Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

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elcarmen Tue 03-Jul-18 14:55:35

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

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Excited101 Tue 03-Jul-18 14:57:08

I’m assuming this is a reverse... not of course you can’t ask her to dye her hair or uninvite her!

MikeUniformMike Tue 03-Jul-18 14:57:08

Dye yours pink to match.

Trinity66 Tue 03-Jul-18 14:57:43

I'm kind of torn, I mean it really wouldn't bother me at all but the timing of dying her hair an odd colour does seem calculated aswell.

BaldricksTrousers Tue 03-Jul-18 14:57:56

Why did you ask a woman you obviously dislike to be your bridesmaid?

JustCallMeDory Tue 03-Jul-18 14:57:57

This has to be a wind up?

JenBarber Tue 03-Jul-18 14:58:41

Cool story, bro.


henpeckedinchief Tue 03-Jul-18 14:58:56

This is a reverse and I hate reverses 😭

YANBU to refuse to dye your hair back and the bride sounds like an awful bitch. But YABU for doing a reverse because they are manipulative and on something like this everyone would agree with you anyway! No one is going to support the bride here! Just be honest!

finnmcool Tue 03-Jul-18 14:59:11

If you already knew that about her and you think her hair is about standing out, why did you ask her to be bridesmaid?
From the sounds of it, you would have been expecting something like this

heatwave2018 Tue 03-Jul-18 14:59:22

I think pink is a lovely hair colour. If you are that pathetic to worry about your bridesmaid hair colour then get rid of her as a bridesmaid else deal with it! Simple! hmm

blacksax Tue 03-Jul-18 14:59:49

she is incredibly self-centred and always wants the attention to be focused on herself
Why did you ask her to be your bridesmaid?

BigGrannyPants Tue 03-Jul-18 15:00:07

YABU it's none of your fucking business what colour her hair is.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo Tue 03-Jul-18 15:00:12

Get the rest to dye theirs different colours and lie on top of each other. You dye yours gold and wear a black dress. You can be the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

Knittedfairies Tue 03-Jul-18 15:00:35

No of course you can’t ask/tell her to dye it back, or dis-invite her. You surely wouldn’t have asked someone other than a friend or relative to be your bridesmaid - you wanted her there. Yes, she will ‘stick out’ in the photos....but not in a good way.

NewYearNewMe18 Tue 03-Jul-18 15:01:02

Dos it match her frock?
Cant you all dye your hair poodle pink?

Givemeallyourcucumber Tue 03-Jul-18 15:01:05

It does seem suspicious if you know she is an attention seeker. What a conundrum! It seems unreasonable to ask her to dye her hair but at the same time if she did it on purpose its unreasonable of her to think she can be so darn right up herself!

Ask yourself this..

If she always had pink hair would you have ever asked her to be your bridesmaid?

Seasawride Tue 03-Jul-18 15:01:08

I want to come to this wedding!

xoguineas Tue 03-Jul-18 15:01:16

YABU she can do what she likes with her hair.

Winosaurus Tue 03-Jul-18 15:01:18

Tbf I had copper red hair for a while before my brother got married, his lovely wife asked me to be bridesmaid and picked hot pink dresses. I knew my hair would clash so I dyed it blonde for the wedding (which actually looked really nice on me so I ended up staying blonde - still am 5 years later!)
I personally didn’t want to look a dick

TaleasoldasTimee Tue 03-Jul-18 15:01:27

The bride WBU to ask you to dye it back however I think any bridesmaid that dyes their hair bright pink a week before the wedding is an attention seeking sick. Everyone will know it too.

henpeckedinchief Tue 03-Jul-18 15:02:05

Get the rest to dye theirs different colours and lie on top of each other. You dye yours gold and wear a black dress. You can be the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.


GameOldBirdz Tue 03-Jul-18 15:02:35

She sounds awesome, can I come?

RebelRogue Tue 03-Jul-18 15:02:50

Does she have a habit of dyeing her hair like this?

viques Tue 03-Jul-18 15:02:59

You could ask the photographer to only take black and white photos.....

TaleasoldasTimee Tue 03-Jul-18 15:03:05


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