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Think I don’t dress my 6 year old dd like the other girls

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WishfulSprouts · 18/12/2018 16:34

Don’t think we’re too unusual I prefer traditional style outfits, ditzy prints, colourful tights and clothes think JL Jojo mama that kind of style but this isn’t like 99% of girl in her class.
Dropped her at school party day today and most of the other girls were in sparkly glittery clothes, jeans, skirts mainly pink/grey/black with glitter boots.
Dd has never said anything about clothes until she came home today said a couple of the girl said her clothes were ‘weird’.
Maybe I need to dress her more ‘trendy’? Sorry hate that word but you know what I mean?

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itsboiledeggsagain · 18/12/2018 17:37

I have 2 dds age 5 and 6 I cannot imagine them in jeans. They have trousers in their drawers including a set of denim dungarees which a cooler friend gave them to help them fit in more, and they never wear any of it. They choose the styles you describe. Bright tights, dresses and skirts.

3 year old boy wears leggings and Jersey trousers. No jeans or joggers either. Dh and I only wear jeans when we have to. Comfy trousers at home.

twosoups1972 · 18/12/2018 17:37

think she’s been uninterested in clothes until she’s noticed the difference today

In that case, let her start choosing a bit. Take her shopping and look round together. H&M is good - trendy and cheap but quality isn't great.

SilverDoe · 18/12/2018 17:39

Aw I feel sad for her, kids can be so mean :(

You have to let them have a choice at that age, sadly even if it means you give in to a bit of conformity if that’s what they want.

My DD is 3 and I let her help pick her clothes now as she feels good in them (not in an opposite of insecure way as she doesn’t have that problem yet obvs, but she likes the bunny dresses or glittery things etc) and I want to encourage that.

I feel your pain though, I love really cute girly things for her and I do like sparkle but she picked these full on glitter trainers from Next in September instead of the beautiful little boots I wanted her to get 😭

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bookmum08 · 18/12/2018 17:40

My ten year old never wears jeans and has never asked too. I haven't ever thought why. I actually don't see many girls her age in jeans. It's the disco tomorrow at school. It will be interesting to see what the children wear! She is a leggings or trackies girl. I bought her new trackies the other day. Had to go to the 'boy' section though. The 'girls' section was full of party wear, flimsy tops and thin leggings. The boys full of trackies, hoodies and thicker material tshirts. Much more sensible for winter.

catkind · 18/12/2018 17:40

Big variety of styles in DD's Y2 class. DD does about half very old fashioned dresses (hand me downs, not my style at all, often worn backwards, I have no idea why, she does know which way they're supposed to go!) and half leggings or jeans with favourite T-shirts. If they have opinions on each other's clothes beyond "I like your hat" it's gone over DD's head so far.
DD now prefers trousers for school in winter, only one other girl in her class does - but lots of the older ones so I prefer to think DD is ahead of her time rather than unfashionable Wink

CoperCabana · 18/12/2018 17:46

I always think it’s a shame to see kids dressed as mini me’s, whether that is ‘traditional’ or ‘trendy’. I have never imposed either or any style on my kids, and they both dress completely differently from me and from each other. And both pretty quirky. Neither would say anything about anyone else’s clothes in a negative way, because I haven’t made clothes a big deal.

Bluewidow · 18/12/2018 17:48

Just let her choose herself and teach her to own her own look. Lots of posters here saying she should have jeans etc but does she want them? Is she really that bothered about clothes other than the comments that she got today? Don’t change her clothes unless she wants too. My 7 year old really doesn’t care for clothes. But when she does have to get some clothes she chooses
Them. 9/10 time she chooses a “boys” jumper as she doesn’t like pink and sparkly but she owns that look.

