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ex prostitute here ask me anything
Opheliah · 02/07/2018 13:59
Has this one been done yet?
I am not Belle de Jour.
Opheliah · 02/07/2018 15:07
I probably chose the wrong time now everyone's bored of these ama posts 
IfyouseeRitaMoreno · 02/07/2018 15:08
That’s ok. I’ll ask. Did you form relationships with your clients?
LanguidLobster · 02/07/2018 15:09
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Opheliah · 02/07/2018 15:28
Did you enjoy it sometimes
Hello 
Well I enjoyed the money all the times because it was far above what I could make doing other work.
The sex, I can count on one hand the amount of times the sex was enjoyable.
Opheliah · 02/07/2018 15:31
Did you form relationships with your clients?
No.
This reminds me though, I worked with a WG who's client used to wait until she'd finished work so that he could take her home and they used to meet outside of work but the whole thing was really "stalker" ish. Men who want relationships with prostitutes are strange.
LanguidLobster · 02/07/2018 15:35
Opheliah I think there are quite a few around. Seems to be a tangle of protectiveness and sex
DearMrDilkington · 02/07/2018 15:36
Has any of the men suddenly become violent or abusive? I worry about how WGs are treated by some of the clients.
If so, did it happen often?
Opheliah · 02/07/2018 15:36
Was it worth it? it served a purpose.
Do you genuinely climax from sleeping with these men?
The weirdest thing for me was how the men actually expect you to climax.
You can't come with someone you don't fancy. You fake it but they have to convince themselves you did orgasm to in part ease their conscience and in part affirm a sense of sexual desirability that they obviously lack through need of hiring a sex worker.
DearMrDilkington · 02/07/2018 15:37
Also, did a woman ever book in to see you or were all the clients male?
ReggieKrayDoYouKnowMyName · 02/07/2018 15:37
Did you encounter a lot of men who wanted to be violent with you?
Starlightjazz · 02/07/2018 15:40
Yeah it would be impossible if you don’t fancy them. It’s their egos wanting that reassurance.
PretABoire · 02/07/2018 15:41
Did they ever talk about their girlfriends or wives? What kind of things would they say - was there any guilt, or blame?
Antonia87 · 02/07/2018 15:44
Some feminists believe that men should be prosecuted for using prostitutes and that sex work can never been seen as a legitimate job as it is born of the patriarchy and that men should be taught that they cannot buy women's bodies. Studies show that the vast majority of sex workers have been abused as children and /or are addicted to drugs so men are just taking advantage of already victimised women. What are your thoughts?
Opheliah · 02/07/2018 15:49
How did you get into that line of work?
Quite simply I was 17 it was 1997 (before the internet) so I just replied to an advert in the papers looking for masseuses which said something like "no experience required excellent wage". After chatting they explained I needed to provide a "full personal service" and if I worked in could earn X amount, and they would advertise me as 18yo.
I worked at the massage parlour for a couple of years, then left to do normal work, did some escorting in my early 20's then stopped did creative paud work/travel etc, then late twenties early 30's was sex working again in a far more modern Internet driven industry.
Opheliah · 02/07/2018 15:56
Has any of the men suddenly become violent or abusive?
Not with me thankfully but I have heard horror stories from WGs I know.
Opheliah · 02/07/2018 16:05
What was the weirdest sexual request you received?
There have been a few but one role play person wanted to act out walking in on me masturbating. Then as the session went on it was clear he was imagining that I was his daughter he'd walked in on...
Another man wanted me to take off his frilly knickers and he kept saying to me "f*k me like you would f*k a girl" so unsure what he meant exactly I sort of jabbed my fingers upwards in between his balls a lot and licked his hairy nipples...
But really most bookings are quite normal apart from the ones who try to take off the condom which is quite common.
Opheliah · 02/07/2018 16:19
Did they ever talk about their girlfriends or wives?
No not at all, but they do talk about their children and their jobs. So you get a sense of when they're married based on what they say about their children while managing to not mention their mother at all.
Most men pay for sex to imagine they're free and single again and mentioning the wife ruins that illusion.
Tailfeather · 02/07/2018 16:23
Do you have a healthy relationship with men or had it affected your view of them?
UtterlyDesperate · 02/07/2018 16:26
I knew someone who claimed that WG would prefer to have a client like him, who tried to give her pleasure too, to one who was just out for his own pleasure: what's your opinion on this?
(Fwiw, I told him I thought anyone providing a sexual service would prefer it to be over quickly over a faux mutual experience, but I was too taken aback to be tactful...)
BonnieF · 02/07/2018 16:29
Hi OP,
Did many of your clients tell you they were paying for your services because their wives no longer wanted sex after having children?
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