leggings and soft T-shirt's and dresses but also likes sports wear and dance gear. She has a wardrobe with a mix of styles and colours and I usually leave her to pick. She loves a sparkly tulle party dress or skirt, but has done since she was a toddler so I don't see that as peer pressure or growing up too fast!

Maybe it was the colour of the tights & cardigan or the outfit in general wasn't "party" enough?

Idk-seems a shame if she has always been OK with what she wears until something was said.

Well, to me the biggest shame is that any 6yr old cares-especially about what another 6yr old is wearing!!

I find it incredibly depressing that the majority opinion on here seems to be along the lines of "choose x y and z to make her fit in with everyone else". Yes totally get her involved with making her own choices, if she wants to, but imposing choices to make her fit in with everyone else is just as bad as imposing your own style on her IMO (not that I'm saying this is what you're doing OP). I'd like to hope I bring my children (who are very young right now) up to be individuals and to accept other's individual choices rather than trying to ensure they follow they always follow the crowd. Surely the issue here is the attitude of the other children??! How depressing. Also to the PP who practically implied it's the parent's fault (of the boy who wore a suit and bowtie to a party) that he's being bullied. What a disgusting attitude! Again, if that child wants to dress that way he should be allowed to embrace it FGS no wonder bullying is so rife if this is the attitude of grown adults

I think it depends where you live as to what the children wear and what they comment on. Where I live, that trad sort of look would be the 99% and the leggings, sparkly stuff etc. would be in the minority. My now 10 year old goes for quirky, against prevailing ‘norms’ and would have been pleased with the comment but in general most children want to be part of the crowd and it’s difficult to be the odd one out if that’s not what you want.

If I were you, I’d get her some clothes that match everyone else’s. Or better, take her shopping and let her develop her own style. It’s easier to shrug off comments if you’re happy with what you’re wearing and have made those decisions yourself.

So glad I have a boy (6.5)he doesn’t care or notice yet really what he wears. He likes to choose his t shirt but from his drawer of ones I have bought. He asks for his little bird Star one the most, followed by dinosaurs. He loves his Star Wars Wookiee knitted jumper from Gap.
I very occasionally show him the Boden website and get him to choose between 2 options.
The main problem is getting him to wear jeans/ smarter trousers rather than joggers.
I know this won’t last forever!

Oh, and my daughter hardly ever wears jeans or trousers

@WishfulSprouts my dd aged 6 wears very similar to yours (from what I can gather) dark reds, purple, dark orange etc. She always goes for bright tights (or stripy/spotty), dress, brown ankle boots. She hates jeans, mainly not comfy I think. A lot of her stuff is 2nd hand or hand me downs so not 'this season' but she does like occasionally getting glittery dresses from places like primark or H&M. And she loves her glittery high heels I think it's good just to be flexible really!

OP, I think perhaps the jeans are exactly a thrilling choice in amongst all that’s available on the Next website for a 6yo but they are definitely a staple in most kids wardrobes.

H&M is your friend. They do lovely soft jeggings and jeans, they're really comfortable according to my DDs.

Just as an aside about jeans - DS (4) wears denim jeggings from Next girls department. They’re much more comfortable than actual jeans.

She must be pretty biddable that you’ve been in charge for so long

So long?? She's SIX! I have 3 dds, they didn't care too much about their clothes at that age. My older two really weren't bothered about fashion for most of primary school in fact. Youngest dd got fussy around 7 or 8. At that age she lived in leggings (plain or patterned) with various tops. She hated jeans for a long time because she found them uncomfortable.

Those girls who made comments don't sound very nice.

Maybe talk to your dd if she has any particular wishes when it comes to clothes.

My daughter (3) has lived in boots and jeggings in varying colours since she could walk.

Since gaining an opinion she’s wanted PINK EVERYTHING. Not something she’s seen from my own wardrobe.

To be honest my 6yo wouldn't wear the outfits you've described but she would never say anything mean about what anyone was wearing, she always says "it's good to be different no one is the same". So it is a shame others have commented on her clothes.
She loves next and Primark, Tesco have some nice bits too. Most kids jeans are more the jegging or stretchy style so they are comfy. The tops with the reversible sequins are a massive hit too and anything with unicorns or glitter.

Don't their legs get freezing in winter

Jeans aren't that warm. Thick tights with dresses are much warmer.

Its such a shame that other children can make a small child feel out of place at such a young age

At 6 years, what you have described seems perfectly normal to me. average childrens clothing

Maybe let her start choosing a few items like you have done, and they can be added to what she has.

I never wear jeans as an adult, and don't remember wearing them often as a child or teen either so the default doesn't have to be jeans if she isn't keen.

My daughter is 7 and hates trousers, but she does like shiny and sparkly. I agree, it's an age where she can start to choose, but that can be fun for you both too!

I’m surprised people are shocked that a 6 yo has a preference. DD point blank refused to wear skirts/dresses from the age of 6 months! She hated them, so we stopped buying them.

She must be pretty biddable that you’ve been in charge for so long definitely not if you knew dd she’s not a pushover in any sense 😂 think she’s been uninterested in clothes until she’s noticed the difference today. She does prefer certain colours but not really have a preference other than that so far.

nomad5 I have never owned a pair of jeans. I tried some on in a shop and concluded they were uncomfortable, and haven't tried since. I don't wear trousers often either.
I have had some denim dungarees.

Dd1 (is 18yo) and has worn jeans once-on a Jeans for Gene day at school.

Ds is 11yo and won't even try on jeans. Mind you, getting him out of shorts is a challenge even in snow.

Dd2 loves them.

I don't think it is fair to make children stand out from their peers, unless they have chosen to.

I haven’t been able to choose what my 4 year old wears since she was about 2 and half. She knows how to put together and outfit though thankfully
She hasn’t worn trousers for over a year, only wears skirts and dresses with tights. She dresses like Sid Vicious! Everything is tarten and black.

Take her to a clothes shop and let her choose whatever she wants! Bet she’ll love it!

My 4 year old has a very definite opinion about what she wears. She has done since she was 2. It has to be dresses. She won't wear trousers. Definitely no jeans. Cotton dresses and tights, the more flowers the better. She's got a drawer full of lovely leggings and t-shirts but won't wear them. Doesn't stop her running around.
I'd love to still be able to control what she wears, so you're very lucky op. I'm glad you've been able to do some online shopping and let her choose a few bits though.

Can I just say her outfit sounds adorable. Maybe she could still wear things like that for Christmas Day/ family stuff and have sparkly stuff for friends’ parties?

My girls are 8 and 7 and I also like them to wear more 'traditional' clothing but I find it difficult as they're both very tall and are in aged 10-11 and 9-10 clothing .
They (and I) love h&m for 'trendy' clothes that aren't mini adult outfits ! There's loads of lovely leggings and jeggings and some really nice tops as well as the obligatory sequinned tutu 😆