SweetheartNeckline · 18/12/2018 17:48

My DD is 7, there is a happy medium between pink and sparkly / mini adult and JJMB ("escapees from Enid Blyton" Grin ). We get a lot of stuff from Sainsburys and H&M. None of mine own jeans but dark leggings / treggings. Sequin reversible t shirts are a good way to do sparkle without being excessive. Boden also have some nice low key tops although I think £20 for leggings is too much so tend to put with plain ones.

Now that she's at school full time I actively want her to choose her own stuff as she is told what to wear for 32 hours a week!

If the issue is the nasty comments and your DD likes what she wears then that's different, however peer pressure is a real thing and it may genuinely have put her off her clothes (experience of this re the "Spiderman hats are for boys" debacle of winter 2016 - DD quite cheerfully announces that you don't need a willy to wear a spiderman hat and still has Star Wars tops etc but she's definitely been put off the specific clothes in question)

dustarr73 · 18/12/2018 17:49

Im not familiar with that shop op but it seems some of the clothes are very babyish.

I only have boys and my youngest 3 are so different.10 year old got his first pair of jeans a few weeks ago.Hes not to fussy.
9 year old is so fussy only wears certain clothes.Certain brands.
7 year old will wear anything to get outSmile

I dont think theres any harm in having a few sparkly bits.She is still finding her feet.I think Penneys [Primark]is quite good for kids clothes.

MrsKoala · 18/12/2018 17:50

I am surprised that they are like this at 6. DS1 is 6.3 and shows no interest in clothes at all. He doesn't even know what he's wearing. The girls in his class are pretty much dressed like your DD OP. 6 is so little. :(

CountFosco · 18/12/2018 17:51

The clothes you put her in wouldn't stand out round here for a 6yo, my DDs were in that kind of thing then. My eldest is 10 and has only shown a real interest in the last year, and that's mainly because she's rebelling against the 'fashion girls' in her class and so wears mainly baggy clothes in dark colours. The only glittery thing in her wardrobe is an AC/DC tshirt. Her 9yo sister has been interested in clothes for a bit longer and goes for clashing patterns. Favourite outfit is colourful tights, dungaree shorts, and a colourful patterned t-shirt. Both still like selected Boden (bit like their mother)!

6 is very young to have a completely free choice. At that age if they needed a skirt I'd show them some pre-selected skirts online to give them a choice but real shops were impossible because they would be overwhelmed. DS is 6 and as long as he's wearing shorts and some red he's happy!

notdancingbutplodding · 18/12/2018 17:59

We always say “weird is cool in our house”. DD is 12, hates jeans and clothes shopping. Not a problem.

RandomlyChosenName · 18/12/2018 18:02

Just to defend all the parents of the boys in bow ties... I know more than one boy who chooses to dress this way!

So long as it’s not highly inappropriate, let your child choose.

ForalltheSaints · 18/12/2018 18:05

Children may dress differently because of low parental income. Have a tactful word with the school.

MsTSwift · 18/12/2018 18:11

We have a fit in with everyone else one and a fashionista. Dd2 (9) has always had strong opinions on what to wear since she was a toddler, has extremely good taste and dresses very well but is quite bold. On her birthday for example we went out to breakfast she wore a jumpsuit pink fur coat and a tiara. The cafe owner did a deep bow which felt appropriate. I have a few friends in fashion who are quite impressed with dd2 style and teachers at school seek her out for her views on their outfits. My friends know when dd2 has been to play as their fashion magazines have obviously been read (I don’t get fashion magazines she is desperate to read them). God knows where this is from certainly not dh or I Grin

PivotPivotPIVOTTT · 18/12/2018 18:12

My 7 year old won't wear jeans she says they are uncomfortable. I also don't wear them as I find them so uncomfortable (this actually started when I was pregnant with her I haven't been able to wear them since!). Just looking at someone wearing jeans puts me on edge Blush.

She wear leggings or skirt/dress with tights. Most of her clothes are from Primark, Tesco/Asda and River Island. She loves shoes. Her favourites are any type of boot she is obsessed, vans, converse, superstars. In the summer she lives in vest tops/t-shirts, shorts, cotton dresses etc. She also has cropped top and legging sets for her gymnastics class. I even let her play out wearing them in the summer.

