I dated a Non Binary person and it peaked me.

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Thought it might make an interesting AMA?

Sounds like my ex! 'Non-binary'... (didn't like us being addressed as 'ladies') then 'poly' (after she'd cheated!) and from what I learned through therapy after the traumatic (for me, not her) breakup, raging fucking narcissist. They do tend to go together.

Most people understand peaked.

Never.

She liked having a girlfriend. Think it made her feel 'manlier'.

Not at all. Men are a category of human being represented by about 50% of the population. Non-binary is a made up identity.

Peaking is a fairly standard term in the trans debate. I would expect most people on MN to know its meaning.

Welcome aboard!

No seriously, I can’t imagine what it must be like being with a person who is supposed to be your partner on equal terms but having to police your language and how you define yourself because of them.

Were you part of a community and did you find yourself alone when you split up? I mean, does it start to feel like a cult that you’ve escaped?

I don't have any ties to the LGBTQ community now and I'm 100 x times happier. That's sad isn't it :(

It was very cliquey, very bitchy.

I'm now happily married to a man and lost most of my gay friends when I openly posted about being GC.

Ironically I see alot of them now turning the tide (they gay ones) and agreeing about some of the things I was vilified for saying years ago.

Young urban professional actually. Upwardly mobile was a later interpretation.

Really glad you’re happy - I do get the impression that the community is populated by people like your partner, certainly from my cohort of uni student groups of the last few years - all bitchy, self-centred and oversensitive. The friendships are all very one-sided and conditional upon you accepting them unconditionally!

You may find a few reaching out over the next few years, as they see the light, but hopefully you don’t need them now. :)

Thank you for sharing here.

In OP's defence, DINK has been around for decades, like YUPPIE and NIMBY. Nothing to do with MN.
She sounds pretty awful OP - put it down to a lucky escape.

DINK has been bog standard English for around 40 years....

non binary=neither one thing nor another.

Should be pique.

'Pique is a verb meaning 'arouse or stimulate', as in pique your interest, or 'make someone angry or annoyed''

It's TERFS and Gender critical and such that get me, no idea who's on what side of the argument a lot of the time, whole new vocabulary.

No, they mean peak as in; reached the peak of buying into the trans ideology and then is back on the way down to reality as realised how nonsensical it is. Not pique, as OP was clearly already interested as she was already in a relationship with someone who was trans! Her interest was piqued years before she was peaked.

Or, that’s how I always read it. Happy to be wrong!

I'm now happily married to a man and lost most of my gay friends when I openly posted about being GC.

Similar happened to me although a lot of years ago. I dated only women for my 20s, I tried to come out as bisexual in my teens but told bisexuals didn't exist and I had to choose a side, which was fine for a bit, but then I got into a relationship with a man (which was a disaster) but all my lesbian friends disowned me. I sort of understand where it came from, but it was incredibly painful and part of the reason I stayed in the abusive relationship because I felt I'd burnt all my boats elsewhere and so I had to make it work.

It’s not pique. The OP did mean peak.

verb

1. reach a highest point, either of a specified value or at a specified time.
2. "the disease peaked in summer"

She means that she came to a highest point of ‘trans allyship’ and the change in her perspective meant she came back down the other side to a very different place than the journey she started.

Her interest in supporting trans activism and trans ideology was the opposite of piqued.

Yep. As in, ‘I’ve reached peak trans’.

Ok then, "I dated someone who likes books. I now hate the concept of books, AMA". My point is, you can't judge all people in a certain category because of a bad ex. Much as many on Mumsnet absolutely love this thread, it's only because it's "confirming" their own misguided views.

"Books" is a tangible concept that makes sense.

LOL at the idea that it's "misguided" to not believe in "non binary" gender.

Except the OP isn't just talking about one person, she's describing a whole culture that the one person is immersed in.

Very disingenuous to make such a comparison, and I think you know that. It’d be more accurate to say “I dated someone who thought she was a book, went along with it to be kind, but now no longer think people can be books”. It’s nothing to do with “hating” people.

But do you accept that you can't judge an entire section of people by your ex (and the people they are friends with)? Or is everyone really that far gone 🙄

OP has said that her ex wasn't the sole "non binary" person she has come into contact with. She said in response to my question that the number is around 20.

I've already answered this.

RTFT.