I dated a Non Binary person and it peaked me.

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Thought it might make an interesting AMA?

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My GC views now are based on the last 8 years of breaking down her behaviour and seeing how the movement progressed.

When we first broke up I was absolutely still an ally to our mutual trans friends.

It was not my relationship breakdown what that made me GC.

But it certainly smashed the rose coloured glasses.

It's only really the last 4 years I would say I was GC

And the last 2 years I'm a proud TERF.

I certainly don't hold all NB people accountable for my Exs actions or views.

But I've also not met any that don't agree with her views and when faced with me saying I felt I was a lesbian at that time, aren't in agreement with my ex, not me.

But I would say she 'peaked me' as her behaviour made me question things rather than blindly accept everything that had been put upon me thus far.

Up until we broke up I would have gone along with anything out of respect for her.

Once she broke up with me because I wouldn't introduce other people into our relationship I started to question the dynamics of the relationship, in so far as 'do NB have the final say in how somebody else identifies sexually if they feel its at odd with their own identity'

Beforehand I did agree. After I didn't.

So it was the beginning of the end, so to speak.

Trans and nonbinary are different.

Non binary people are not trans. They don't "transition" to anything.

"Non binary" is a gender identity which falls under the "transgender umbrella" according to trans rights advocates. The "transition" is supposedly from "cis" to "non binary".

Who are you saying that to?
Non binary people describe themselves as being under the 'trans umbrella'

They're transitioning away from a binary gender.

Or so they say.

Nonsense.

Nonbinary and trans are different. If you're going to be hateful at least get your facts straight.

OP is upset over pronouns. He clearly needs to read up more. He shouldn't have a relationship with a non binary person if he can't accept their choice of pronouns. Simple.

Excuse me. You've misgendered me.

I'm extremely triggered.

My ex was nonbinary but identified as trans.

She had a trans flag tattoo.

You're being extremly transphobic.

Nonbinary and trans are different. If you're going to be hateful at least get your facts straight.

In what sense are they different? They are both self declared "gender identities" at odds with a persons actual sex.

People like you using niche terms and language imprecisely.

And I don't care if the term DINK has been around since the 80s in certain contexts to whoever pulled me up on that.🙄 It's not in widespread general usage so people on here shouldn't use it to make themselves try to sound cool or knowledgeable.

Laughing away at some of the rude responses back to me on this thread.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I have a degree in English and am a former primary teacher, so I am confident I have a much wider understanding of the language and how to use it than any of you who think you are clever with your Google or explaining other acronyms back to me.

Mumsnet at its finest, eh?🤣

All the NB people I know refer to themselves as trans. NB comes under the trans umbrella.

Nonsense. This isn't the issue the issue was they were a self obsessed controlling arsehole.

Not sure why you are continuing to derail this thread. Most people clearly know what these acronyms stand for. If you don’t, you can easily google them instead of repeatedly posting such things. It’s not that big a deal.

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@Sunquest In other words, you see EVERYTHING as 'anti trans' even when it's not, and you're so far brainwashed you have your mind closed to information that might make you see things in a new light, and you run scared from facts, views and information that doesn't fit your narrow echo chamber. It seems you're anti-thinking and anti-reality and anti-open mind.

You've clearly been living under a sheltered rock, @CremeEggThief . 'Peaking' has been around for years and is in common usage. It's not our fault you've lived a sheltered life and don't understand common English terms.

You have a choice. Learn about new things, their associated vocabulary and engage in conversation about them, or don’t bother.

You don’t get to lecture other people about language they understand perfectly well, because you can’t be arsed to learn anything new.

I'm a teacher too. Sometimes there are colloquialisms or new (or not so new) phrases that any of us might not have come across. It's not hard to just ask. That's how we learn new language. Sorry if that sounds patronising, but really it was your initial responses that started the rudeness. Accusing people of trying to sound cool or clever (or whatever it was you said) for using expressions that you hadn't heard of - that's an unusual attitude for a former teacher tbh.

I know I'm behind the curve but I'm still trying to work out what peak/peaked means. I always thought 'peak mumsnet' meant 100% typical of what you would expect from someone on mumsnet. But I don't know if that's correct and if so how does that relate to 'peaked' in the OP's title? I looked up the slang meaning and it seems to mean 'bad' but I'm still not getting it. Does peak mumsnet mean bad mumsnet? Does being peaked mean you've turned bad/against something?

Peak Mumsnet is the very height of Mumsnet, like the height of politeness or the height of rudeness- it couldn’t be any more Mumsnet if it tried!

“I peaked when I saw a 50yr old man competing and changing with girls in a swimming gala.”

-it was getting very hard to accept trans ideology, and the peak of ridiculousness came with that bloke at the swimming gala.

• I’d been desperately trying to be kind as successive difficulties arose at work, to do with the bathrooms, promotions, and pulling their weight. When they asked to borrow a tampon, I peaked.

“A degree in English and a former primary school teacher.” 🙄

I’m embarrassed for you. 😂

Thanks for that.

You would think so, but actually they fall under the so called 'trans umbrella'.

About peaked, is it just a variant spelling of piqued (as in to be angry or resentful)?