I'm a SAHM AMA

[MotherPiglet]

Go!

But so are a huge percentage of the users of Mn...?

And a lot work full time or part time, what's your question?

Please share your spectacularly unique experiences as a SAHM?

How do you manage finances with your DH?

Why are you a SAHM? Are you married?

OP - Lol I was going to you what is the point!? Ask you anything re. your unique experience of being a SAHM? Lol

Are you saying that a lot of SAHM's also work outside of the home in FT and PT jobs?

How do u feel in lockdown ? Do you feel validated that many of the sneery mums who work and pretend being at home with kids is a breeze, do u feel validated that all mums are saying how hard it is? Even the ones on furlough, secured financially but looking after kids?

@1ForAllnAllFor1

How do you manage finances with your DH?

We have a monthly personal budget each that we have agreed to. Food shopping / things for the house / bills etc all come from different budgets. I have a set amount to do things with DC and also money for myself if I need anything, as does he.

Will you go back to work once children are independent?

If so will you have decent employment opportunities still open to you?

Do you mind being fully reliant on your husband?

Does this cause any resentment from him?

@AnneLovesGilbert

Why are you a SAHM? Are you married?

Married for 7 years, SAHM to a 2 year old. I never pictured myself as a SAHM, but when the opportunity arose, and my DH was happy for me to, I wanted to give it a go and honestly really love it. I know it isnt for everyone.

@BubblyBluePebbles

OP - Lol I was going to you what is the point!? Ask you anything re. your unique experience of being a SAHM? Lol

Are you saying that a lot of SAHM's also work outside of the home in FT and PT jobs?

Lol no, I was saying alot of other MN users work FT/PT. I never said I have a unique experience, I was giving people the opportunity to ask questions.

Will you be using the free nursery hours when little one turns 3 - and if so will you be spending the time on hobbies / housework / part time work?
Or do you think you’ll have another baby by then :)

I'm SAHM too, youngest is now 12.
Can't imagine returning to work tbh. We own our house outright and have no debts thankfully. I love it! Certainly don't miss my very stressful job.
Good luck op.

Would you go back to work if your DH wanted to have some time as the SAHP?

@1ForAllnAllFor1

How do u feel in lockdown ? Do you feel validated that many of the sneery mums who work and pretend being at home with kids is a breeze, do u feel validated that all mums are saying how hard it is? Even the ones on furlough, secured financially but looking after kids?

Absolutely not. I've found lockdown very hard and cried lots. I'm not sure anyone has found lockdown easy.

Are you paying your NI?
What are your pension arrangements (interested in that one for myself! We’re investing in Vanguard at the mo which I don’t think is sufficient)?
Do you plan to be SAHM forever more?

I’m a SAHM to 5 and 2.5 year old, bloody love it!!

@Rebelwithallthecause

Will you go back to work once children are independent?

If so will you have decent employment opportunities still open to you?

Do you mind being fully reliant on your husband?

Does this cause any resentment from him?

As it stands currently, there is no plan for me to go back to work when DC are independent but of course circumstances change so who knows. Once DC is at school, I would like to do some courses to keep my brain active and aware of what is available still.

I don't mind being reliant, as we are a team. It was my DHs idea for me to be a SAHM. No he doesnt resent me. He loves that I'm with DC every day and really appreciates it as he knows it isnt always easy.

Wow @BubblyBluePebbles has issues 😳😂

I’m a SAHM too. I struggle to motivate myself quite a lot, got any tips?

Do you plan to have more DC? How many?

How old are you?

Do you have any time away from your DC (pre lockdown) e.g. nursery, creche, family support?

@PinkDaffodil2

Will you be using the free nursery hours when little one turns 3 - and if so will you be spending the time on hobbies / housework / part time work? Or do you think you’ll have another baby by then :)

Yes we'll be using the free hours to help get him ready for school and used to being away from me a bit more.

Hopefully, I will have another baby then but if not I'll be using that time to clean the house initially until the routine settles as anyone who has young children knows it's hard cleaning and tidying with them, even when they try and help ha and it will help to free up our weekend.

@HousesforChickens

I'm SAHM too, youngest is now 12. Can't imagine returning to work tbh. We own our house outright and have no debts thankfully. I love it! Certainly don't miss my very stressful job. Good luck op.

That's so great to hear! Have you ever felt judged as a SAHM? I always feel like people are judging and dont really understand why I'm not working...

@Parker231

Would you go back to work if your DH wanted to have some time as the SAHP?

Potentially, but the only way we can afford for me to do this is because of his job. My wage was a third of his before I left work so we would certainly have to make some adjustments and potentially move house again in order to do this.

I was a SAHM for 12 years, absolutely loved it, we had a comfortable lifestyle with no financial worries and I never felt 'judged' by anyone.

However I absolutely made sure I paid my NI contributions and was well aware that if my marriage broke up I would be in a difficult position. I did return to the job market and although I found a job that I love - it doesn't pay anything like the salary I earned before.

With hindsight, it was not a good decision to be a SAHM for economic reasons.

@Phthalo

Are you paying your NI? What are your pension arrangements (interested in that one for myself! We’re investing in Vanguard at the mo which I don’t think is sufficient)? Do you plan to be SAHM forever more?

I’m a SAHM to 5 and 2.5 year old, bloody love it!!

I believe so BUT that's something I need to check because we have a feeling we missed something when I left work. We get Married Tax Allowance since I left work.

I've not really got a pension plan at the minute, my pensions from work definitely arent enough. Its certainly something I need to think about and look into.

Yes I plan to SAHM forever. So pleased to hear you love it, I genuinely think this is the best decision I've ever made. Majority of my friends work and just dont get I wouldn't want to work ha.

@Waitingforboristoletusfree

Wow *@BubblyBluePebbles* has issues 😳😂

I’m a SAHM too. I struggle to motivate myself quite a lot, got any tips?

😂

I've been unmotivated during lockdown, it was such a sudden change to routine and I've found it really tough. I've motivated myself this week by doing some invitations to play so DS has something different to play with and experience. Hes really love it and the laughs and smiles have said it all really. I try to tidy and clean as I go but of course that slips sometimes so we end up getting on top of that on a weekend but we make sure the kitchen is clean every night, because toddlers and food 🤷‍♀️😂

Sorry I have no tips as such, I'd love to hear them if you find some!