HauntedPencil · 18/12/2018 18:14

I think that JoJo might be a bit babyish for a 6 yo but I don't like seeing them dressed too old either.

I use jean leggings a lot they are very soft.

Sparkly can be nice too!

UncommonName · 18/12/2018 18:28

I kinda know the feeling, when my DD2 was 6 she came home from school upset that one of her friends told her that her hair was never done very good (basic ponytail) since then I've had to actually make effort in the mornings Hmm

DD1 (9) and DD2 (7) won't wear jeans they both say they're uncomfortable, they both very much like to choose that they wear. DD1 had her school Xmas party today, she knows all the girls dress up in pretty dresses every year which she usually likes to do, this year she refused, went to school in her Xmas jumper and leggings and still after school she was happy with her choice.

If she's happy with her clothes then that's fine but she's probably at an age where she'd like to have some input on what she wears.

blueskiesandforests · 18/12/2018 18:28

Reading this it strikes me that I don't think I've seen a child over 4 and under 15 in a skirt dress ever where I live. Only toddlers and teenagers seem to wear skirts or dresses. Everyone between 4 and 14 lives in jeans or leggings or team sportswear (their own team who they train with, not fan wear) or shorts in summer. What children post toddlerhood wear is virtually unisex - my 11 and 13 year olds are a boy and a girl but borrow one another's clothes...

One problem we did have was that jeans sold as "boys" are tougher wearing but less comfortable - girls jeans are often soft and comfortable but thinner and rip easily...

A lot of 7 year olds in my dc3's class live in leggings with a long top or long jumper, but never skirts or dresses. There is no school uniform.

I've only seen toddlers (boys and girls) in tights worn as underwear layers under snow trousers as the little kids run about in colourful wooly tights and t shirts indoors at kindergarten...

The little girls in ditzy tights and long dresses is very localised I suspect! Is it an English or a British or a UK or as wide as being and English speaking world fashion?

bigKiteFlying · 18/12/2018 18:36

My two DD don't like jeans that much - trousers, leggins and jeggings they have loads of.

They've had stong ideas about what to wear at very young ages - MIL buys them bits as well - so they have a real mix - some itmes that blend in with others and others that are unusal - and leave it to them what they wear though might suggest rethink for certain conditions.

May be try shopping again with her - or asking her what clothes on others she likes?

MattMagnolia · 18/12/2018 18:37

Current fashions for young girls are so ugly. They stop wearing school dresses at six and wear black and grey all year round. I hate to see little girls in black, like Victorians in mourning. SIL’s eight year old dresses like a hooker, in ripped denim shorts, fishnet tights and an off the shoulder top.

TeacupDrama · 18/12/2018 18:38

my DD is 9 and won't wear jeans finds them uncomfortable I think it is the hard bulky waistband so different from leggings, she has a pair of brushed cottony type straight leg trousers from Zara, they are the only trousers she will wear except leggings she loves skirts and dresses and has her own style she is a bit different but she likes to be different, she won't wear a track suit either, she is science and maths mad but does it in pink unicorn tops, or fluffy sweatshirts,
black and grey so won't wear them the rest of the time though she will wear blue just not the royal blue the school sweatshirts are

TeacupDrama · 18/12/2018 18:39

she maybe influenced by me as I wear a lot of colour if I'm in all black it's because of a funeral and I never wear jeans I think they are really uncomfortable too

erykahb · 18/12/2018 18:40

It sounds like she looked lovely today.

To other posters...
Kids in GAP Envy especially tacky gap logo hoodies

ChristmasTwatteryDoesMyHeadIn · 18/12/2018 18:40

I really, really dislike the comment comparing an 8 year old girl to a “hooker”. But then I dislike the word hooker too.

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